Our thoughts can be so destructive.
One bad mood after another, negative energy gains momentum. Like poison, negative thoughts seep into your bloodstream, slowly infecting any ounce of happiness remaining.
Or is there another way?
Accepting The Truth
The first step to changing your thoughts is realizing how powerful your thoughts can be.
You can control your thoughts to lead you to amazing places but if you become a victim of negative thinking you're destined to nowhere.
It's an awful feeling. All my years growing up I spent thinking about how hard life was and asked why these terrible things kept happening to me and not my friends.
It took a long time to realize I was only poisoning my life with negativity and the only cure was to change my thoughts to becoming a positive person.
The problem is most of us don't notice the negative thinking going on that's slowly killing us, and if you can't acknowledge it how do you know to change?
So I came up with a list of the 10 most venomous thoughts that poison your life so you can identify and eliminate them from your life.
So many walk around acting like the world owes them a favor. The gift of life isn't good enough.
Let's make this clear: You are entitled to nothing.
The truth is you've been given the opportunity to live on this planet and there's nothing you can do to repay a blessing so grand.
Dan Sullivan, author of Laws Of Lifetime Growth, calls this a No-Entitlement-Attitude.
Live life with no entitlement and life can only exceed your expectations. Let go of expectations and see how everything you ever needed is right in front of you.
"Your genetics load the gun, your lifestyle pulls the trigger." – Mehmet Oz
Limiting yourself because of your DNA is another way of saying you're too lazy to try.
There are a few exceptions, an extra copy of the 21st chromosome causing down syndrome plays a significant role in one's abilities. Although there's amazing people who've overcome it.
But blaming your weight or mental capacity on poor genes is nothing more than an excuse.
The only thing you need to know about genes is they play a part in your life, but aren't the whole play. Not even the main character.
If you want something bad enough your genes place no limits on reaching your max potential.
Pure Bad Luck
In Napoleon Hill's book, Think & Grow Rich, he discusses the principle of auto-suggestion. When you tell yourself the same thing over and over, your subconscious mind believes it to be true.
In other words, when you continue to express how unlucky you are, your subconscious turns that belief into reality.
It's no coincidence those who are luckiest happen to be the ones who talk about how lucky they are and those with terrible luck blame bad luck for their failures.
Thoughts become things, be careful what your thoughts are manifesting into the world.
Caring What Others Think
"To avoid criticism, say nothing, do nothing and be nothing." – Aristotle
It's human nature to seek approval. When others accept us we feel good about ourselves.
It's one thing to want others to like you but never at the cost of who you are and what you believe in.
Many are afraid to stand because they're afraid to hurt someone's feelings. Instead they settle for trying to please everyone on the planet except themselves.
Whatever it is, stand for something. It doesn't matter what, but something. Stand because it's what you believe in, not because you want to be liked.
Waiting For The Right Time
"Don't wait, the time will never be just right." – Napoleon Hill
There are plenty of reasons people fail to reach their goals, but none more common than this.
Waiting for the perfect moment is useless because there's never been a more perfect moment to go after your dreams than now.
The longer you wait the harder it is to get started and the further away that perfect moment becomes.
Your life is a time ticking bomb, the sooner you get started the more time you'll have to reach your goals and enjoy the ride before it's over.
If I Only Had _____
More money, experience, time, you name it – Nothing will come by sitting there wishing you had it.
Instead of wasting your energy worrying about all you don't have focus on what you do have, because you never need as much to get started as you think you do.
The right mindset is worth more than all the money and experience in the world combined. Give someone all the money and time he needs and if he doesn't have the right mindset he'll still fail. Guaranteed.
The power of your mind is the only thing you need to get started, don't let external factors limit you in reaching your goals.
It's Not My Fault
It's easy to take credit when things go right and give the blame away when it turns sour.
Happiness comes in taking ownership for your faults. Instead of blaming someone else, embrace the mistake on your own.
When something good happens, acknowledge those who helped you and give them the credit they deserve.
By taking blame and giving credit when it's due you'll build strong relationships with others who will be more than willing to help you again and again.
There's never been a truer statement than the following: Life is what you make it.
With so many amazing things happening in the world everyday it's hard to imagine life being so bad.
Without life there's nothing. No experiences, no senses, no time. Life is the greatest thing to happen to us all.
The first step to creating the most amazing life you can imagine is changing your mindset to loving the life you live.
No alternative compares with the gift of life, being alive is a good enough reason to wake up everyday and give your all.
I'm Not Enough
We fall victim of believing we aren't smart or skinny enough because of the ideas society drills into our heads on how we should be.
We're trained to believe we aren't good enough, but it couldn't be further from the truth.
Take a moment to reflect over the course of your life – Did you finish school? Do you have a job? Have dreams and desires? Are you healthy? You're still alive aren't you?
You can't change the message from society, but you can change the message you return.
That message is you are enough.
You have everything you need to be a happy, successful person and no outside force can stop you from becoming that person.
What If I Fail
"Before success comes in any man's life, he is sure to meet with temporary defeat." – Napoleon Hill
The most destructive thought which poisons our mind is our vivid fear of failure.
We've developed the mindset that if you fail once you'll be forever known as a failure. It's become instinct to avoid failure at all costs.
It's never gonna happen.
Whether you choose to follow your dreams or to take the safe route failure always remains a possibility.
In fact, failure is inevitable. Failure is the way of The Universe determining how bad you want to reach your desires.
The only difference between someone who's failed and a true failure is a failure accepts defeat and gives up forever.
When life knocks you down, you get back up.
You will fail but you're not a failure.
No one can change or control your thoughts unless you let them.
They can strap you in chains, whip you until you bleed and lock you away forever.
They can take everything you own leaving you with no material possessions.
But they can't take away your thoughts.
The only person with the power to poison your mind is yourself.
The only person with the power to cure yourself from the suffering is yourself.
The power is in your mind for you to decide.
Abuse it, lose it, or use it, but don't ever say you didn't have a choice.
Changing from a negative perspective to an optimistic view starts by making a conscious decision to change your thoughts right now.