Change your life forever "“ interview yourself
There are times in our life when we start to question ourselves. We question our life, our loves, our dislikes, our health, we question everything. This is great and benefits us tremendously if we do it correctly and are honest with ourselves. Sometimes our thoughts and questions can become unfocused and we lose track of what we were questioning and go back to the old routine.
Here is a technique that you can employ to keep your thinking and questioning on track and gain a lot of insight into the workings of your own mind.
This technique is quite powerful for getting to know your thinking style and to get to know the real you. There is one fundamental rule to this and that is to be completely honest with yourself. If you are not an honest thinking person then it will not work at all. So get into an honest mode before starting this exercise.
Getting into honest mode
Ask yourself a few questions, ones that could be considered a matter of opinion but deep down you know the answer.
Are you overweight?
Do you spend too much time watching TV?
Do you spend too much time on the computer?
Do you work too much?
Do you spend enough time with your family?
These questions should prime you for your interview and get you into an honest way of thinking. If you are not being honest you will feel it straight away, if you persist in being dishonest stop the interview. Try again another time when you are ready.
The interview itself will depend on what you would like to change in your life. You are not going to ask the same questions if you are looking to change to a new career as opposed to asking yourself if you are unhealthy and overweight.
Starting the interview
Go through the basics
What is your name?
What is your date of birth?
What is your address?
Are you married?
Do you have children?
This will gear you up and prime you for the interview itself.
Now, you have to look at the problem or the area of your life you would like to change. I will use an example here and go through it so you know the process?
David's change of career
My example is for someone called David who would like to change his career but is afraid of the consequences and doesn't really believe he will do it but likes to court the idea of a change?
So the following questions might be asked?
What is your current job?
What do you like about your job? (Remember to be honest and think of everything you can)
What don't you like about your job?
If there was one thing you could change about your job what would it be?
At this stage you should have a fairly good idea and a list of your likes and dislikes of the job. Go over the notes you have written and try and single out the cause of your current unrest in your job.
When you have identified a possible cause ask yourself questions on the back of the answer. For example David might have realised that he actually likes the job but does not like the boss he has.
So he might ask:
What do you like about your boss?
What don't you like about your boss?
If you could say one think to your boss what would it be? (No swearing, conduct yourself in a professional manner here!!!!!)
David might have found a whole host of reasons to leave his job and hardly any for staying. It would then be time to move on and go in the direction of:
What career would you like?
Do you have the skills?
Do you have the determination to go for further education?
Could you support yourself?
How could you support yourself?
And so on it goes until your questions have been answered and you have a hones set of answers. This should give you a good idea of the problem, what you might do about it, what actions you can take to change, and setting a plan in motion to change.
The interview technique can be used with any problem in your life.
When you are doing this make sure you are alone, comfortable and will have no distractions for half an hour or so, preferably an hour as this will give you time for the post interview analysis.
Let me know if you try this technique and how you get on with it. Could it be improved upon, let me know.