About Steven AitchisonSelf worth comes from within, you won’t find it by having more money, having more friends, having a fancy car or a big house. It is something intrinsic and something we can’t gain extrinsically, meaning we won’t find self worth from external factors. Here are some things you can do to increase your feeling of self worth.
29 Ways to increase your feeling of self worth
- Write down 7 minor goals for the week and tick one off each day as you achieve it.
- Read a book a month. Reading a book is actually an achievement in this technology and media driven world and reading a full book is a great way to achieve a sense of accomplishment.
- At the end of each day before falling asleep write down something you feel proud about, either on the day or in the past.
- Tell someone else how much you appreciate them, being able to be open and honest is great for self worth.
- Say no! Learn the skill of saying no without offending the person asking.
- Everything you do, do to the best of your ability even if it cleaning the toilets or something equally as mundane, develop a reputation as someone who takes pride in their work.
- Walk tall and proud. walk as if you’ve got somewhere to go and you need to be there now, never run just walk tall and quickly.
- Dress as smart as you can for each occasion, whether it be work, meeting a friend, or going for an interview. Take pride in your appearance.
- Do something for yourself every day.
- Learn a new skill or take up something you’ve always wanted to and stick with it.
- Speak up for yourself in every area of your life, this might be hard to do at first but the first time you do it will be immense and if you carry on your self esteem and feelings of self worth will soar.
- Sing at the top of your voice, not outside but in the house and really give it loads (I love singing Free Fallin’ by Tom Petty and the Heartbreakers at the top of my voice, ah! such a good feeling.)
- Forgive yourself! (You know what I mean)
- Get rid of the people who are dragging you down (I don’t mean kill them, I mean just stop having them in your life.)
- Work on your strengths. A lot of people focus on building up their weaknesses, instead get better at what you are good at.
- Take a walk in the rain………..Why?………..because you have the power to decide!
- Listen to other people and what they are saying.
- Reward your successes. As soon as you achieve something reward yourself.
- Never let anyone force you to break your core values.
- Stop the gossiping!
- Don’t read a newspaper for a week and gauge how you feel about yourself and the world around you.
- Help other people who need it.
- Always, Always, Always be honest with yourself and others. There is no need for lies and the energy it takes to continue a lie is unbelievable.
- Take a chance and take a risk or two. You don’t have long to live so just get up and do it.
- Listen to your self talk and slap the little person criticising you, I mean it, imagine there are two people one on each shoulder, the one who criticises you give them a slap or a punch in the mouth and start to pay attention to the one who is praising you.
- Don’t be afraid to accept help from other people, it means they respect you enough to help you with something.
- Start changing your thinking to be more optimistic about yourself, instead of ‘…I can’t do that….’ say ‘..I’ve never tried it, but I’ll give it a go…’
- Face your fears. Nothing will send your self esteem soaring more so than facing your fears and eventually conquering them.
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#5 #13 #14 #20 priceless!
# 4 was great too! As always sir your blog posts are a great and rare find! And of course here is to #29! LOL
Have an excellent day!
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Hi Steve, nice list. What an amazing coincidence, my June 1 newsletter (went out yesterday) was called “The Perception of Self-Worth.” It’s an issue that many people struggle with and I am sure this list includes something for everyone. Two of my top picks are #13 and #22, both are incredibly powerful. Thanks for this.
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Good post, life is more then just money or being popular. I like #16, #14 is hard for me.
#9 anf #22 I feel are very important, you have to feel good inside to get the best out of yourself and the world around you.
Do something for yourself, something nice, have some time, it will be worth the effort, you can change your whole outlook on life, then with your new outlook, find others that you could help, brighten their day, probably wont take much, and in return you will receive a huge emotional boost knowing that you have made the effort to improve someone elses life.
This is like a snowball effect [ is it snowball or avalanche effect, I never know ] the more you do the better it gets.
As for me #5,6,17,19,20,22,23 and especially 28!Oh and number 29 is a rule! Thanks a lot for the list.
Love the list – many good ideas here!
#28 is my favourite: face your fears. When I break them down and approach them with a plan I realize that whatever they were, they weren’t so big and scary.
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Awesome its a brilliant Article,
5.Say no! Learn the skill of saying no without offending the person asking.
was the best:) keep you the great work:)
Hi Steve,
I am having such a hard time picking up the phone to call people about what I am doing? The strange thing is it’s not a business or anything for sale. It will help anyone who chooses to use it without costing them a dime.
Any suggestions on how to overcome phone fear?
Janette
Hi, I was thinking about your post and I have some suggestions for you.
1.) do something to boost your self esteem up before you go to use the phone.
2.) walk around when talking it helps the anxiety level go down.
3.) take a shower,get dressed as if you were going out on a date,something you look good in,this will help your self esteem go up and give you more confidence on the phone.
4.) stand in front of a mirror it will help you to express what you are trying to say, it helps to see yourself in action, this will help to have more control over the conversation.
5.) figure out a way to distract yourself but not to the point you forget what you called for in the first place.
6.) make a note of what you want to say before you call but don’t write the script because it will sound like your reading a sentence and you want to sound natural (watch your facial expressions in your mirror).
7.) try not to think about it so much! you could talk yourself out of wanting to use the phone and create more fear than needed.
8.) make a list of 10 good qualities you see in yourself .in the mornings lie in bed and close your eyes, start with #1 try to visualize your self on the phone using this good quality that you have within yourself, get a good mental picture of you using this to your advantage at the same time sense your surroundings, is their a certain sent around you? whats in the back ground noises? and get comfortable with using it. every morning do a different number on your list until your using the whole list of 10 together.
9.) practice, in no time you will pick up the phone like you have been doing it for years, don’t practice and build your fears more. just start making the calls that need to be made.i am sure you’ll do great!
i too use to be scared of making phone calls, along the way i looked for tools to help and thought i would share some with you. GOOD LUCK:)
Interesting and thought provoking. Number 19 hit home! It’s good to think – thank you.
The more one can boost their self esteem, the greater their chances are of achieving success. One of my favorite quotes is by Zig Ziglar and he says “”You don’t have to be great to start, but you have to start to be great.”
I am still trying to complete step 1
I’m new to this blog. I have subscribed to it because of a recommendation.
This specific post is really great. I will try to implement the suggested steps, starting with #1.
very nice post ,keep sharing this kind of tips always, see you soon , thank you for giving again wonderful information.
People are complex, so a self esteem change can be initiated by emphasizing the things that the person does feel they do well. That is, even people with low self esteem feel they do some things well, and those things should be emphasized while the other things that they want to change are allowed to drop away.
I like #29!
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Do something for yourself every day.
I really feel that every one should follow that, it will help to show ur path for future.
Thanks mate for sharing such a top stuff
Number 5 is very important, be in control of your own life, not at the command of someone else.
Oooo- What an awesome list!!
These are great positive things that we can do- that we can take action on and improve ourselves and other people around us!
Facing fears is the one thing essential to moving forward. Asking ourselves- “What could I do to make facing this less of a problem for me?”
And then implementing what we can do to make things better and actually face the fears. Action breeds confidence and so just doing it will help us grow a lot.
All the best,
Eren
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Most people have low self-confidence because of past events in their lives which led to that state of mind. This lack of self-confidence puts them in an endless cycle where they attract results they think of, and that reinforces their state of self-belief.
I feel that most of the items in the list, if not all, are directed at boosting one’s extrinsic factors (that’s why they start with “Do …”) Self worth needs to be intrinsic, as you pointed out. Then we should be able to establish our worth without “Do …”. Some children can display an incredible degree of self worth without doing any of the items in your list. How do they pull that off?
Great list. No. 21 works wonders. Some of my happiest friends never watch the news. Why watch? It’s mostly repeats, sadly.
Wow, this is pretty interesting list. it’s so useful for me. thanks for sharing.
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Love the list – many good ideas here!
#28 is my favourite: face your fears. When I break them down and approach them with a plan I realize that whatever they were, they weren’t so big and scary.
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oh this is such a practical way of building self esteem and the best part about it is it can be part of us every single day….i am so happy that i got a mail when i was browsing through some of the positive attitude sites…i totally vouch for such lovely articles which help you and guide you to lead a better life…keep it up and see i also followed up immediately by commenting what i like…ha ha
Hello Steve,
I am following you for a while on Twitter and I do like what I read.
So I am leaving a positive note on this blog.
Thanks for sharing these thoughts with us.
We all know them but it is nice to read them and say: Oh yes!
From Rotterdam in the Netherlands
Really expansive, inspiring and uplifting article Steve, thanks for sharing
Greets from Indonesia
nice to read..
second is the best
Excellent list… wrote it down, keeping it close.
Start changing your thinking to be more optimistic about yourself, instead of ‘…I can’t do that….’ say ‘..I’ve never tried it, but I’ll give it a go…’
—- Yes, I’m Chinese, I’v never tried to leave a comment for a English blog because I’m not good at English, but today I’ll give it a go. Thanks, Steven.
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Hi Yu,
That is awesome and inspiring.
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Just read through your steps and had a real chuckle at some of them . Thankyou , i suffer low self worth and everyday lately has been tough. I am always looking for the answer to my woes and worrys even though i know deep down that the answers are all inside of me already , its just so hard sometimes to quieten the negative chatter . But thankyou so much for the tip to punch my negative voice in the nose , i like that image .
Thanks again
Moppie xx
I really like this blog!!
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Very thought provocting, I just love this blog, so very glad I found you!You have helped me alot with your postings
The more one can boost their self esteem, the greater their chances are of achieving success.
Hi Steve,
Mind-blowing list.
Best,
Kavita
Wonderful list Steven! Thanks for sharing…how great if we can pass this information to our kids!
Thanks so much for making this list. Its excelent. : D
I appreciate this article as it is timely for my situation. I love that when it happens. I thank you for sharing your wisdom.
Very empowering ideas… Thanks for the post
I really like this. I like your suggestion to build on strengths and forgive self. Also congratulate self. I will continue to read what you write and learn. Thank you
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LOL on no.25. I’m going to try that!
Thanx for sharing these thoughts with us.I love it
Thanks for sharing
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Thank you Steve I will apply at least one of these each day.
Great List!!! There is nothing better than knowing your WORTH!!
Great suggestions! Thanks.
nice ways to boost anybody’s low self esteem
how do i get self worth, i have no job have been looking over 1 year and getting harder everyday/taught to save money therefore how do i justify going to church/ballroom dance if i don’t have money/i also need others approval/need to hear people say the like me not just assume it/how do i get over my negative thinking etc
Great post, I am hearby fulfilling step No. 29
But seriously, very heartfelt and empowering, keep it up!
gr8! Am gonna try 2 practise n internalise dis ideas!4 me d 29 steps ar all germane in enhancing man’s self worth.thnx!
IT HAS BEEN YEARS SINCE I KNEW WAT MY WORTH WAS!!! I LOVE THIS BLOG BECAUSE THE IDEAS ARE AMAZING AND I AM VERY OPTOMISTIC THEY WILL WORK….. THANK U!!!
Like like like …
the tips are excellent ….I am going to practice and post the feedback, Things which look simple are the ones where a strong discipline will be expected to be successful.
Wish me all the best on my journey…..
Great Read.. precise and enlightening
Very eye opening ways to increase our sense of self worth and makes us realise to appreciate those who helps us as they realise our sense of self worth.
I have had a problem personally over the past few weeks and its just now that I realized that there was a problem. My first search for answers led me here and wouldn’t you know it it was a perfect post for my long week of professional and personal dilemma. In any case, Here’s for #29.
Great job and highly recommended.
Thank You for this Blog ! Appreciate a lot you sharing that, it is very useful.
Thanks. Things are looking up.
Nice list! I would add a daily practice of doing at least one thing that scares you. It’s partly covered in 28 (face your fears), but I believe that it’s important to make it a daily habit. The more you expand your comfort zone, the higher your self-esteem is!
Excellent piece Steve.
I have been showing signs of depression especially a constant feeling of worthlessness. I am no longer certain if anyone in this whole world loves me and truly cares about me. I am no longer sure if my boyfriend still loves me and thinks me special. I find it extremely hard to concentrate in class. I am losing my ability to retain what my professor says the minute its out of his mouth. I just feel like wood set adrift. I will go by what you have written and get rid of self-destroying people and thoughts. I really hope I snap out of this. Thank you Steve.
Thank you so much! You have no idea how thankful I am, it really helps!
I really like your blog mate! You really understood what is the most important in life. Once i understood and i thank to God for this. I wanted to express my opinion about this blog and by the way start doing what you say in the list above. I mean point 29. Good luck!