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10 Sleep Positions You and Your Partner Share and What They Mean

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Bedtime is usually the best time of the day. We all look forward to stripping down and climbing into bed with the love of our life. A lot of us have our favourite sleep positions too. Did you know that your sleeping position actually holds a deeper meaning?  Honestly it does.

Most of us have a hard time in some sleep positions, either with or without a partner. If you have a moment, you should research healthy sleep positions and find out which ones are simply not good for you either because they affect your spine, your neck, your posture or other parts.

Let's have a look now at some sleeping  positions and what they mean to us.

The spoon  

No surprise this comes in at number one. You guys meet in the middle of the bed. This is the "I love you and trust you completely" position. It's also the position that shows a little bit of vulnerability and let's each other know that you really love each other and don't want to be without them.

The looser or lighter spoon

This one comes a few years into the relationship. You still are madly in love and have a high level of trust for each other, you just don't feel the need to spoon too tightly anymore as the fear of losing your partner doesn't exist anymore.

The chase or the pursuit

This is when one partner is clear on the other side of the bed and the other partner goes to their side to spoon them. For the one person, they want their space but or the other person, they still feel the need to be close. The roles here can be reversed at any given time. There's still love and trust here, we just need a bit of space.

Face to face

This is the one that usually occurs right after a steamy night of love making. The closeness and the trust shared after sex will play out in the cuddling afterwards too. There is a beautiful trust and tight bond shared and you will feel it strongly in this position.

Back to back with a little touch

You don't need to be groping each other anymore but still want that touch. You still need to feel that person in bed with you but you're ok with being back to back. It denotes personal space but allowing your partner a small in.

Cliff-hanger or "your side my side"

You are both on your own side of the bed and though there may be a slight sense that something may be wrong, more often than not it doesn't mean this at all. It simply means one of the two just wants a good night's sleep with no interaction. Of course this position could also mean something is wrong and it's best to just stay on your side until your partner reaches out to you.

Feet and legs twisted up together

Again, still needing some touch, some bit of affection with a little independence. It's a show of love without the full on body contact.

The cradle

This is a nurturing and trusting position. This position can come after love making or be more of an "I love you and want to take care of you forever" position.   This position is usually quite comfortable for both parties.

The crab or "don't touch me"

This position usually means that neither one of you wants or needs contact tonight. Give me my space and at some point we can meet in the middle. This is also a popular position when it's hot as hell outside and the thought of human contact and someone else's sweat on you all night while you're trying to sleep isn't very appealing.

Tummy sleepers

If one or both of you are sleeping on your tummy it could be a sign of emotional anxiety. One way of calming this feeling down is to gently reach out to your partner to show them you love them and want them.

And you thought you were just going to bed. Depending on where you are in your relationship, you will find that you sleep in one or two of these positions more often than others. If you are sleeping on the side my side one more often then maybe it's time to have a talk.

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Steven Aitchison

Steven Aitchison is the author of The Belief Principle and an online trainer teaching personal development and online business.  He is also the creator of this blog which has been running since August 2006.