Over the last 9 years of working online, and offline,helping thousands of people around the world with my Guided Meditations, Positive Affirmations, coaching and various other products, there is one technique I have developed to heal, strengthen and attract relationships in your life, that has had amazing results for everyone who has used it.
Before I go on and tell you what this technique is I would like to share with you how it started.
About 16 years ago I was working with a company called BritishÂ Telecommunications in the UK and was a customer service advisor on theÂ phone so when a customer had a problem or wanted to buy a new service they would initially get through to someone like me. While I was workingÂ there the management changed quite frequently, this is not uncommon inÂ this type of environment.
I had one particular boss, who happened to be female, who didnâ€™t take to meÂ at all. I thought that she was OK, although she was very aggressive. SheÂ lacked assertiveness but she was aggressive in the way she spoke andÂ treated people, both staff and customers. Not nice at all but underneath it all she was actually an ok person but she came across as extremely aggressiveÂ and it came across that she didnâ€™t like me at all, to the extent that my colleagues started commenting on it.
I was part of a sales team who were the top sellers in the company, in Glasgow. Â She headed up the new team and was a bitÂ of a tyrant and set high targets for ourselves and herself.
When I was selling to people on the phone I used to do it in a different wayÂ from the others. However, I was still getting the great results and a lot of the sales and hitting my high targets but what I was doing was selling in an authentic way. I wouldnâ€™t just sell somebody something for the sake of it, I would tell the truth about the product i.e. I would tell the truth about the sale; â€˜I donâ€™tâ€™ think thatâ€™s good for you, you should maybe take that off your service, youâ€™re paying for something you donâ€™t really needâ€™. Now that customer would go off and think oh my god thatâ€™s someone being really honest thatâ€™s refreshing to hear and people would frequently comment on that, and often buy more products from me.
Anyway this manager didnâ€™t like this and didnâ€™t like the way I operated andÂ she just generally didnâ€™t like me. There was contempt there for me, so I wasÂ trying to think of way to strength our relationship because I was going toÂ have to work with her every single day and have contact with her at morningÂ meetings etc.
So I decided to try a technique I had heard about at a seminar, which I modified.
Now, I tried this technique with this woman at work, this boss I had and itÂ took about two weeks of genuinely trying, in total about 5 attempts, and ourÂ relationship began to change. She started to engage with me, to laugh withÂ me, not at me. The relationship was getting much better; I kept on trying the technique, mostly in the morning.
After about 4 weeks, our relationship had completely changed and we became a force within BT. She seemed to mellow out a little, so much so that the team started to relax and even enjoy drinks with her on nights out, which is something she previously did not do. Â On one such night out, we had a chance to have a talk whilst being slightly merry from the drink. Â I asked her what had changed over the last few weeks as she had seemed to mellow out a little. Â She looked at me and said she honestly didn’t know, but she felt there had been some kind of change in her, but couldn’t explain it. Needless to say I didn’t tell her about the relationship bubble.
The Relationship Bubble
Basically what we do here is we spend 5 – 10 mins just before weâ€™re drifting off to sleep and 5 â€“ 10 minutes as we are waking up in the morning, depending how often you want to spend on it, and we do a visualization.
When you get to the stage of drifting off to sleep imagine a huge, clear bubble, big enough to fit about 10 people in. Â Imagine this bubble floating up into the night sky and watch it as it slowly gets higher and higher. Â You then imagine yourself floating up to the bubble, you are weightless and the feeling you get is amazing, floating and drifting in space, you are connected to the world. Â As you float towards the bubble, a door opens and you step inside the bubble, which has a clear floor with two chairs angled towards each other. Â Take a seat in one of the chairs and just watch the world below you through the clear, glass likeÂ bubble.
Now it’s time to ask the person you’d like to join you. Â This could be someone you’re having difficulty with, or someone you’d like to have a better relationship with. Â from the bubble you see the person floating up through the sky towards the door of the bubble. Â You open the door and invite them in. Â They might look a little bewildered, as you offer them the chair to sit down on.
After a few seconds you start to talk to them telling them how you feel, and why you have asked them here. Â get everything off your chest, and speak the truth. Â After you have finsihed talking, stay silent and wait for them to speak, and as they speak listen to them, really listen. Â And then, let the conversation flow, staying calm and relaxed, safe in the knowledge that nothing can harm you here.
After you have finished your conversation, thank the person for coming and then gently let the bubble float back down to earth and drift off into a deep sleep.
Simplicity and Uses
Believe me it might sound extremely simple but it really is going to work when you try this technique.
I was going to explain my theories on why it works so well, but I don’t want to taint your thinking about this, so I’ll leave that part for another time, or maybe add it in this article later on.
When to Use It
To resolve a difficult relationship
If you’re having difficulty with someone at work, in your family, or in your social circle the relationship bubble can be an amazing way to gain insights into why the relationship is rocky and work on resolving the issues.
To strengthen a relationship
The relationship Bubble is an amazing way to strengthen an already good relationship with someone, to become more loving, to become more caring, or to speak about the little things that may be bothering you.
Resolve family issues
I’ve used this lots of times when I have been worried about family members, and they are not particularly open to talking. Â The relationship Bubble offers a secure way to speak to someone, and to help you decrease your anxiety or worry about a family member. Â There’s been more than a few occasions that family members, who previously would not speak about their problems, have opened up a day or two after I used the bubble.
Attracting a relationship
If you would like to attract a relationship in your life, whether it be personal, business or just for social reasons, then the relationship bubble is great for this. Â Instead of summoning someone who you know, you just summon someone, knowing that the right person will join you in the bubble.
This is also a great way to attract more customers, for example if you’re a sales person, you can attract customers using this technique as well.
Doubting the technique
I know that a lot of readers will be thinking, ‘how can this work, all I am doing is talking and listening to myself’. Â Well, all I can really say is try it and see the difference it makes in your life and with your relationships with other people. Â As I said I don’t want to give my theory as to why it works, but just know that it works.
I would love to hear your stories about how you have used this technique and how successful it was for you. Â So if you decide to be open minded and really use it, let me know how you get on.