Everyone wants to feel happy and free, but sometimes we don't realize that the things we're doing are responsible for our disappointment.
There are 7 things you must stop doing from now on, so you can start living your best life ever…
We all encounter problems and bad days, but it is how we respond to our current situation that really matters.
Perhaps a trusted friend has betrayed you, a loved one has passed away, or your business has experienced a great loss.
In any of these situations, you could either accept the situation and move on – or you could resist it and deny the fact that it's really happening to you.
The moment you resist, you suffer a great deal of stress and lose your inner sense of peace because you're "fighting" against something beyond your control. And you'll never win!
What you should do is "adjust" yourself to your current condition and learn the lessons from the experience (if any).
Do what you can to solve or reduce the problem. But if there's nothing else you could do, just go with the flow and live to fight another day.
2) Stop Dwelling In The Past And Future.
Don't get so caught up with an incident from your past, nor be so concerned with what the future holds for you, that it "steals" the present moment from you.
Yes, learn from the lessons of the past. And yes, prepare and set goals for your future.
But live in the present moment and make the most of it!
If you're talking to someone, talk to him like he's the most valuable person in the world at that moment. If you're playing with your kids, live their childhood and be "one" of them. Do stuff like they're the most important things to accomplish at that time.
Fully immerse yourself and focus at what you're doing in the present, and your life will become so much better every single day!
3) Stop Letting Others Tell You What To Do.
Your parents, relatives and friends may have the best intentions; but they will never know what truly makes you feel happy and fulfilled.
So if they said you should do or become something "for your own good" or because they only want "what's best for you", thank them for caring so much about you… but listen to your heart and do what it says. Only then will your life be filled with meaning and purpose.
4) Stop Getting More Stuff.
Simplify your life. You only need to keep 2 types of things – those that you need and those that grow in value. Give away the rest of your stuff.
Don't keep on accumulating (or worse, buying) things for the sake of using them "some day." That "some day" may never come.
The less things you have to manage, the more in control you'll feel and the less stressed you'll be.
5) Stop Persisting (If It's Not Working).
Many quotes acknowledge the power of persistence, but it's not applicable in all cases. Why?
Because never giving up on something that doesn't work is simply stupid! If you keep on doing the same thing, you will always get the same result.
So if it's not working, stop doing it and think of another way. If it fails again, then try something else. Don't stop changing and improving until you eventually get the result you're looking for! Now that is true persistence.
6) Stop Whining.
Complaining will only bring more of what you're whining about into your life. So stop complaining and start looking for the positive side in everything.
Even a negative event can be beneficial – you'll learn valuable lessons from the experience and become stronger in character.
Appreciate every blessing (even the most minor ones you could think of) – the sunshine, the air you breathe, the food you eat, the people you love, etc.
Practice gratitude at every moment and you'll soon find complaining a thing of the past.
7) Stop Wasting Time.
You can judge the quality of a person's life by the way he spends his time. Every second of your life is important, so use it wisely.
Read books and/or listen to audios for at least 30 minutes a day, on any topic of your choice, and you'd become an expert on that field in just a few years!
Do you often find yourself lining up in long queues? Use that time wisely by reading! If you feel uncomfortable doing it, download an e-book or audio on your mobile phone and read/listen while waiting.
Do you spend hours driving? Bring some audio CDs before you hit the road and listen while you drive. Transform your car into a learning machine!
Other meaningful ways to use your time include:
– Pursuing your passion
– Spending quality time and developing relationships with people
– Making a contribution to society
– Exploring different places, cultures, food, experiences, etc.
– Any other activities that you'd cherish and never regret doing when you're on your deathbed
On the other hand, you should avoid doing (or limit your time on) these things:
– Watching TV
– Gossiping or talking about other people's lives
– Playing video games
– Browsing Facebook for hours
– Any other things that you'd regret doing when you're on your deathbed
If you're currently feeling unhappy, unfulfilled, or even depressed… go through the 7 items above and see if any of them is causing it. I sincerely believe that anyone who stops doing these 7 things will begin to experience massive positive changes in their lives.