Personal Development

What on Earth is Stopping You?

Steven Aitchison
Written by Steven Aitchison
It’s great living this life isn’t it, we get an education, we get a job, get married, have kids and wait for retirement to live a life of freedom, with some fun times in-between.
What if you were to stop all that and ask yourself ‘Is there more to life than this?’ what would your answer be.
For some of us the answer would be: ‘I am perfectly happy as I am thank you very much’, but for a growing number of us we are looking for more.
Times are changing fast and more and more of us are realizing it’s possible to create a life for ourselves instead of life creating us.
There is something more you should be doing
There is something waiting for you
There is a spark inside of you waiting to be lit
There is craving, a feeling, of something more important you should be doing
There has never been a better time to start….. 

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Institutional education is being replaced with self education
Working for someone is being replaced by working for yourself
Getting married is just amazing……
Having kids is life changing
Waiting for retirement is just mental…
You are a pretty amazing person, the only trouble is you haven’t realized it yet.
Well, it’s about time you got off your arse and started to realize just how much your ideas are needed, just how much your enthusiasm is required, just how much your passion will help the next generation, and just how much your worth as a person is going to change the world……
Don’t stand inside the circle of your comfort zone, don’t follow the crowd, don’t settle for second best, and don’t ever give up on your dreams.
So tell me this……What on earth is stopping you? 

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  • Hi Steven,

    “What is stopping you from doing what you really want to do” I have asked myself that question many times.

    Perhaps a better question would be “What do I need to do, and who do I need to be to do the things that I really want to do.”

    To answer the first question I would say fear (False Expectations Appearing Real) and then I would look for reason for why I am not doing what I want. Lets face it, if you look for reason you will find them.

    To answer the second question I would be identifying solutions and planning actions that would take me in the direction I wanted to go.


  • Hello steve,
    I too deal with personal development blog. I write inspiring post but frankly speaking your post inspires me a lot. You spoke about self education.
    The best way to get the best education is only through self education is a nice example for this..

  • Great article, Steven. And a tricky question; first reaction after reading it was shouting inside of my mind: NOTHING IS STOPPING ME! Then, I realized what stopped me in pursuing my dreams was (or I thought it was) responsibility towards my family. At some point, life helped me to follow one of my most important dreams: the profession I wanted, not the one chosen for me – for practical reasons. And now, this industry I work in is agonizing. Do I regret my choice? No. It felt great taking the path I had chosen! Your words reminded me this wonderful feeling.

  • Great article, Steve. The only thing that has ever stopped me is my own fear. And certain times in my life, to help me get over my fears, I created situations where I had no choice but to move forward and ahead.

    Fear is stronger than Kryptonite!

    It took me years to figure out that fear is simply a feeling and has no power over me unless I give it power.

    • Hi Wendy

      I once spoke to a client who was so afraid of being rejected in everything she did that it held her back in life. She eventually managed to get outside her comfort zone and deliberately went out her way to be in situations when she knew that 99% of the time she would be rejected e.g. going into shops and asking for a job. There was an amazing change in her as she had went so far outside her comfort zone that her old comfort zone seemed cramped.

      Fear is really powerful, but you did a great thing by even recognizing it, and taking action on it.

  • I always have looked at these things and thought ‘there has to be more than that’ and I guess my life reflects it. Because most of the stuff i’m into and believe are not ‘common beliefs’ you could say.

    I take time every day to explore and let go of the things that may be stopping me or holding me back and it has helped so much.


  • Hi Steve,

    I loved this… short, sharp and to the point :)

    For me, I would say that I probably have too many ideas constantly running through my head. This then makes me get pulled in multiple directions and somewhat stagnates or slows down my progress. I’m working on a strategy of being able to incorporate all my ideas into one…


    • Hi Brendan

      I know exactly what you mean about having too many ideas, and the trouble is when I get an idea I have to act on it, I suspect you’re the same :) as long as all the ideas are moving in the same direction I don’t see it as a major problem, but it can slow things down.

      Let me know when you have a strategy in place.

  • Steve I love this post. So many of us box ourselves in with ‘shoulds’ and ‘musts’ trying to play it safe – when in fact all we’re doing is boxing ourselves into a prison of our own making. By realising that we can’t insulate ourselves from the changes life throws at us we actually set ourselves free and start to live life on our own terms.

  • This made me laugh Steven. As a teenager, I used to ask myself “is this all there is”. I could have used you back then…it took a while but I eventually began to get that there’s sooo much more than these ‘poor eyes could dream of.’

    Thanks for the reminder.

    Love Elle

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