Whether you've been together for a lifetime or you just started dating, the way your partner treats you, or you them, will be the make or break of your happiness. Yes, we seek happiness from inside but you shouldn't have to dig deeper because your partner is making you miserable or mistreating you. In all of our relationships, respect should be first and foremost. Sadly, that's not always the case.
But how do we know if we are being treated like an option? Things seem to be going ok. We do recognize some signs but for the most part they can be reasoned away. So what are the true tell tale signs that maybe we are missing?
They don't wait for you or on you. You are pretty much non existent when it comes to plans or events or things. You do all the planning and whether you're ready or not, they are gone.
2. Your texts and phone messages now go unanswered.
Remember in the beginning, when you got a reply within 3 seconds? Now you're lucky if you get any reply at all. Your messages and calls no longer have the same importance they use to. They aren't so happy to hear from you anymore.
3. The excuses start flying.
Why they can't go out, don't want to go out, don't want to spend time with you. And the other ones, why they are late, why they forgot an important date. You and your dates, such as birthday and anniversary dates no longer mean much to them. They don't even mark them on the calendar anymore.
4. Interest is lacking.
They no longer seem to care to be around you and when they are, they clearly show their lack of interest. Nothing seems to make them laugh and smile like they used to. Their feeling of boredom is quite evident. They don't even hide it anymore and could not care any less about your feelings towards that.
5. They don't make plans with you anymore.
If you two are going out, you are making the plans and setting up the meetings with friends and they, begrudgingly just go along. They show no desire to go anywhere with you anymore but they are quite happy to go out on their own with their own friends.
6. You are expected to get things ready for everything.
If you are having a dinner party, or planning a trip or any sort event or outing, you're doing the all the preparation. They are just not into it, at all, and would be just as happy to stay home alone or go out with their friends. If you want to go somewhere and want to have a good time, maybe it's best to just leave them at home.
7. They are starting to lie.
Even about silly little things that generally don't make much difference but to them, they just don't want you to know. Period. With the lying comes secrecy. That's starting to happen now too. You seem to have to question almost every thing.
8. You are simply starting to feel unloved, under appreciated and unhappy.
When these feelings start coming up, something has to change, or something has changed and it's not good. You should always feel loved and when you don't, perhaps it's time to discuss and see if something can be fixed, or it could be time to move on.
9. They really only call when they want something, and not necessarily to spend time with you.
They know that when they call you, you will jump high and do whatever it is they want. Taking advantage of you is nothing to them and they have already started doing that.
10. Control is beginning to rear its ugly head.
They are taking control an d don't care what you think or what you want to do. It's not about you and your interests anymore. It's not even about trying to make you happy. They don't really care about that much either. They are doing what they want, and you better like it.
If you recognize many of these signs in your partner, either discuss it or pack it up. You should never be treated like an option, nobody should, and everyone deserves to be loved, appreciated and happy.