Jealousy. The ugly green monster. The animal that no one wants to talk about, but everyone knows is present. It's like the elephant in the room. Don't look at it, don't talk to it, just ignore it and maybe, just maybe it will go away.
But it doesn't. It sits in the corner. It taunts you. You wish it would disappear and never come back. The way it makes you feel is just plain old shitty. Who invited it here this time? Was it an ex co-worker, a friend, your spouse, the neighbour? You know exactly who invited it in. You did. Without even knowing or realizing it, you opened that door and he snuck in. The question now is; how do we get rid of him? The answers will surprise you; it's not as hard as you think.
Below are 5 simple ways to deal with jealousy next time it shows up.
1. Acknowledge your talents.
If you think someone is smarter than you, you're wrong. We are all super smart at very different things. Someone who is stellar in geography might be really horrible in science. It doesn't make them smarter or better, they just know something different. Don't think that someone is better than you at baking pies just because you can't bake good pies. Maybe you make a mean chicken loaf. Who knows? It doesn't matter. What matters is that we are all gifted with amazing qualities and skills. Acknowledge yours.
2. You are enough.
Exactly the way you are. You are smart enough, good enough , beautiful enough, funny enough, you get the idea. Whatever you have to offer your family, friends or the world, is exactly enough. What you offer, no one else can because no one is you. Your offerings are unique to you and it is enough for someone.
3. Someone admires you more than you know.
If you ever thought you weren't beautiful enough, there is another person who looks at you and thinks you are absolutely gorgeous. If you think you aren't interesting, there is a person out there who hangs on every word you say an d gets what you're talking about. They love listening to you and you may even be inspiring them. If you have any insecurities about any part of you, remember that someone somewhere adores you.
4. Let's talk.
The best way to deal with the ugly green monster may very well be to talk it out with the person you are feeling this jealousy towards. This will be easy if it's a friend, family member or maybe even a co-worker. Talking things out is always number one on the list of tips of tricks to deal with a negative situation. When you talk to the person you are feeling jealous towards they may give you a totally different perspective, one you never thought about, and your jealousy will quickly dissipate.
5. Write it out.
Whenever you have any sort of toxic or negative energy buried inside of you, the first thing you should do is look at ways to release it. Whether it be talk to somebody about it, talk to yourself about it or maybe even journal about it. Whichever method you choose, you definitely need to look at ways to get rid of it instead of it sitting and stewing in your heart, mind and soul and wreaking havoc.
Holding on to any kind of toxicity does you no good. The only person you are harming is yourself. It is of the utmost importance to figure out ways to release toxic energy as soon as it appears. Find out where it's coming from, deal with it and let it go. It may not be easy, bu t it is certainly not impossible and absolutely necessary. We are here to live a life of joy, not misery.