No matter how old you are, breakups are hard and life changing, even if they are little flings. It's something that adds colour to our life, and sometimes it's a dark colour when our relationship is coming to an end. But fear not! Being single is actually a lot of fun – when you're not busy catching up with friends you can enjoy picking up new hobbies, learning new things, and reflecting on your life to improve your future. You always have to look on the bright side of things.
1. It's time to get things done!
Look at this – you're recently single and suddenly your schedule has a lot of empty space. Time to get all those things done that you've always wanted to get to. Take a private trip to Mexico, take pictures on the beach, meet people, date, go to bars, start jogging and exercising again, learn to write poetry…anything! You can do anything, all to yourself, without trying to make awkward plans with anyone else first. If you've always wanted to travel the world, now's the time to do it. If you've ever wanted to learn something time consuming, now's the time to do it. Get busy.
2. Be you first!
If you are in a relationship with someone that allows you to be yourself first and foremost, then you are one of the lucky ones. But to many many people, it's just a dream. Many women and men are in relationships where they are forced to take on a new personality or adapt to new conditions because they feel forced into it. Maybe your spouse doesn't allow you to enjoy astrology, or doesn't approve of your "nights out" with the guys. Could be anything. If you're single, now's your time to do whatever you want! Recollect who you are, dig up your personality and expose it to the world in all gusto. Go for it! Show us who you are, and evolve that person even more.
3. Learn from your mistakes
If you're single and coming from a relationship, chances are that something didn't work out. Don't start blaming her or him or you or it, or whoever – review what happened and identify your errors. You probably made some wrong moves and despite years of practicing living your life, it's hard to admit that we can still make mistakes at it. But we do. Look at what mistakes you made and try harder not to do them again. You are not a bad person, you just said the wrong thing again. It's not a big deal, because next time you finally won't do it again, and you will feel better for succeeding yourself.
4. Living a zero drama life
No boyfriend, no problems. The only drama you can bring into your life now is the stuff you attract yourself. When you're single, there's no jealousy, lying, cheating, ex's to deal with, parents, in-laws, nothing. Just you and the world, all the millions of people. Go out and interact on a different level and enjoy the freedom of peace of mind.
5. No more balancing emotions
Do you love her? Do you love him? Or don't you? What's an appropriate gift? Do you really like that habit of his? How will you feel next weekend? Say goodbye to all those issues in your new single life – the only emotions you need are your own. You feel exactly how you want, whenever you want, and don't have to explain it to anyone. Brilliant! You'll have peace of mind and heart. If you need attention or emotion, you can now date and experiment with others. If you need time alone, you have it. Perfect.
6. See your friends more often
Your friends always commented that they never saw you anymore when you were with that guy. You never made it to game nights anymore because you were spending too much time with her. When you're single your friends can only complain about seeing you too much because you will have all the time in the world for them. Go out and have fun with them, enjoy gossip and comfort food and go on weekend trips with different people.
7. Someone else will come along
Maybe you're just stuck hating everything because you're single now. Well, let me end by assuring you that someone else will be coming along, at any time that is appropriate for it to happen. That's how you met the last person, wasn't it? You might be a little depressed now because your phone isn't vibrating as much and you don't have someone to cuddle with, but it's all meant to be. Focus on all those fun things I mentioned up there instead, and enjoy the time you have to yourself.