56 Things I Wished I’d Known When I Was Younger

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Today I would like to offer you a different type of post, following an invitation from my fellow blogger friends Abubakar Jamil and  Farnoosh Brock . They have gathered lots of different personal development  bloggers on a topic which everyone can relate to: life lessons.  All of 70+ bloggers who have participated have different life lessons to share so it is well worth visiting the life lessons page.

I’ve learned many lessons in life, and every single one of them I am grateful for.  So without further ado here are 56 Things I wished I’d known when I was younger.

56 Things I Wished I’d Known When I was Younger

  1. I wish I’d known that failure was an option.
  2. I wish I’d known there’s a difference between friends and drinking buddies.
  3. I wish I’d known honesty, in all situations, is always, always, always the best policy.
  4. I wish I’d known how to grow a pair and be more assertive.
  5. I wish I’d known how to feel comfortably weird about being a little weird.
  6. I wish I’d known how much my mum and dad really loved me, and all the warnings I got came from a place of love.
  7. I wish I’d known that my thoughts don’t have to dictate my life.
  8. I wish I’d known that home really is where the heart is.
  9. I wish I’d known that intelligence is not something you’re born with, it’s something that can be worked on.
  10. I wish I’d known that being positive can really change your thoughts which can indeed change your life.
  11. I wish I’d known how to be myself more and not tried to imitate Tom Cruise’ (Top Gun) confidence (Although singing, ‘You’ve lost that Loving Feeling’ to girls sometimes did work :) )
  12. I wish I’d known that the jacket of life could be altered to suit me.
  13. I wish I’d known how to say No!
  14. I wish I’d known that the phrase ‘just try it’ should apply to everything we do in life.
  15. I wish I’d known that not being perfect is okay, and, in fact, striving for perfection is an impossible task.
  16. I wish I’d known that not being ‘well off’ didn’t mean I didn’t have a rich life.
  17. I wish I’d known that losing myself in a book wasn’t a substitute for living.
  18. I wish I’d known that my thoughts actually control how I feel, and how I feel affects the way I see the world.
  19. I wish I’d known that sex is a physical act and that love is something different altogether.
  20. I wish I’d known that having two strong sisters was a blessing.
  21. I wish I’d known that formal education was only one option in life and not the only, or best,  option.
  22. I wish I’d known that starting a business didn’t require as much planning or money as I’d thought.
  23. I wish I’d known never to settle for second best, whether it be in relationships, product choice, or employment.
  24. I wish I’d known that loving yourself was a pre-requisite to truly loving others.
  25. I wish I’d known how to plan my finances better.
  26. I wish I’d known that everything I ever stressed out about would not matter one year later.
  27. I wish I’d known that TV numbs the mind.
  28. I wish I’d known that my mistakes would define me as the person I am today.
  29. I wish I’d known that perfection is never going to happen.
  30. I wish I’d known never to actively participate in gossip, it’s the black death of the soul.
  31. I wish I’d known that nobody can be changed, no matter how hard you try to change them.  People change because the pain of changing is less than the pain of not changing.
  32. I wish I’d known how to express my love more.
  33. I wish I’d known that my regrets in life stopped me from moving on.  When it’s done, forget it and move on.
  34. I wish I’d known that helping others was the real path to helping every area of my own life, business, and personal.
  35. I wish I’d known that change is inevitable, and rather than fighting it, I should have befriended it.
  36. I wish I’d known not to waste my time and mental energy on people who didn’t matter in my life.
  37. I wish I’d known that life is a balance and I dictate the ratios.
  38. I wish I’d known that it’s okay not to know everything.
  39. I wish I’d known to live in the moment, and not in the future or the past.
  40. I wish I’d known that trusting myself would allow great things to happen.
  41. I wish I’d known that not all people are bad, but not all people are good either.
  42. I wish I’d known that what’s right for me is not necessarily right for others.
  43. I wish I’d known that although responsibility can seem scary, when embraced it gives understanding acceptance and choice.
  44. I wish I’d known that one of lifes skills is to be able to spot genuine people.
  45. I wish I’d known that things have to come to an end to be able to experience new, exciting things in the future.
  46. I wish I’d known that learning doesn’t finish when you leave school.
  47. I wish I’d known how to trust my instincts more.
  48. I wish I’d known that the world is as big as you allow it to be.
  49. I wish I’d known that I had choices, and my route may need to change but perseverance always got me through.
  50. I wish I’d known that the world does not owe you any favours, you have to step up to the plate and be counted.
  51. I wish I’d known that happiness is not defined by financial wealth.
  52. I wish I’d known the importance of working out what was right for me.
  53. I wish I’d known that all actions, always have a consequence.
  54. I wish I’d known that my needs and desires would change over time.
  55. I wish I’d known that doing what I wanted to do was not necessarily me being selfish.
  56. I wish I’d known that where you are born does not dictate where you will end up in life.

Is there anything you would add to this list from your own perspective, I would love to hear it?

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  1. Anaja paul says:

    thanks to you STEVEN AITCHISON i want to really appreciate you from the depth of my heart for this articles,it is life transforming.
    i truly wished i had know that tomorrow is the day reserved for the labour of the laggard man,that each surpassing day add to the end of our lives
    i also wished i had known that there is difference between light and darkness,and that a tiny sparks will light up every darken area.thanks

  2. I loved this post. So much knowledge dropped on me and so much relearning of things I already knew.

    “I wish I’d known there’s a difference between friends and drinking buddies.”

    Such an important one to learn when you are young and if you are trying to achieve something. All of them were great. Thanks for this post. It has given me strength.
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  3. I wish I would have known that I’m not stupid no matter how many times my mother said I was. I wish I would have known that I am much wiser and stronger than I ever give myself credit for.

    Hope all is well!

    Melissa Curran
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  4. I’ve always made it a point when I was younger to remind myself that we all go through this stuff together, yet on our own timeline. It’s easy to feel alone in these kinds of experiences, but really, we’re all in the company of each other’s same fears.

    I talk about this in a video about people with social anxiety. It’s the best example I can think of because it outlines a constant fear that anxiety suffers repeat to themselves. In reality, their in the exact same situation as others. The difference? The people with social anxiety have a constant introspection of the world around them.

    I think this list does a good job of challenging and RATIONALIZING these kinds of “dwelling thoughts” one by one and from a standpoint of the future. Thanks.

  5. Ahmed Ibrahim says:

    Thanks

  6. I wish I had known that I can achieve my potential at any point in my life. Not being a child prodigy does not mean I have lost my chance to become an adult genius.

    I wish I had known that time foregone will never return and that no two seconds in life is identical.

  7. Thank u for sharing this post………………

  8. Theres lots of things I wish I had done differently
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  9. Jinelle says:

    Its nice to know all the mistakes we do..Can I contribute this to the newspaper??

  10. Really helpful…….I imagined myself while reading these points……

  11. I’m 16 so this post might help me. So, how do you define “real living” and how do we do “real living” ? What do you think I should do instead of reading books so that I could do “real living” ?

    And what other alternatives is there other than “formal education” ?

    Yes, I am aware this question looks stupid. And I do not care. I am still 16 but I do not want to waste my life.

    • In my opinion real living is just getting up, going out and doing something, anything. Stories in books and films are just descriptions, real or fictional, of people living. They can inform, excite and entertain but they should detract from you actually going out into the world and making your own stories.

      The alternative to a formal education is an informal one, i.e going out, finding work and experience and carving your own education from the world. You may not get a certificate at the end of it but the lessons can often be far more valuable and resonant to you. Formal or informal the key is education! So whatever you do, just always remember to always learn from it.
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  12. Excellent post. There are many on that list I would also have liked to know when I was younger, but I guess it’s useless to mourn over the past. As for some of them, I’ve got to thank you. I just knew about them, and that’s thanks to you!
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  13. Thank you. That is all the words i could say to you. Thak you a lot. I’m from Tahiti, french Polynesia.

  14. truly there are things which i wished i’d known earlier for my life to have taken a better turn. nevertheless, i am still grateful i get to read articles like this one. it’s good you came up with “change your thoughts,change your life” because now i realized the quality of our lives greatly depend on how we think. because when we change our thinking, we change the way we act and change our life. breakthrough can actually come from reading a lot of materials like this because it all boils down to thinking right. now that i am older, i look back and wished i’d known some things earlier but it is never too late. sometimes maturity comes with age. :) thank you so very much and more power.

  15. Thank you an incredible put up, can read one’s others posts. thank you your notions with this, I soon became a lttle bit thump by this post. Many thanks again! You make a great moment. Portrays natures best by the excellent report here. I think if more people consideration for it like this, they’d have got a better moment in time receive the hold ofing the difficulty.

  16. LOVE THIS…wish I had known it was ok to laugh more, to see all the good in everything! You have done quite a terrific job on this post…BRAVO

  17. I don’t agree with #27. It depends what kind of TV you watch. There are a lot of mind challenging shows out there

  18. wow.. what a great posting. I’ve read several of your postings. and All of that was amazing. I’ve also read your free-book-download and I was very inspirated with that. I hope I can have others. but, I’m just a Junior High School Student and my parents doesn’t have money enough to buy me that. could you give me any alternative?

  19. looooooooooooooved it!

  20. Fergen Denja says:

    I wish I’d known that sex is a physical act and that love is something different altogether.

    Wow, what a cold ascetic world you live in, where sex is nothing more than for pleasure and reproduction – note you say different “altogether”, i.e. exclusive, xor etc. Sex shouldn’t be cold and loveless, hope you learn that someday.

    To speak of it, most of this is cliché escapism, if man simply knew his place, never spoke up, treated the physical as lifeless, and kept content, we would never progress. Feeling angry, pain and yes even erotic love, is what spurs us to progress – being attached and caring about the world passionately, makes us progress.

  21. Do you think the last one really works for everyone? I mean many of us are very attached to the born places, they got deep roots in time and won’t change the location for nothing in the world so to say.

  22. Good blog. I got a lot of great info. I’ve been watching this technology for awhile. It’s fascinating how it keeps varying, yet some of the core factors remain the same. Have you seen much change since Google made their most recent acquisition in the domain?

  23. Nice article. I didn’t know many og the above when I was young either. I understand alot of them now, but reading your article still serves as a good reminder. Its a shame so many young people spend so much of their time plagued with self doubt and worrying about how their peers thing of them. Still I guess thats what growing up is all about :)
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  24. I Wished I’d Known When I was Younger that

    life is full of surprises
    nothing lasts
    everything happens for a reason
    never say never
    people come into my life for me to be of benefit to them
    the longer i live, the more people i lose
    “i wish i had ….” are the saddest words

  25. Hi,

    This is so timely and felt have been living inside a hole and finaly out!!!

    Am at a point of making a decision if to stay on move out of my Job. Have not been happy since I got on the train. Yes, pay is great but am miserable. Today I made my decision and acted. Doubts, kids, parents and other lots, cut in lifestyle, etc are all staring at me as if am crazy.

    I feel so exalted, yet av to be practical and start to live right and explore my opportunities.

    Having said all, I need all your support, thanks

  26. i totally love it!!!!!!! thanks so much for inspiring people like myself…… im jus 20 but i wish i knew these things wen i was younger…. keep up the good work :)

  27. See, the beauty of this.. is that through out your life; You learned all this.

  28. I wish it had a “Ilove it” button! You know this can change many people. Now that I have read it to myself I will it read it to my family an close friends! This is very very good!

  29. Hey Steve, thanks for posting this. Luckily, I read it after making a decision and realized my mistake. Thanks for the great advice, and I hope that I can fix it.

    Seeing as I’m only 15, some of this is really great to know, before I need to write a list like this. Keep up the great posts.

  30. hello this is very interesting! Having just finished university has left me thinking about the grand scheme of things and to seem them clearer helps greatly. I have just made an animation which covers some of these thoughts- here is it-
    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eWaIj0xSN-U i hope you like it

    thankyou for your words

  31. Carol Kerns says:

    This is a great start! I would add…

    I wish I’d known that if the people in your life just don’t GET you, it doesn’t mean you’re hopelessly weird — it means you need to meet some new people.

  32. Thank you that was a wonderful post! I only knew that there is a difference between friends and acquittance (thats what my father told me once when I told him that a “friend” of mine had come to see me)

  33. hilary Duenk says:

    Great post. Couldn’t have “stumbled upon” it at a better time. Thanks.

  34. I really like this blog post. May I have your permission to re-post it on my blog, crediting to you and linking your blog?

  35. I wish I’d known that personal change comes much more easily when we let go of the struggle.

  36. I can really relate to this one.

  37. Eleana Kazakeou says:

    I’m in my very early twenties and reading these things made me realise that above all, it’s the human in us that counts… Thanks so much for the great advice and I’ll definitely try and take a path that works for me.

  38. Those are all great thoughts that I identify with. Number one especially resonates with me. I wish I’d known that just because you fail at something doesn’t mean you’re always going to fail at it. For years I never attem pted to do certain things because I had failed earlier when I was a boy. In later life I discovered that they were easy, I just wasn’t ready for them when I was a boy. I taught my own kids that failure is not only an option but essential in any undertaking, it’s just a part of the learning process.
    Great list, thanks for posting it.
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  39. Thank you for putting this out there, hopefully a lot of young kids will pick this up and use it. I’m gonna tweet it !

    Anne

  40. As a teenager still starting out in life, I am sincerely grateful for this post. It provides much foresight I hadn’t yet considered. Thank you.

  41. I loved this, all of them, especially #31!

  42. There are definitely some great items on this list! Although I’m only in my 20s, I have learned some of this so far and wish I had known it sooner.

    Thanks!

    –Alyssa
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  43. Steve-

    All I can say is Thank YOU! Many items that are so true. Good for you. More positive messages need to be put out there. My niece sent me this link and am so glad. Keep spreading the word.

    • Hi Park, please thank your niece for me :) I am so glad you enjoyed it.

      • suzanne brown says:

        hi steven, just found a few of ur blogs and i just wanna say you inspire me. Im 21 and i just want to learn soo much more in life, more knowledge, skills things i am able to pass on to others. but the thing is i’ve never had the right people around me to teach me, i learn alot from the internet but its not the same as face to face. Most of all i know my talents i am a very good singer, but its pretty hard in the music buisness, i wanna learn other ways of making money working damn hard to achieve great things in life and not look back on my life and regret not doing anything with it….

  44. What a lot of simplistic garbage! This list is for the simple-minded, the naive, and the gullible. A lot of this stuff most people would’ve either figured out in kindergarten, or realize is not true.

    Sorry, but Mummy and Daddy didn’t love you after all, they were just good liars.

  45. This is so true. Luckily, I am not too old yet and I don’t have to make mistakes other did, I still got time and I am grateful for it. I am adding this to my bookmarks so I can read it everyday and to remind me of all important things in life. Thank you for this!

  46. Your list is so awe inspiring particularly for me, living in a strife torn country, with a really bad history of injustices. If I could add anything it would be .. I wish I’d known I could DARE TO BE DIFFERENT. Thanks for a wonderful blog … from Sunny South Africa

  47. Thank you that was a wonderful post!
    Another thing I would like to add:
    “I wish Id know that just because my family believes it, doesnt mean I have to.”
    “I wish id known that highschool was only a state of mind.”

  48. Thanks Steven, that list really made me think. At 61 I now feel that I do know most of those things – but how I would have loved to have known just some of them 40 years ago. It would have made life much easier then, but of course our youth is a learning time, and maybe to really learn those lessons we have to discover them for ourselves – the hard way. Great food for thought.

  49. At 20 years old, I’m guilty of about 30 of these. But I hope I still have time to fix the rest of them. I’m extremely glad I “stumbled “onto this. It made my night a little easier.
    Thanks. :)

  50. i would add that i wish i had know the love a parent gives a child for my parents did not love me the way they should have loved me.

  51. Finally someone else gets it… The sooner you understand these, the better life becomes.

  52. Hey Steven,
    I know you’ve gotten this a lot, but GREAT LIST! I stumbled upon this awesome list and I truly appreciate all the time spent on the things you’ve learned from the past. I’m still on the ‘younger’ scale (15 years old), and now I have a different perspective on life and how I should approach everything and anything. I’m definitely printing this out and hanging it on my wall.

    You have helped refresh the outlook on life to dozens of people and now I got a guide to life. Awesome, you rule. Thanks!
    Lisa

    • Thanks for your comments Lisa. As a 15 year old the biggest lesson I wished I had known was to ‘Be myself, and not care what others thought of me’, A hard lesson, but if you can find a way you’re set for life. Thanks for your comments.

  53. If you had known these things, you wouldn’t have learned these things…and then you wouldn’t be the person you are today. So, my question is do you really wish you had known all of these things? Or, are you glad you had the opportunity to learn them?

    • Hi Sam. Good question – I wished I had known a lot of the things on the list and I guess some of the others i would want to experience in order for me to become the person I am today.

  54. I wish I’d known that how you see people in the privacy of your mind has a direct impact on their lives. See someone as strong, and that is what they become, see them as kind and loving and the same applies :)

    I wish I’d known that what is true to me, is not always true to someone else.

    I wish I’d known that that everyone is the centre of their own universe, and our internal worlds are infinitely different.

    I wish I’d known that you never know what someone else is thinking or going through and that your judgements of those things only lead to your pain or theirs.

    I wish I’d known how to love unconditionally :)

    I wish I’d known the value of vulnerability.

  55. Wow Steven. You shared some powerful life lessons here. There are so many that I love, which makes it hard to just pick a couple to elaborate on. Actually, much of what you wished you knew when you were younger remains unknown to many people throughout their lives. The fact that you have this knowledge to share with the world shows that you’ve truly been committed to personal growth. I commend you.
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  56. Awesome list. I agree on too many to talk about. If only. :)

  57. Kiptum Sing'Oei says:

    Excellent post Steve! Thanks for sharing insights that make such tremendous difference in our lives. I am a little confused, however, about the ‘thought’ aspect of things you wish to have known. For instance you say, “I wish I’d known that my thoughts don’t have to dictate my life,” but later on you suggest “I wish I’d known that my thoughts actually control how I feel, and how I feel affects the way I see the world.” So how do you reconcile this seeming contradiction? Overall, your posts bless my life. Thanks ever so much.

    • Hi Kiptum. I understand what you are saying. The two lessons are different altogether; ‘My thoughts don’t dictate my life’ – a realisation that I can change my thoughts, therefore change my life. I am in control of my thoughts, my thoughts are not in control of me. ‘My thoughts control how I feel ‘ – thoughts lead to a feeling and the realisation that my thoughts control how I feel allowed me to be able to change my thoughts in order to change the way I feel.

      Hope that makes sense :)

  58. Steven,

    This is a great list, and a most wonderful addition to the Life Lessons series! These are very powerful lessons that you share!

    Thank you for sharing your list!
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  59. Steve that’s more than amazing it helped me alot for real
    and I think I’m still young to say things I wish I’d know ,lol
    I’m happy really to read this article
    Greetings from Egypt

    • Thanks Asma, all the way from Egypt :)

      I am happy you liked the list and it helped you. You’re never too young to have experiences in life. Thanks for you comments and hope to see you back again.

  60. Silvia Ranova says:

    I wish I’d known that the feeling of being loved and loving is the best feeling you can ever experience :)

  61. What a wonderful post! Now am even more excited about the Daily Brainstorm updates. It is a fabulous way to take stock/think back/improve. I can’t wait to make a list of ‘n’ things I wish I’d known… Thanks so much – Steven.
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  62. Hi Steven,
    The best post i ever read.i am really lucky to come across your blog.Thanks for sharing
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  63. Most of these are things I wish I’d known too.

    I wish I’d known my life was going to get better as it went along. That would have helped quite a lot at times.
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  64. Dear Steve, this is so VERY fascinating. For me, reading this wasn’t so much about the lessons you did learn or the things that you wish had known when you were younger. For me, it was more about seeing your deeper side, your personal longings and character, what was and wasn’t important to you. There is a much deeper message here that the things you’ve learned. It is basically like an outline of who you are and what is important to you. I found that deeply moving, and such a delightful mix of Steve, both young and adult, a beautiful expression of the Steve Aitchison I’ve grown to know and respect. Hugs to you dear friend, Robin
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  65. Great lessons, sounds like we went through a lot of the same realizations.

    I’m planning on taking the same challenge as well. One of my top lessons I’ve learned from the past is that relationships come first, then everything else will fall in place.

    Now, time to make the rest of my list.
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  66. Hi Stephen,

    I really love this and there are so many things I wish I had known earlier – many of these resonate. Having said that, if we had known all these things earlier, would life had been so interesting or exciting? Would we be the people we are now?
    I’m sure in 10 years there will be 100s of things I wish I knew now, but I am learning them:)
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  67. Truly awesome post! Great job, Steven! It’s a pleasure to read such informative and interesting articles. Thanks for sharing!
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  68. wow, awesome… I wish I would of known that giving love would bring me so much more love in return… Nicely done Steven!
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  69. Steven I am glad you decided to join in on this one. I had a feeling if you did whatever you wrote would be special. I was right.
    Apart from reading no. 4 twice and having a giggle I could agree with so many of them. But that’s the thing about life – if you can’t giggle about where you are and where you have been it would be a dull world.
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    • Hi Marion, you’ve got to be able to laugh and reflect on the lessons that have been learned,or else we wouldn’t have learned from them :), thanks for your comments, always appreciated.

  70. Akeem Jagunna says:

    Steve,

    This is extremely good. I have sent it to all users in my domain.

    my evluation, i only skipped two out of 56, i mean i am guilty of 54…

    God bless you for this and more to come…

  71. Hi Steven,
    I found myself nodding while i read this and saying “me too” far too many times. Just goes to show…how much we all learn in this journey of life..if we choose to. I think we are all lucky that we have chosen to learn rathr than live oblivious lives like so many …
    Thank you for sharing your life lessons. Much for me to ponder on..
    Lots of love,
    Z~
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  72. Wow Steven… this is tremendous… you dug really deep here. Creating higher expressions of our entirety requires that we go through the “School of Hard Knocks” to learn these lessons.

    I wish had known that going through the School of Hard Knocks was inevitable… but that suffering need not be a prerequisite.

  73. As what would probably be termed a ‘young person’ myself, I think a lot of these are very relevant to me… and the strange thing is, I wish I knew them too. It’s odd, because I obviously do now know them, having read the list… but I think some things you have to experience to learn.
    Despite that, I’m touched by your honesty and… well, just this blog in general. Cheers for having it.

  74. Great post Steven, quite interesting when you insert “I now know” at the beginning of your 56 points, you may need to change the tense. Now that would be growth.

  75. Wow – that’s such an incredible post Steve. I can totally see why it took you so long to put it together. I love that about you – that you’re not afraid to be deep when you write. And thank you for this great post. It kind of makes a list of things to be greatful for :)

    My favorites – 18, 26, 40, 47…
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  76. Fantastic post. I wish I’d read this 25 years ago. Love, respect and taking risks are powerful themes. I’m sending the link to my twenty something kids.

  77. Turyatunga Joseph says:

    many people have one through suffering simply because some of important information listed above are not at their disposal. i rely appreciate thanks for good work.

  78. Great list Steven! I agree with a couple of comments above, you need to live through the experiences to learn about them. That´s what life is for. A couple of years back I attended a seminar for the youths of a political party as a reporter. One thing that left in my mind was a girl in her early 20´s who in a speech said that she felt she become more and more cynical the older she grows. I think life teaches us to be either cynical or humble and even if we are cynical early in life we can become humble later on and probably also vice versa.
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    • Hi Tom, I agree with you there about experiencing the lessons to learn about them, but we can still get insights before we have to experience them which alters the way we look at the world a tiny bit.

      I know what you mean about being cynical and it’s like a sine wave, we are young and naive and think people are good, then we get a little wiser and find out there are some not so nice people, then we get older and learn to filter out the good from the bad and become a little more mellow.

  79. Great post. Very thought-provoking. Thanks for sharing.

    Here’s what I wish I had known:

    If you want something, you have to ask for it. If you don’t ask, the answer is always no.
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  80. This is the kind of list that’s good to print off (which I did :) and stick it where you’ll see it often (which I did) to remind yourself of truths you know but tend to forget when you get caught up in life. Thanks!

    One that I learned, finally, is “I wish I’d known that the more you complain, the worse things get.”
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    • Hi Ande, thanks for printing this off, it’s the biggest compliment when a reader thinks that a post is good enough to print off, you made my ay :)

      Thanks for adding to the list as well, and i totally agree with what you’re saying about complaining.

  81. Hindsight is 20/20 :P

    The thing is, most of the time we need to go through the experience of failure in order to learn our lesson.
    Steven recently posted..PsychNews- Oct 24 – 30

  82. Good list, Steven. Got an especially good chuckle complete with “AHA” moment from “…life is a balance and I dictate the ratios.”
    Thankyou!
    Sylvan

  83. Hello Steven,
    Thanks for undertaking this. As I read your list many of the items resonate for me. For me 23, 24, 39 and 40 were hard lessons to learn. On one hand, I wish I had learned life lessons the first time they were presented to me, rather than resisting and having them presented to me over and over again until I finally got them. On the other, the learning process made me stronger and more resilient.
    timethief recently posted..Costume Trunk Treasures

  84. Thank you for sharing these little bits of wisdom with us, Steve! Entire posts could easily be written about each of these. I especially liked this one: “I wish I’d known that loving yourself was a pre-requisite to truly loving others.” Knowing that in high school and college could have saved me and others a lot of heartache. At the same time though, how do you learn these life lessons without going through them? ;)
    Adrienne recently posted..The 9th Principle- Let It Go

  85. Lovely list, Steve. I feel like sharing it with my daughter so she can embrace these things early. Inspired.
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    • Thanks Katie. If someone had shown me a list like this when I was younger it would have been great, however I guess you have to experience it to understand it better.

      • Rafael Rigual says:

        Making the wrong choices in life is what life is all about. Think about it. If you had to do it all over again, would you really do it differently? You would not know because that list (just like you stated earlier) would not have been presented to you. So, you will do it the same because of who you are. I have often wondered what path my life would have taken if I would have done the right instead of the wrong. Age has taught me that it really does not matter. What matters is that I have learned from the experience. We will keep repeating the mistake until the lesson is learned. Life is a journey and we never stop learning until we die.
        Thank you for posting this list

        Rafael

        • Rafael Rigual says:

          Oh, one more thing. Food for thought. If all of the answers were laid out in front of us, what would be the point in living? It might get kind of boring. Just a thought.

          Rafael

        • Hi Rafael. The list is not a list of regrets, it’s a list to help others look at their own life, as well as helping me reflect on my life. I would have probably changed a few things on the list, but most of the experiences have made me the person I am today, so I get what you’re saying here.

  86. Steven – This post is so rich! So much resonated for me. I realized how this lesson has a deeper meaning: “I wish I’d known that home really is where the heart is.” Yes, and losing yourself in a book – or the internet for that matter – is not a substitute for real living. The most important lesson of my life has been understand the nature of reality.

    Thanks for this deluge of wisdom.
    Sandra Lee recently posted..The Web of Love and 5 Beautiful Bloggers

    • Thanks for your comments Sandra.

      When I first read Steve Pavlina’s post on the nature of reality that’s when it really sunk in with me, so I know what you mean about understanding the nature of reality.

  87. This amazing post is brilliant, sublime, moving, touching and the MOST powerful post I have read in the life lesson series. It EVEN tops my own ;)!
    Steven, this is the most incredible post I have read here – maybe with the exception of your post about the one night that changed your life (and for which we are ever so grateful). THANK YOU a million times for doing this, for being such a good sport and participating and completely blowing us away! Retweeting, sharing on Facebook & other social bookmarks because it is THAT good!
    Farnoosh recently posted..A Magical Elephant Encounter

  88. Steve,

    Thank you so much for this post. Great lessons indeed!

    I can relate to a lot of them myself and I’m sure everyone reading it will to,o and hopefully not repeat the same mistakes again.

    • Thanks Abubakar. This post was going to be a quick one for me and I expected to finish it in an hour or so, but it eventually took about 4-5 hours, but I am extremely happy you asked me to do this.

      • But these 4-5 hours are well worth the effort. ;)

      • I think all that you have is great and people should read them and think about them. Personally, I wish I knew when I was younger more about people as they are individually with all of their imperfections and flaws; such as addiction. I didn’t understand it though didn’t partake in them, my friends and people I loved did. I wish I would have understood what addiction really is.

        I did know that sex and love were two different things, just didn’t understand that sex can produce a child requiring a lifetime of committment, literally! I didn’t understand life very well and really needed to before giving birth.

        I also didn’t understand that committment to a job that supported my family, but made me miserably unhappy, could be changed. I thought I had to stay no matter how unhappy I was because I had a family to care for. Fact is, I could have found another job and even left and gave myself a couple of weeks of vacation! May have been less money but I would have been happy, therefore healthier. The job, the people, made me sick. Wish I would have not stayed as long as I did.

        I also wish I would have understood how fast life really goes by and the importance of a moment, a kind word, a smile, a helping hand, instead of focusing on my own personal issues constantly.

        I think you just about covered everything but being a woman I would probably add details such as those I have just presented!

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