About Steven AitchisonThe Heliotrpium is a plant that turns itself toward the sun in order for photosynthesis to occur.
“……why do sunflowers always appear to be reaching toward the sun?
The technical answer is that the flower’s orientation to the sun in due to differential growth of the stem. A plant-growth regulator builds up on the shaded side of the plant when unequal light conditions exist. Because of this, the darker side of the plant grows faster than the sunlit side, causing the stem to bend towards the sun.” (from the site answers.google.com/)
I think this is absolutely fascinating, and just shows how beautiful and intelligent nature really is. It also answered a lot of my questions on why we, as humans, gravitate toward people who seem to have a lot of positive energy and enthusiasm for life.
Energy givers
There are some people who are natural energy givers and a lot of people who are energy takers.
The energy givers willingly give out positive energy in order to help the people around them just by being positive, enthusiastic and have a natural love of life. I can think of many people in my life who are like this and I believe I was attracted to them for this reason. My wife is a perfect example of an energy giver, she is positive, funny, intelligent, compassionate and enthusiastic about life. However she can spot an energy taker a mile off and runs in the other direction to avoid them as do I. We are two of a kind and together we give a lot out to our family and friends.
Energy givers are attracted to each other by an invisible pull, just the the heliotropic plant, like the sunflower. You cannot see the sun’s rays but the sunflower can feel it and turns itself toward the sun to drink in it’s energy, in turn the sunflower gives out it’s energy through vibrancy of colour and attracts bees and small animals who eat it’s stalk. We also use the sunflower for sunflower oil, sunflower seeds etc. So you see like attracts like just like an energy giver will be attracted to another energy giver.
Energy takers
Whilst a lot of us may not know a lot of energy givers most of us know energy takers. These are people who complain about everything, are negative, bitchy, condescending, and generally not nice people to be around. You just know an energy taker from the moment you talk to them. They might be funny, laugh a lot but it can be a someone else’s expense a lot of the time.
There are also energy takers who are just very quiet and don’t contribute much to themselves and the people around them. They believe life owes them something and complain when they don’t get what they want in life.
Turning from an energy taker to an energy giver
Give yourself a shake: Many energy takers can’t be bothered to do much with their lives, and that’s okay if you expect little in return. Even getting up and looking for another job instead of living on benefits is doing something positive. There are many people who need to live off benefits but the people who are able both mentally and physically are energy takers and one huge way to reverse this is do something about the situation instead of moaning how little the government gives you to live.
Contribute to the people around you: Give positive energy to those around. If you are part of a group of friends make sure you join in your conversations with funny stories, with encouragement, with laughter etc. You don’t have to be super confident just make an effort to join in and give some energy back to the group, instead of feeding off everyone else’s energy.
Stop complaining: There’s a time to complain and a way to do it, but if you complain all the time you will be ‘Billy no mates’ in a very short space of time. Complainers can become very boring very quickly and suck the energy out from people as soon as they start complaining about something. It’s okay every now and again, but not all the time.
Grow yourself: We are all growing every single day; spiritually, mentally, physically and intellectually. I believe we are here to reach our true potential and to pass on our potential in order for others to reach their true potential. Life is a beautiful adventure, it truly is if only we could look at it that way. Grow you mind, grow you spirit, look after yourself physically and grow your intellect whenever you can. YOU truly are an amazing person, believe in yourself enough to make your journey amazing.
Give to others: Help in any way you can and give something back to your community. This can be small things like smiling at someone in the street, volunteering a few hours a month, spend more time with your kids and family. When you give to others without expectation you receive abundance without owing anything.
Are you an energy giver or energy taker or somewhere in-between?
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This post hit the mark Steven. It’s really frustrating to see how some people can be so negative in life. And the worst part, they negativity affect others. I try to avoid such people myself. Unless I’m close to them (i have close friends who are energy takers), i would try to advise them not to. But the thing with takers, they always prefer to be left the way they are. Great post Steven.
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Hi Karlil (or is it Nik?
) There are some people who are close to us who are like this and if we point out their negativity to them they either change or drift away from us naturally.
Well, now i know this i am able to distinguish these psychic vampires, i shall avoid them. Thanx a lot for gthe guidance.
Thanks for this, Steven. I also just posted a piece on giving.
Too often we take and take and take some more without realizing that it’s just as easy to give. At the very least, giving adds value to the receiver. At its purest form, it can be transformative, healing or life-giving both to the giver and the receiver. The benefits of giving are incomparable and the results can be pretty amazing.
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Hi Belinda, totally agree with. Giving is a much better feeling than taking.
Sadly most people are like mushrooms – they like to spend their lives in the dark !!! Personally the best thing to do with these energy takers is to cut them out of your life. Believe me i have tried again and again to help people but at the end of the day it’s your life and you must take responsibility for it
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Hi Faramarz, thanks for visiting and leaving a comment. Although it sounds hard it is much better to cut the muchrooms out of your life, for your own sake.
Hello steve,
Great article again and wow your subscriber base is moving up !!! I think I know what’s responsible for it. YOU ARE AN ENERGY GIVER AND PEOPLE RECOGNIZE THAT, HENCE THE SUBSCRIPTION(laugh!!!)
On a serious note, I think the choices or decisions that we make contribute to whether we become energy takers or givers. I have worked with a few people who have just made up their minds that nothing good can ever come out of their lives and they are content with the way they are, filled with complaints, sadness, bitterness etc.
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Thanks Ayo
. In know exactly what you mean about the people who have given up and it’s such a waste and a shame to see.
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One of my favorite articles you’ve written Steve! And what a perfect analogy with the sunflower. This was put together in such an appealing way, I just loved it.
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Thanks Jonathan for your kind words. It’s amazing how one word, which I read in a book, ‘Heliotrpium’ sparked off a thought which turned into an article.
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Great article, Steven! Energy robbers, as I like to call them, are a source of stress and are certainly no fun to be around. I do my best to not be one myself and think it’s important for anyone who values their relationships with others to do the same.
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Thanks Vin. I think a lot of us have been there at one point in our lives and instinctivley recognised it and hopefully changed.
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This has gotta be one of the best reads to kick off this week (it’s Monday from where I am). Be a energy giver!
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I love this article…so true….I feel sometimes having so much positive energy, but being sucked up by some negative people….
and I feel sometimes having so much negative energy that I scare all my good friends away from me….
try to stay positive now….laugh is the greatest gift we have
Steven,
I love this post a lot. Not only I’m a sunflower-lover, but your tips in turning from an energy taker to a giver. I love encouragements and I always feel there should be more motivations and supports rather than just complaints and disrespectful in life. There are enough negativities around, why not share a little bit more love and positiveness and help one another grow in respective fields?
Very well done. Encouraging read. Stumbled! Best wishes to you and family! Keep up the giver spirit!
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Thanks Ching, I appreciate your support and encouragement. BTW, I loved the article you wrote the other day.
I read all along your post and I am thankful for it’s a great help. Thanks
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