Personal Development

How To Change Your Beliefs and Create New Possibilities

Redesign Your Reality
Written by Morty Lefkoe

Redesign Your RealityWhen it comes to changing our life Some people are convinced we create our own reality by focusing on what we desire with strong emotion. Others are just as convinced that that idea is New Age nonsense.  But regardless of which position is valid, it is unquestionably true that we literally create new possibilities in our lives—a brand new reality—by eliminating limiting beliefs.

Let me give you an example.  Assume you had the beliefs: I’m not loveable. Relationships don’t work.  Men/women can’t be trusted.

With these beliefs, what are the possibilities that you could have a really good, nurturing, long-term romantic relationship?  … Slim to nil, right?

Now let’s assume you completely eliminate those beliefs.  Can you see you have just created the possibility of a good, nurturing, long-term relationship that literally didn’t exist before? There is no guarantee you will ever find such a relationship, but the possibility exists now that didn’t exist before.

This is one of the most powerful consequences of eliminating beliefs: You not only change your behavior and feelings, you actually change the reality you live in.

Here’s another example.  Let’s assume you held the following beliefs: You have to work hard to make money. I’m not deserving. I’ll never have enough money. /There is never enough money. Money is a struggle. Life is difficult. Your reality with those beliefs does not include the possibility of acquiring wealth easily, if at all.  Without those beliefs the possibility comes into existence.

The possibilities that exist in your reality are defined by your beliefs. When you say something is impossible it actually becomes impossible for you. If you believe Life is difficult, you will experience things not going the way you wanted them to go as upsetting obstacles rather than exciting challenges.  If you believe I’m not capable or I’m not competent, would you likely try to do something you believe you can’t do?  And if you tried, do you think you would succeed with these beliefs?

Beliefs Create An Organization’s Environment

Even the environment in which an organization operates is largely a function of its beliefs.  When I do workshops for CEOs I tell them that the biggest barrier their organization faces is not in the world (competition, government, costs, etc.), but in the minds of their employees.

For example, if most of the people in a company believe that something is impossible—such as outsourcing, raising capital, finding qualified new employees, or reaching a certain sales or earnings target—that belief becomes a self-fulfilling prophesy, because the employees will operate according to a reality consistent with their beliefs.  If something is impossible, there is no sense in trying to do it.

Notice that you don’t have to do anything (other than eliminate the belief) in order to create a new possibility and literally change your reality.  Your reality changes automatically after the belief(s) has been eliminated.

As amazing as that is, another remarkable thing occurs: When fundamental changes in our behavior and feelings occur after eliminating a few beliefs, we usually are not even aware of the change.

If there are no beliefs in the way, all we have to do to make a change in our way of living is to make a commitment to the change, and it usually occurs.  Sometimes we don’t know how and have to get some needed information, and then the change happens.  But it’s not so easy when there are beliefs in the way.

When we try to act inconsistently with our beliefs—such as trying to create wealth or relationships when we have beliefs that act as barriers, or trying to stop procrastination when we have beliefs that necessitate it—we are aware both of the struggle to change and our inability to produce lasting change.

Our Reality Changes Without Us Even Noticing It

But when the belief(s) is gone, we unconsciously do whatever we choose to do and there is no resistance.  We just automatically do it.  Because there is no resistance, because we are able to make the change so easily, we frequently are not even aware that the old barriers are gone.

One of the most dramatic examples of that fact was when I once asked a client whom I hadn’t talked to for a few months about her sex life.  She replied, “It’s fine, why do you ask?”  I read to her from her file the details of her lack of interest in sex that had plagued her for years, which she had related to me just a few months earlier.  She was flabbergasted.  “I totally forgot that that’s how it used to be.  My new feelings and behavior now seem so natural and automatic I just take them for granted.”

When you drive down a highway and come across a barrier in the middle of the road, you are aware of trying to remove the roadblock so you can drive on.  After you remove the roadblock and you then drive down that same highway a few times, at some point you drive down the highway and forget that the barrier had ever been there.

It’s so easy to create new possibilities for yourself.  What are you waiting for?

If you haven’t yet eliminated at least one of your limiting self-esteem beliefs using the Lefkoe Belief Process go to where you can eliminate one limiting belief free.

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Morty Lefkoe

If you haven’t yet eliminated at least one of your limiting self-esteem beliefs using the Lefkoe Belief Process, go to where you can eliminate one limiting belief free.
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  • I like that you bring up our underlying beliefs. I think that too much emphasis is placed on the symptoms of the friction in our lives like your example of the difficulty of acquiring money. The difficulty in life is often treated with medications or labels about that person, but it’s not always explored deeper into what is creating this friction. Thanks for a good post

  • I agree that “You not only change your behavior and feelings, you actually change the reality you live in”. We should always keep our beliefs but i must suit to our reality, if not,you can not adapt to reality

  • I have had my share of self limiting beliefs and fears.
    Both when it comes to income, prosperity, family, relationships.

    What has changed a lot of this is the rise of my confidence and reading biographies of other successful people.

    When I say that people from very different backgrounds have all succeeded.
    This has helped me learn that I can accomplish anything.

  • I then once realized that, “there could always be a better reality that this.”

    I strive to always progress, to always look forward, to always think that in order for us to change, our mindsets or our beliefs should do first. Cause nothing will really happen if we strive to be a “rich guy” but we still do money wasting activities.

    It starts with belief, the will, the intent… if we have that, we can start from that. Progress and change.

  • Great stuff here! We must change our beliefs to ever create new possiblities. If you believe you don’t have what it takes to become successful in your business field then, chances are you won’t come successful.

    God bless,
    William Veasley

  • What a well put together and powerful writing. I’m embarrassed to admit it but it gave me goose bumps just considering the possibilities in front of me by simply changing my thinking. It’s a battle to change my thinking when life’s circumstances remind me of past struggles and doubt creeps in. It’s a work in progress but I’m confident that I will get there. Thanks for the insight.

  • This article is very inspiring , the word possibilities itself forces the mind to think in the positive direction. We should always be looking for possibilities. Thank you Morty :)

    I would also like to thank you Steven for always introducing great posts :)

  • Great quote by Henry Ford in the earlier comment! I heard a sermon once on speaking the blessing. The idea was that we could use our words/thoughts to bless ourselves and others or we could use our words to tear ourselves and others down. We can speak our greatest destiny by giving up limiting thoughts. This is a great post with concrete examples and suggestions. Thank you!

  • I totally agree with you Morty, because “The thing always happens that you really believe in; and the belief in a thing makes it happen.” (Frank Loyd Wright). Disbelief is just killing all the possibilities and all the beautiful things that can happen, isn’t it? Thanks Morty for such an inspiring article~

  • Hi Morty,

    It’s true that, usually, we’re not aware of the big changes that occur in our lives right away. However, I believe it’s both strange and difficult to try to keep up with these events. Such things ask for trust, and trust is hard to get, and even more difficult to keep.

  • Hi Morty–I really like your insight into what we belief (either consciously or unconsciously) and how that shapes our world. Our world is both our internal and external and all the actions we produce. Without awareness around what we unconsciously believe, then we are acting without awareness or understanding. I like the example of seeing a tiger. If we see a tiger in the wild we run. Most people think we are motivated by the tiger to start running. But if you see the tiger in the zoo, we don’t run. There is still a tiger and it does not motivate us to run. So what does? Fear is the motivator in both cases. Understanding this belief helps us become more aware of what motivates us in daily lives. When we get mad is it the immediate situation or something else underlying…..
    Great post…thanks

  • Morty.

    Those self-limiting beliefs sneak in each and every day. Thanks for the reminder.

    I recently heard a lovely statement from an indigenous woman “just practice what you want to keep in life.” It got my attention.

  • I’d like to quote Henry Ford – “Whether you think you can, or you think you can’t, you are both right”.

    I have been aware that many times, I change my reality because I saw the possibility of doing so, way before I start to do it.

    The possibility establishes our want to do it.

    The want makes us find the how to do it.

    The how takes us step by step, closer to where we want to be.

    Change is not hard. It starts with seeing the possibility.

  • Morty,
    I like the use of the analogy of driving/roadblocks and limiting beliefs/roadblocks. Since I am a visual person this works well for me.

    When the resistance is gone so will our limitations.

  • Hi Morty
    I’m sold on the power on eliminating limiting beliefs. It seems to me if that you believe that then all limiting beliefs would be at your mercy.And if that’s so then guess what should be your #1 priority in life.

  • Great guest post Steve..
    Morty, It is so true that we limit the scope of our entire world with beliefs that no longer serve us.
    I remember when I learned that I could “choose” what I believed and how I felt about things that had happened in my life. Wow! I was freed and completely liberated from the limiting beliefs and it was a truly life altering experience.
    Thanks for this fabulous article.

  • Yet another fantastic article! I’ve experienced such a massive change in my life since I changed some limiting beliefs, it really does work!


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