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How your thoughts shape your reality

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We are what we think. All that we are arises with our thoughts. With our thoughts we make the world." Buddha

From an esoteric and quantum physics viewpoint, our thoughts, feelings, beliefs and intentions effect our energy field. Science discovered that there is a huge unified universal energy field and we are all in this field together. In 1944, Max Plank identified the existence of this unified field and called it ‘the Matrix’. He believed that, underlying everything we can see, our bodies included, there's an intelligent and conscious mind. Gregg Braden calls this ‘the Divine Matrix’. Others call it ‘God’ or the ‘Universal Mind’.

Our individual energy fields are constantly interacting with each other and with this vast universal energy field. Our thoughts and feelings are shaping and influencing our energy field, each and every moment of our lives, and the energy we radiate effects what we experience. Our individual energy field is constantly communicating with everything around us. Perhaps this puts in perspective just how incredibly powerful our thoughts, feelings, beliefs and intentions are!

For example, if we carry a large amount of negative emotions and traumatic memories in our energy field, this may have an impact on our daily life. We may have low self-esteem and be hesitant to take initiatives and to stand up for ourselves. We may make choices that are not in our best interest. We may have difficult relationships as the people in our lives are reflecting back to us our inner turmoil.

On the other hand, having a predominantly positive outlook and generally feeling good about ourselves it is much more likely that we will have positive experiences in life. We might be better at listening to our intuition and make better choices. Our relationships might be more fulfilling as they will reflect our positive outlook back to us.

We are constantly creating our reality – positive or negative or somewhere in-between.

The inside is more important than the outside

When I discovered that there was a limit to what I could change on the outside, I started to go within. When you come to the realization that what goes on inside of you is the most important thing in your life, you have what is often referred to as an ‘awakening’. There isn’t really anything on the outside, because everything on the outside, so to speak, is a result of what is going on inside. Your thoughts, attitudes, feelings and beliefs are reflected outwards in the form of your experiences, relationships and events. It is all one energy.

For example, have you noticed that when you are stressed, other things seem to go wrong too? This is due to acting from a place of disharmony. Your inner mental or emotional state is out of balance, and the result is that this is reflected outwards in the form of stressful or challenging experiences. On the other hand, if you’re feeling calm inside, things seem to go well. Your day flows well, you have good conversations with people around you and you may discover something fun or interesting.

Of course, this may not always be the case. You can feel stressed and things still work out OK. It is when the stress and the negativity have reached a critical point that it is starts to affect your life and your circumstances more seriously. We are designed to be able to handle a certain amount of stress, difficulties and challenges, and most of us are able to work things out and move back into a more positive and relaxed state. However, it is when we are suffering from long-term stress, or even trauma, that this can dominate our life and result in negative experiences, such as health problems, relationship problems, depression and things just generally not working out so well.

So, whether you’re aware of it or not, your power to think, feel and imagine is working all the time. We are constantly visualizing, or seeing things, in our mind’s eye, and those thoughts and images are the first step in what we create in our lives, just like an architect first has a thought about how they want a building to look and then makes it a reality. However, it can be a bit of a challenge to become aware of our own thought patterns, but once we become aware, we can also start changing them.

Who’s talking?

It is estimated that the human brain processes between 50,000–70,000 thoughts per day. There is always something going on in the mind, and unfortunately most of those thoughts are repetitive, dwelling in the past, fearful of the future or simply utter nonsense. How many of these thoughts do you think you are aware of?

Most of the repetitive thoughts are on automatic – programmed into the subconscious mind and beyond our conscious awareness. And did you know that the conscious mind can process about 40 bits of information per second, but the subconscious mind can process 40 million bits of information per second!

Given the huge number of thoughts and the incredible power of the subconscious, you might be wondering whether we are ever in control? But I don’t think we need to control our thoughts, just have what I call a ‘mental gate’, so that negativity doesn’t seep into our subconscious based on previous thought patterns and experiences.

It is important to understand that most of our negative thoughts are programmed in childhood and those thoughts went straight into our subconscious minds – unquestioned and unchallenged. These thoughts and beliefs most likely came from our parents, teachers or other adults, and as children we easily absorb them and they become our thoughts. Over time, these thoughts can turn into negative beliefs, such as ‘I am not good enough’ or ‘the world is a dangerous place’ and trigger emotional responses that, before we can process what has happened, overwhelm us. Thoughts either support us or they don’t. Some can be helpful and effective. Others can be limiting, negative and harmful, and a lot of thoughts can be just mental noise, nothing important.

So, it’s worth asking yourself:

  • What kind of thoughts do you predominantly want to think?
  • How do you want to shape your brain and your future?
  • Dealing with negative thoughts
  • Here are a few things you can do:

Imagine how young children and animals act in the world: They are connected to what is going on in the present. Try to bring a gentle curiosity to life, just as animals and children do. When we approach our thoughts in this way, we are more relaxed and don’t feel such a strong need to label them as good or bad. Instead, we just explore them, with a childlike wonder, and let them be nothing more than what they are – thoughts.

Practise yoga — especially the slightly harder poses: Yoga is a form of meditation. When we practise yoga, we become more anchored in the present, as our awareness is focused on what is happening within the body. It is particularly useful to focus on more challenging poses such as downward-facing dog, plank or warrior 1, and to be aware of any sensations and even some discomfort. Try to embrace each pose, be present and breathe through it. When we feel depressed or anxious, it sometimes feels like it will never end but practising challenging yoga poses teaches us to accept the challenge and to trust that, just like anything else, it will pass.

Take a mindful shower: All the activities that we perform on a daily basis, such as showering, often become the most mindless, because we do them on automatic pilot. The next time you are in the shower, focus on the sensation of the water on your skin. Notice the temperature. How is the pressure? Be aware of the scent of your shampoo or body wash. Really bring yourself into the moment and actually think about what you are doing. Notice how this experience differs from your usual routine.

Use your hands: Make something with your hands. Activities such as painting, sewing, pottery, baking, photography, DIY, gardening, colouring or anything practical can be incredible soothing, rewarding and help you to create more inner peace.

Get out in nature: Go for a solitary walk in nature and really look at what you can see, such as the trees, plants, flowers and sky. This activity is best done on your own so you can really focus on your experience.

If you feel negative, depressed and anxious, remember to be patient and loving with yourself. We all have moments of sadness and negativity. It is important to accept what is but eventually move on.

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Rose-Marie Sorokin

Rose-Marie Sorokin, a writer, teacher of meditation, yoga, spirituality and personal development, a spiritual coach and astrologer, originally from Sweden but now living in the UK. She is passionate about helping her readers, students and clients move from the impossible to the possible, from chaos to peace and from disconnection to Oneness. She is a qualified yoga teacher, has three different qualifications in meditation and mindfulness and is a lifelong student of psychology, spirituality, somatics, self-development, yoga philosophy, astrology, Advaita and A Course in Miracles. She is the author or ‘The Miracle of Yes – Reconnecting with Purpose, Passion and Peace and Creating a Life You Love. Rose-Marie hosts workshops and retreats in the UK and abroad. You can find her here or here