Everything seems fine. Sort of. You love your new partner. There are a few warning signs, red flags if you will, but we brush them off. We don’t want to think there is something wrong with the person we chose to love and spend our time with. I mean, the dating scene is scary to say the least and this person isn’t so bad.
You don’t think anything odd of your partner’s behavioural fluctuations. Things are tough right now; life, work, kids, family, aging parents, what have you. You never once stopped to think that chances are your partner just may be a sociopath. Your friends have subtly mentioned it but you laughed it off. Shrugged it away. But are they right? Could they be right? Is your partner a sociopath? Here are 10 warning signs that may suggest he/she is.
And we don’t mean they are happy one day and then sad the next. We’re talking Jekyll and Hyde split personality. So scary that you actually feared for your safety more than once. One minute they love you and you are the best thing in the world, and the next minute they are spewing venom at you.
2. Nothing is their fault, ever.
They are continuously blaming other people for anything and everything that has ever gone wrong. They never assume responsibility for their actions. If they need someone to blame for something, chances are it will be you.
3. They lie all the time.
Not just big lies but little white lies too. It’s a constant thing with them. You never know from one minute to the next if they are telling the truth or not and when you try to call them out on it, well, they insist they aren’t lying and blame your suspicions on you.
4. They move fast.
Real fast. They meet you, like you, tell you that you are everything they have been looking for in a partner, they sweep you off your feet and want to either move in or get married. Like, right away.
5. They are very charming.
So much so that sometimes you feel like you are in a deep passionate love movie. They dote on your every move and word. They say all the right things and give you complete undivided attention. Who wouldn’t want to be adored like that? Beware, they are so charming it’s almost unnatural.
6. Pity party time.
They will manipulate you with the story of how they were abandoned or nobody loved them. Their pity party is intense and it is meant to be. Their main goal is to lure you in and make sure you never think of leaving.
7. Selfishness and attention seeking.
They want things to be all about them. They don’t care about you or your feelings. If something terrible is happening, it’s happening to them and it’s all about them, even if it isn’t.
8. Play on your emotions.
One minute you think they love you, the next minute they are online flirting with an ex and then telling you to stop being jealous and accuse you of being ridiculous. Don’t try to call them out on that. It will be your fault and you are overreacting.
9. Colour me bored.
The once passionate and non stop attention they use to shower you with has now turned to them almost completely ignoring you and acting like they are bored with you. And of course, it’s all your fault. They rarely pay any attention to you these days but don’t try to bring it up in conversation. They don’t want to hear a word about it. It’s up to you to change things if you don’t like it, not them.
10. Who am I?
You don’t really recognize yourself anymore. You were once a robust, fun and outgoing person and now you feel like a zombie. A body, a shell, no emotions and your heart is null and void. You don’t know what to believe anymore and everything you do is wrong.
If you recognize any of these signs in your partner it’s time to either bolt or seek professional help for you or both of you or them, if they are open to it. Chances are, they might not be. You need to look after yourself and your happiness. If it’s time to go, then so be it. Something better is waiting for you, guaranteed.