I have been married to a strong woman for 10 years, and have to say it’s been an amazing journey. I have learned so much about myself and more importantly learned so much about my wife, Sharon.
Sharon is strong minded, quick witted, intelligent, funny and assertive, and that can be a lot to handle for a man, however we compliment each other perfectly which is why our marriage has worked so well and continues to get stronger..
But, not all men can handle a strong woman, so I thought I would write an article on the things you should expect when dating a strong woman.
9 Things to Expect When Dating a Strong Woman
1. She won’t play games
Don’t expect the usual game playing at the start of the relationship. You either like her and call her or just get out of her life. Strong women have no time for the game playing, so no need to wait the 2 days before calling her. Also, don’t do the ‘I’ll make her jealous by having female friends’ if you do, you’re dumped, as she sees it as juvenile and a waste of her time.
2. She doesn’t want a man who is indecisive
Don’t expect the usual conversations about where to go when you are going out: ‘I don’t know where to go, where would you like to go out?’ That’s just not going to cut it with her. If you’re taking her out, then she will expect that YOU are taking her out and have made the decision, booked the restaurant, or theatre and know where you’re going for drinks afterwards.
She’s probably in a stressful job and making decisions all day, and her time away from work is about her and she doesn’t want to always be the strong one outside of work as well.
When she’s taking you out, expect the night to be well planned, and expect a great tiem.
3. She will want a real conversation
If you’re gossiping or complaining about the people at your work then be prepared for an icy cold stare and a few choice words. Strong women like to be intellectually stimulated, and mindless chatter about mundane things just won’t cut it with her.
4. Respect is a big priority
Getting respect and being respectful is a big priority in her life, so don’t expect to act like a jerk and get away with it, no three strikes and you’re out here, you’ll be out on your first strike.
5. She will always expect follow through
If you say you’re going to do something, then you better make sure you follow through and do what you say you’re going to do. She thinks there’s nothing worse than a man who makes a decision and doesn’t stick to his decision to do something. If there’s no follow through then expect a grilling about it.
6. She hates men with no ambition
If you lack motivation and have no ambition in your life, forget about her. To her there’s nothing worse than a man who lacks ambition, it’s ugly, and shows her you don’t really have a plan for life. To her setting goals and achieving them is what life is all about.
7. She will expect loyalty at all times
Loyalty is another key trait she admires in a man. Once she commits to you she will be the most loyal person in the world, but she will expect loyalty back on all levels. Never ever side with someone else in public, never jokingly put her down, never disrespect her in public (In private she can handle you herself). What you can expect in return is loyalty, and we’re talking Godfather loyalty here: she’ll defend you to the hilt in public, woe betide anybody who says anything bad about you, she sing you’re praises behind your back.
8. She won’t settle for a night in all the time
Don’t expect to get a carry out every weekend and have a nice cosy cuddle on the couch. Her mind needs stimulation. However, don’t think you have to go mountain biking and kayaking every weekend, as a quiet night in will work sometimes.
9. Expect a lifetime of loyalty, love and excitement
If you are strong enough to handle a strong woman then you can expect a lifetime of passion, love, excitement, and loyalty. You won’t find a better friend, a better lover and a better mentor than the strong woman you’re dating or married to.
Don’t get confused with dating an aggressive woman, this is totally different from a strong woman. Strong women are assertive, but never aggressive and never passive. If you accidentally start dating an aggressive woman, then you’ll soon know the difference between a strong woman and an aggressive woman.
Now you might think you’ll have to be this weak man who always defers to the woman’s wishes – DON’T EVEN THINK LIKE THAT. The strong woman will need you to be just as strong, just as ambitious, just as passionate, just as loyal, and just as loving as her, if you’re not, the relationship won’t last at all.