Personal Development

The Most Dangerous Threat to Your Happiness and Success

Edwin Torres
Written by Edwin Torres

Do you know the most dangerous threat to your happiness and success?

If you want to be happy, fulfilled, and successful in life pay close attention. There’s something you might be doing that is stopping you from reaching your goals. It’s limiting your full potential and is a poison to every single area of your life.

What is this huge mistake?

It’s the people you choose to hang with.

There’s a quote that goes, “You are the average of the five people you hang out with the most.”

You might have heard this quote before but are you actually applying it in your life? Whether you like it or not, the people you spend the most time with form who you are as a person. Their habits, mindsets, passions, slang, even favorite movies, will start to rub off on you.

The alarming thing about it is this isn’t a conscious choice. You’re not actively thinking about doing all of this. It’s happens behind the scenes inside of your subconscious mind. Your subconscious mind is where your feelings, sensations and emotions come from. You don’t have to think about these things, they all happen on complete autopilot.
If you hang around people who are negative, you will slowly become more negative. If you hang around people who have no ambition or goals in life, you will slowly be just like them. It doesn’t matter how positive or optimistic you are. Over time, you will “soak in” all of their habits and it will affect who you are as a person.

Here’s an interesting question – How do you think successful people became successful?

Was it luck? Faith? Persistence?

I am sure we can all agree those things played a part in it. But here’s what’s even more important…

Successful people strategically hung out with the right people. These are people who knew more than them. These are people who pushed them to be their best. These are people who made them get out of their comfort zone. All of these factors played a part in helping them to elevate their life.

There’s a reason why you will rarely find a successful person hanging around homeless people all day long. It has nothing to do with the fact that one is homeless and the other is not. It has everything to do with one critical thing – mindset.

The successful person has a mindset of abundance and wealth. They view life as having endless possibilities for them. The homeless person has a mindset of scarcity and negativity. They think money is a limited resource and that rich people are crooks and thieves. I understand I am generalizing to an extent but, more times than not, mindset is what separates both of these groups of people.

Do you want to make more money? Do you want to have better relationships? Do you want to be healthier? Here’s how you can do that…

If you want to get six-pack abs, hang around people who have them already. Watch what exercises they do and what foods they eat.

If you want to make more money, hang around people doing what you want to do in life. Watch the things they do day-in-day-out and their habits will slowly get soaked into you.

This works for anything. Through the process of “osmosis” their habits, mindsets, and routines will be “installed” into your subconscious mind.
Remember, you are the average of the five people you hang out with the most. If any area of your life is lacking – whether it’s with your relationships, health, wealth, or happiness – take a close look at the people who you spend a lot of time with.

“But Edwin, I can’t just cut out all of my old friends?” Look, I get it. Cutting out people you’ve known all your life isn’t realistic. You can’t just tell them, “Peace!” and call it a day.

Here’s a simple solution – Limit the time you spend with them. When they start being negative or pessimistic, tell them to cut it out. If they keep doing it, use it as an excuse to exit the conversation. Don’t criticize them. Don’t insult them. Just stand up, and tell them, “Hey, this was fun but I have to go.” Simple.

To recap, who you hang out with is critical to your success and happiness. It’s like the quote that goes, “Show me who your friends are and I’ll tell you who you are.” Make sure you get your social circle handled. It’s of upmost importance.

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Edwin Torres

Edwin Torres

Edwin Torres is on a mission to show you how to “next level” every area of your life. In the last 6 years, he went from shy and awkward to being confident and outgoing. If you’re struggling with your self-confidence, click here to learn about a “mind hack” you can use to boost your confidence in 5-minutes