Psychology

8 Truths to Conquering Indecision

Written by Carolynne Melnyk

Are you stuck by indecision? Is it driving you a little crazy?

You know what I mean…thinking and more thinking, should I, shouldn’t I, what do I do, what would happen if… It usually results in a lot of aggravation and sleepless nights.

Yeah, I’ve been there too and it’s agonizing!

Want to be more decisive? 

Great, then keep reading!

8_truths_to_conquering_indecisionYou make thousands of decisions everyday: what to wear, what to eat, which way to go, who to talk to, on and on.  So, why do some decisions stop you in your tracks?

Fear!  Fear of change, of failure and of humiliation.

For many years I struggled making big decisions. I wanted everything to turn out perfect… at least my version of perfect. I was afraid of failure which trapped me in the ‘what if’ scenario.

Then things changed!

I can’t totally recall when I realized that decisions were only choices and I had control over them. But when I did it, my life shifted from  being indecisive to decisive.

Here are the 8 truths about decisions that changed my life:

1. There are no right or wrong decisions. A decision is only a decision! It can’t be right or wrong.  Only when you begin to personalize it with your thoughts, does it become right or wrong. Take this decision for example: Should you apply for that new position? It depends on your perception the position and what it means to you. Everyone would view this situation from a different perspectives. It is only your thoughts of desirable or not that create the conflict. The only decision you have to make is apply or not.

2. It’s okay to change your mind. No decision is set in stone.  Every decision you make can be replaced by another. Recall this saying: “If you don’t make the right decision, you can make the decision right.” Things change, we change, therefore it would be foolish to assume a decision is forever or that it can’t be changed.

3. Time erases memory. A month from now you may not even remember agonizing over this decision. In a year, you won’t remember making the decision.  If this is the case, why waste time and energy being stuck in indecisions?  Make a decision, see what happen and adjust as you go. It is all part of the flow of life.

4. A decision doesn’t need to be perfect. There is no way that you can predict all that might happen in the future. Knowing that the future can change in an instant should make you wonder how you could even consider a decision to be perfect. You can only make the best choice at this moment. Change is the only certainty in life. It is so much easier to accept it and work with it rather against it.

5. The worst that can happen. How many times have you imagined the worst possible scenario related to a decision and how many times has it come true? I would venture to guess…never!  Your imagination can create all sorts of obstacles and disasters. It is up to you to slay these imaginary dragons by keeping to the facts. Only you have the power to tame your thoughts.

6. It’s all about action. You know it, the ‘to do or not to do’ question. Indecision is about something blocking your ability to take action.  Have you ever noticed that as soon as you’ve made a decision things begin to move? Taking a step in the direction you want to go is enough to clear the blocks.

7. No decisions is a decision!  William James said, “When you have to make a choice and don’t make it, that is in itself a choice.”  If you are not ready to choose by default then go ahead and flip a coin to make a decision.  Any action is better than no action.

8. Lack of direction. When you have a clear idea of where you are going and what you want there is less indecision. It is difficult to know what to choose when you lack direction and you may lose the advantage. As Maurice Switzer states, “Indecision has often given an advantage to the other fellow because he did his thinking beforehand.”

Making decisions has become so much easier for me when I remember that much of my dilemma is of my own making.

It is so freeing knowing that there are no right or wrong decisions, that I can change my decision at any time, and that my imagination creates most of my obstacles and movement always removes indecision. This helps me to get out of my own way to move forward.

How do you overcome indecision and move forward?

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Carolynne Melnyk

Carolynne Melnyk is a spiritual teacher, healer, and shaman. Her straightforward teaching methods and deep connection to healing energy help people who feel let down by life become mindful of their thoughts and trust their inner force. She’ s a global gypsy who created the Calm, Clear & Happy Toolkit, helping you on the path to joy. She can be found at www.livinglifeinjoy.com .