Personal Development

5 Golden Tips to Finally Make Your Desired Life Change Happen

Vera Kuhr
Written by Vera Kuhr

You know they will always come back.

These moments, where you lose yourself in dreams about how your life could be, so colorfully different to what it is now.

And just like these dreamful thoughts always come back, you lose sight of them, again and again.

Sometimes, because the daily grind quickly pulls you back into your real life. Often, because you just don’t feel ready yet to make that epic life change.

But if you always decide against the change, why do these dreams keep on coming back? Why are they so persistent?

The answer is simple: Even though you refuse the life change over and over again, your innermost dearly wants it.

Yes, you want to live your dream life, but you are scared to face all the changes and unknowns of building it.

It’s what makes the majority of us live a somewhat mediocre, sometimes even unhappy life.

But you and your wonderful opportunities in life don’t have to stay stuck in that change phobia.

Here are five tips that might even make your life change start today!

1. Don’t wait for big events

Looking back, I have a long history of dreaming about changing my life.

But year after year, I didn’t do it. I stayed in my marketing pro career that was not really about my passions but provided me the security I wanted.

Then came the change: I lost my job. Security gone.

First I applied for jobs in my profession. But soon my dreams and passions took advantage of my “unstable situation”: They became so dominant in my head and in my heart that I had no choice but create my future based on them.

Today, I know I could have done that epic change much earlier in my life, without a drastic event (losing my job) as the starting point.

Yes, we don’t have to wait for big events (wich are often not very nice ones) to make big changes!

Your strong desire to change your life is a sign big enough; it doesn’t take an earthquake to get your official go!

2. Don’t wait for the perfect day

So you’ve made up your mind – you definitely want to take the plunge and make that epic life change.

But, today you’re too busy in your job.

Actually, the whole week is pretty packed with all kinds of urgent stuff.

Well, to be honest, it’s next month* when your schedule offers enough space for that big project…

You know where this ends: Your starting point never gets closer than “next month.”

This is probably the one big disadvantage: A life change without a preceding big bang event is very vulnerable to procrastination.

If you are not painfully forced to change your life, you will always find reasons why you can’t start with it today.

But you can start the change today, no matter how busy or chaotic your professional or personal life currently is.

The trick is to see your epic change as what it is: A process.

It’s a process that includes many small and big steps which all accumulate to you finally living your dream life.

All you need to do is to at least spend one hour a day for building your desired life.

If your strict schedule doesn’t offer you one extra hour a day, do it like me: To cover the “above all” things in my life, I get up one hour earlier in the morning to do them first.

That way, you can plan out and create your future step by step, hour by hour, day by day.

Still feeling uncomfortable to start today? Here comes help!

3. Take discomfort as a good sign

All things new create discomfort. It’s our in-built comfort zone syndrome, telling us to stick to the known things to always stay on the safe side.

But it’s fatal to avoid new things because of some uneasy feeling. Because actually, we are not feeling uneasy.

It’s just our senses which are a bit more sensitive to new situations than with used-to experiences. Our senses want to alert us in time, in case the unknown situation shows potential to be a (life) threatening experience.

It’s a protection routine that made huge sense thousands of years ago (back in those days where surviving was an everyday challenge).

Unfortunately, our senses still use this old routine today, although threatening situations, especially life-threatening ones, have become very rare in our sophisticated world.

As a result, we face a lot of “false alarms” whenever we want to try out something new.

But, each time you make good experiences with trying something new, this new experience won’t cause another false alarm in the future.

Changing your life is all about making new experiences. Initial discomfort is nothing but a good sign that you are on the right track.

4. Do it anyway (no matter what people say)

I remember it quite well:

When I told my people that I had entered digital entrepreneurship to work on my own terms instead of taking the next career step, they were confused and alarmed at the same time…

If your family and friends show the same reaction, don’t be disappointed. They just feel uncomfortable with the new and unknown you are heading towards and want to protect you from making a big mistake.

No doubt, changing your life has its risks. But you don’t have to approach it in a haphazard manner. You can always add some safeguarding to your decision making.

For example, my fear of taking the wrong path was cured by my initial researching and planning. Attracted by digital entrepreneurship, I first searched for a proven business model and for trustworthy people who evidently made a decent income from that strategy. Based on that confirmation, I was confident to give that business model a go.

5. Connect with like-minded people

If this sounds like “substitute your entourage,” that’s not what I want to push you into.

But, if your friends and family can’t support you (for the reasons mentioned above), you need some other people to back you up on your journey.

Fortunately, it’s easier than ever before to connect with like-minded people. For example, you can listen to podcasts, connect on social media or go to meetups and events.

If you surround yourself with people that understand what you do because they do similar things, the process of building your dream life becomes much easier!

So, to wrap things up – what again is the best day to change your life?

Yes, you got it… TODAY!

Don’t wait any longer, you’ve got all it takes to make today the starting point of your life change!

Some Amazing Comments

Comments

About the author

Vera Kuhr

Vera Kuhr

Vera Kuhr is an entrepreneur and coach that helps the overwhelmed, distracted, procrastinating, impatient, paralyzed and however else struggling digital entrepreneur to get unstuck and pivot to success. Get her free course First Aid Against Failure For Bloggers and learn how to leave out the most sneaky game-over traps of blogging. Twitter