Love is the most beautiful feeling in the world right next to happiness and peace. Those butterflies in your tummy, the warm glow you feel throughout your entire body, the smile that adorns your face every day. With something this blissful it’s any wonder why more people don’t embrace love. Sadly, some people are actually afraid to love. the one most beautiful pure form of energy, and yet there are still those of us who are scared to death of it.
Let’s look at some of the reasons why this may be and maybe we can change some minds and open some hearts. Many people are still of the mindset that love hurts. Love doesn’t hurt at all. People hurt. The actions that people do hurt. It’s not love’s fault. I think once we realize that, we will be more apt to opening our hearts and letting in some love every now and then. Until then…
1. Sacrificing your independence.
This is a big one really as most people have a hard time knowing where to draw the line between personal space and being with the one they love, especially if it’s a new love. You want to be with them all the time which, of course we know, is not healthy at all. Set boundaries right away. You know what your schedule is like and you know where there is room for flexibility. Once you have this set, then allowing love in will only compliment your life, not complicate it.
2. Trusting again.
This can be exhausting, mentally and emotionally, as we’ve all been hurt so many times and to have to trust someone new all over again? It just starts to take a toll on us. We can be cautious to a fault or throw caution to the wind. Always trust y our intuition. Your gut instinct. There are always feelings and vibes we have right from the get go. Instead of ignoring them, start paying attention to them. This could save you a lot of grief in the long run.
Some of us are actually commitment phobe. Just admit it. We do want love and we do want to be in a relationship but then there’s that whole trust and independence thing and what if my family hates him/her? It goes on and on. We make up excuses to not fall in love because the truth of the matter is, we simply are afraid of commitment. It’s a big scary step. Many things affect our ability to commit. Once you realize what these factors are, then maybe you can revisit commitment. Does it come from childhood or a first love? Dig deep, heal it and then release it and let love in.
4. We simply don’t know how.
Not all of us grew up in a supporting, loving and nurturing environment and because of that, we don’t know how to love. It’s not that we don’t want to. We just don’t know how so we avoid it like the plague. I think if we take time to observe happy loving relationships, and maybe even read some blogs on loving, this may help us to understand it. Loving yourself is first and foremost. Start by learning to love you and the rest will fall into place.
5. We still think love hurts.
It doesn’t. Love is beautiful. Love is the emotion that can make you go from glum to glowing in a matter of seconds. It isn’t love that hurts, it’s the people that we trust (which brings us back to #2). I always tell people to start with self- love. Once you have that and feel it deeply, you won’t allow hurtful people back into your life. You will have more self- worth and self-respect and will only attract loving people to you.
When we feel love and have love inside of us, people easily recognize it and feel it too. The world needs more lovers and healers. Many people are sad and lonely and all they want is someone to give them hope for a happier tomorrow. This can only come from love. The more love that is spread around the world, the better this place will be. Don’t be afraid of love. Love is beautiful.