About Steven AitchisonFive steps to a higher IQ
Our beliefs define who are we, what we do in life, what type of friends we
have what religion we are. Beliefs define the very core of us. It
doesn’t have to be this way at all. Are you clumsy person? – Maybe
you have a belief that you are which makes it so, are you stupid? – Maybe
you have to change your belief to that of ‘I am intelligent’. Can
it really be that easy – YES it can.
Looking at your current beliefs
The amount of beliefs we have about ourselves and the world is phenomenal. Think
about a simple act such as taking the dog for a walk: your unconscious mind
is thinking about the following beliefs:
I believe it is too cold, I’ll wear a jacket
I believe that jacket does not go with my jeans I will wear another one
I believe I have to look good so I’ll just brush my hair
I believe I might look a little sad taking my dog out alone I will go for a
friend
I believe my friend thinks I am too loud I will quieten down a bit
I believe I am loyal so I will tell my friend what somebody said about them
today
I believe I am a good friend
I believe I am wearing the wrong shoes
I believe this lead for the dog is a bit gnawed I believe I will need to change
it
The above is before we’ve even taken the dog out. Our beliefs
dominate our lives but we don’t really think about them and how they
limit our lives.
I heard a client say the other day that she always finds the wrong men, the
ones who treat her badly. This is because this woman believes she can
only attract men like that, so she therefore thinks she will get no other type
of men so she dates them anyway. The more you believe something the more
you will attract that belief. It is true of anything.
Believe your way to a higher IQ
If you believe you are a bit thick, guess what? You are. If you keep
saying this to yourself, when you receive a piece of new information your brain
will tell you ‘you’re a bit thick there’s no point in trying
to comprehend what was just said, don’t even listen, in fact I’ll
just tune out intellectual stuff so you don’t need to bother with it’. You
have instructed your brain to be thick.
If you believe you are not a funny person then you never will be funny. Do
you ever meet people who are just naturally funny? Everything they say is funny?
That’s because they believe they are funny and they act accordingly. Their
brain tells them what facial expressions will elicit the funniest response,
their brain has told them what tone is the funniest, their brain has told them
what gestures to make. One of my favourite comedians, Billy Connelly,
is one of the funniest men on the planet and he told a story whereby he used
his humour to get him out of difficult situations and how everyone reacted
to his stories and he refined this year on year. If you want to be funny,
think funny and it will come.
Here are five simple ways to change a belief:
- Know what you believe. – You have to know
that what you believe about yourself. So ask yourself the question
do I believe I am [replace with a belief]. - Decide to change the belief. Simple.
- Become congruent with the belief: Whenever you come
across a situation that requires you to be congruent with your new belief
make sure you tell reinforce the new belief. For example if your new belief is
to be intelligent and you get speaking to a maths professor tell yourself
you are intelligent and can hold your own in this conversation. Tell
yourself in every situation where you believe intelligence is needed. - Test your new belief. Push your comfort zone. If
you want to believe you are more intelligent put yourself in situations
where this belief is tested for example taking a subject at college which
you previously considered out of your league. - Be patient: Some beliefs are more deeply entrenched
than others so some beliefs may take a little longer to change. However
believe they will change and they will.
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Hi, again, Steve!
I’ve been thinking a lot lately about belief. Interestingly enough, I decided a few months back that I’d like to do some training and certification for NLP, once I have enough “spare” cash to fund the courses. Now, at least twice a week since, I see license plates with “NLP” as part of the serial#.
Could be an indication that Mind or the Universe is bringing about the manifestation of my belief, n’est-ce pas?
Bill
I believe it is so Bill. What I would do, If I were you, is to intend and start believing that you will have the money to do the course. I mean really start believing. Don’t hold on too tight to the result just believe it and ‘let it go’, this is the tricky part of the law of attraction, holding the belief but not so tight that you stop it from happening.
Best wishes. Let me know how it goes.
Ok.
A lot of people speak about changing beliefs, but you just say what to do, etc.What I really want is personal examples you did something using what you just wrote here, because this words are all over the internet, ebooks, self help materials …
Mitza
There is a huge list of beliefs I have changed in my life. I will list a few here just now:
I used to believe I was stupid when I was younger, I changed this belief to one of ‘I am extremely intelligent’, and it changed my life. I went to college, then university, started reading everything I could etc.
I used to believe I would never find the perfect woman for me as my standards were too high. I changed that to ‘when the time is right I will find my perfect woman’, sure enough she came along and now we are married and I am ecstatic.
I used to believe I would never get out of debt and be able to save money (I was in debt up to about £64,000). I have a mortgage which is half the value of the house and I have no other debt and some savings in the bank and we are living comfortably. This will change again.
I used to believe intentions and the law of attraction did not work until I started trying it and now I wholeheartedly believe in it.
I would not write about this stuff if I hadn’t experienced it myself. All I ask people to do is to try it, just try it. Once you’ve had a small success this will lead your mind to alter and it will snowball from there.
Hope that helps.
Hi Steven,
I like your blog, I think you make some very valid points and I’m interested in what you have to say. I’ve subscribed so I can keep up with this place!
Keep up the good work.
Matt
it is of course not that simple, but interesting entry/article anyway.. my biggest belief change would have to be “I believe that I am quiet”, which irks me so very much because I know (I believe) it’s true… As often validated by friends or aquaintances who know me. So that makes it harder still to come out of that belief. I know it can be done, intellectually, and that many people “used to be” quiet and have overcome it as they grew up. I am not quite there yet.
Another factor in all this is expectations. People can go out with the same types of people over and over again because they maybe have not changed their expectations in a mate, analyzed past relationships enough, or are simply in one of those “patterns” they need to break..
I believe this self-talk on beliefs often stops people from doing a lot of things, like you’ve mentioned, but especially quiet people/perfectionists because it seems like they care more about what people think or how they come across. I am always scrutinizing what I should say or if I should say something in a given moment where more outgoing people just wouldn’t even think about it…
Hi Janet
Thanks for taking the time to read and reply to this article.
I didn’t say it was simple to change a belief , far from it, it’s hard going however it is simple to decide to change a belief.
Am I right in saying that you are uncomfortable with your belief about you being ‘quiet’?
You have to ask your self ‘do I want to feel comfortable being quiet or do I want to be more outgoing?’. When you decide which then you can start to work on your situation.
If you want coaching on this part of your life drop me an e-mail.
Whatever you decide I wish you the best.