Personal Development

7 Powerful Actions to Bring Your Life in Balance Today

Written by Anastasiya Goers

How complete is your life? Can you say that you are 100% satisfied with the direction that your life is going, with your relationships, your goals and your health?

Some people call this type of life completion “control,” others call it “inner peace” but I call it “life balance.” It really doesn’t matter what you call it, the only thing that matters is whether you have it.

7_powerful_actions_balanceSo, do you feel in balance today?

Imagine your ordinary day. How does it start? How many things do you accomplish during the day? How do your relationships unveil during the day? Do you spend enough time with the people you love and care about? At the end of the day do you feel that you have completed everything to make this day great or do you feel that you have accomplished a lot but still are missing something?

If you get a warm and pleasant feeling inside when you answer these questions you know that your life is in balance. If your mind starts racing and focusing on all the things that you haven’t completed then you know that you need to work on your life balance. Why not start today?

I communicate with a lot of people and way too often their lives remind me of a carrot chase. All day long they are busy doing things, working on projects, going somewhere and yet at the end of the day they feel broken down and even further away from their happy living than they were in the morning. No matter how fast they go or how much effort they produce they can never catch the carrot that they are chasing because it’s attached to their backs. Do you get the picture?

I must admit, sometimes I feel that I get into that carrot chase myself. A big work project, sudden illness of my kids, extra help that I offer to my friends or just that ìperfectî combination of circumstances send my life tumbling down a hill with no chances of stopping before I reach rock bottom. In times like that I remind myself about the magic of life balance and stop to reclaim my daily peace.

Inner peace and balance come when you stop chasing that carrot and start enjoying your life. Let’s see how you can get rid of that carrot and stop sabotaging your happiness.

  1. Become aware.A lot of times the carrot race is just a cover-up for inner emptiness or pain. Filling life with tasks won’t fill your life with meaning.Todayspend some time reflecting on your inner motives and priorities.How do your everyday tasks help you achieve your personal goals?What goals are truly important to you?The more insight you gain into yourself the easier it will be for you to find your balance.
  2. Try “reverse” time management.Every day you probably focus on accomplishing certain tasks that you planned. At the beginning of the day you look or think about everything that has to be done and your brain almost freezes in silent panic. All day long you try to catch up on everything but something constantly interrupts you, you lose your focus and at the end of the day your list of tasks looks only longer.Todayfocus on how much time you can spend working. Plan 1-2 hour work blocks when you are 100% focused and nothing can get in your way. Work as a mad man or woman during those blocks but then let yourself rest. At the end of the day focus on how many productive work blocks you have had instead of how many tasks you have marked off your to do list.This little change in your thoughts will help you avoid procrastination, prevent “brain freeze” and let you have some time for the unexpected things that will come up during the day.
  3. Listen to the people around you. Our relationships are a huge subject that can’t be tackled in just one paragraph. However, if I was (and I am) to give you advice that will improve any type of relationship then it would be “Listen to others.”So many times we tune out of the conversation with our loved ones to watch our favorite show, check messages on the smartphone or just think again about that work project.By depriving our loved ones of our attention we lose connection with them and stop understanding them.Today listen to the people around you. Don’t judge, don’t get offended, but rather try to use any comments that you hear for your personal growth.
  4. Focus on your vitals first.Do you ever leave the house without brushing your teeth? Do you try to drive the car without first getting the keys? These little actions seem obvious, don’t they? Then why is that taking care of our vital needs isn’t as simple as that?What is vitally important to you in life? For me my kids, family, health and spirituality are vitals no matter how busy my day might be. Every day I make sure that I spend time with my kids, have at least one peaceful hour with my husband, do at least a little bit of exercise, eat healthy food and spend time praying. My entire day is focused around these vitals and whatever time I have left I spend on other goals and necessities.Today figure out what your vitals are and find a place for them in every day. Itís not as hard as it seems. Split your exercise into 10 minute blocks throughout the day. Fix healthy meals that take less than 30 minutes to prepare (easy vegetable stir fry, spaghetti with marinara sauce, grilled chicken breast on a bed of fresh lettuce are just a few ideas) and include your loved ones into your everyday activities (exercise by taking your kids or your partner on a walk, fix meals together, spend time playing games [no sorry, video games do not count] instead of watching TV.) Figure out what works for you and start by adding 10-15 minute blocks of your vital activities into every day.
  5. Be flexible. Napoleon had a brilliant idea of strategic military planning which he summarized as ìYou engage, and then you wait and see.î By making contact with the enemy and then improvising, he triumphed and made his armies the envy or Europe.In a modern world the ability to improvise is a crucial component of balance. Instead of making daily to-do lists try to create a list of goals for a week or a month. This flexibility will let you have time for the unexpected surprises and ways to deal with them. And instead of always sticking to rigid plans and goals let yourself go with the flow sometimes.Today question your plans and goals and think of creative ways to work around any obstacles. Donít push through the walls all the time. See when itís better to use your strength to push a little harder and when itís best to avoid an obstacle that seems to be ruining your plans.
  6. Live in positive reality.Our view of the world is just a perception. The difference between optimists and pessimists is not how many good events happen in their lives but what information they tend to focus on.Unfortunately our brain is hard-wired into focusing on negative events. Scientists call this phenomenon the “negativity bias.” After years of studies researchers have come to the conclusion that it takes about 5 positive events to overwrite one negative one.However, focusing on all things positive is not the best way out either. Too much positive thinking makes you ignore possible obstacles standing in your way which decreases your chances of success.Today focus on being a positive realist. Take things for what they really are instead of spending all your mental energy to find a positive reason why you are stuck in a traffic jam. To reinforce positive emotions in your life think about all the positive events that happened to you today. When setting goals think of any obstacles that can get in your way and create a plan to work around them.
  7. Start living life at your own speed. Instead of focusing on the quality of our life we often focus on the speed of it. We have a bunch of goals with (most of the time) unreasonable deadlines. We don’t stop and think whether we picked good timing for something. We try to bust through the walls and achieve our goal no matter what without ever asking whether it was an important enough goal to work so hard for.Today take some time to slow down. I am not asking you to meditate or walk around the park marveling at every bug that you see on your way. Take a look at your current goals and schedule and see if you have picked the right timing for everything. We can accomplish pretty much anything we dream about in life but for every dream we have to pick the right time to bring it to life.Living in balance starts with changing your thoughts.Stop chasing that imaginary carrot and start focusing on living your life at your own speed, with your own goals and to your maximum potential.What actions do you take to bring your life in balance?

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Anastasiya Goers

Anastasiya Goers is the founder of Balance In Me ñ the Life Balance Portal where she helps people find their personal life balance with practical tips, genuine support and everyday inspiration. Let her show you how easy it is to make your life more balanced and check out 100 Ways to Make Your Life More Balanced Today that are yours absolutely free.


  • I have been blogging “Positive for 30 Days”. It’s an awesome experience becuase it redirects my mind to look for positive things to write or talk about. This process in turn forces me to pay attention on the postiive things in life. It has been an awesome experience and it makes me look forward to blogging. IT has been making me realize, although I know this intellectuallty, that there are so many things that are good than we normally pay attention to.

  • As a writer I am happiest when I’m doing something that’s work related. Whether this is writing, editing or marketing, I always feel like I’ve had a worthwhile day if I’ve spent time doing these things.

    The carrot chasing, as you describe, is brought on when your feel unorganised, out of control and probably doing something you don’t like. I think to keep those feelings at bay you have to make some time for yourself to do the things you love. This, in my mind, creates balance.

  • With the craziness and unexpectedness of life, it is so hard to keep balance.. Thank you for sharing these 7 tips! By making changes to start living life I incorporated many of these points into my life and I know people will start living logically vs. emotionally, enabling them to achieve greatness and happiness.

    Gail Kasper
    Motivational Speaker and Author, Unstoppable: 6 Easy Steps To Achieve Your Goals

  • Thank you so much for that article Anastasiya. I agree living at our own speed is important. I love your line of focusing on the quality not the speed. I wrote an article on a balanced life but I took the approach that a truly balanced life was impossible, Plus when scales are in true balance they are still, stagnent. A life worth living is one that is in motion. By doing all the things you suggest one can easily keep their scales from being too far out of balance. I realized my life will never be perfectly balanced, nor do I want it to be. That’s the zest of life. But I want to be aware, listen, flexible, and present like you so perfectly said. Thanks

  • Anastaysia, Great post! I think the carrot on our back is a great example of not being in the moment. For me, balance comes when I combine presence with slowing down and a big dose of “positive reality”. I focus on what’s most important to me each day and sprinkle in the must-dos and the mundanes.

    I like your idea of focusing on chunks of time instead of tasks. I am a productive junkie, so I like this idea to move me out of task mode and focus on how much time I got to spend writing, reading, coaching, hanging out, talking, etc.

  • Hello Ana,
    You touched upon so many truths that we often neglect when it comes to living our lives in balance. I truly believe that awareness is the first step towards transformation in our lives. It is awareness that allows us to remain present and see the situations in our lives with a real focus. I agree with you that when caught in, “the rat race” we tend to forget to listen carefully to what our physical bodies are trying to tell us and that is, “SLOW down”. One thing I do is to take short, “Life Breaks” throughout the day and the week. It helps me to recharge, gain perspective, and balance myself.
    Thank you for this wonderful post. I truly enjoyed reading it!
    All the best,

  • Hi Ana, I resonates with your tips especially #4 – Focus on your vitals first. This is so simple yet most of us just ignore our own needs isn’t it? For me, I tend to spend all of my time on my goals but forgetting to care about my loved ones. I noticed how imbalance is that and guess what? This morning I just put aside my stuff and went shopping with my mum. You are right, it feels really good when we get back to the things/people that we love, even it’s 10-15 minutes. Thanks Ana~

  • Hi Anastasiya,
    Being aware of one’s “state” is a major plus. “Busyness” is just that, in many cases it leaves the truly important things on the sidelines. Make time for yourself and for those whom you care about as a first priority. Life can be a balancing act, it’s your own choice whether you want the balance in your favour. Thank you for this important message.
    be good to yourself

  • I liked your all points. its really great philosophy and also all peoples must have to read this article at least one time.

  • Be aware & focus I agree with you, SLOW DOWN I do not share this view at all. Why?? because every goal has its own dead line and an end result. Every aspect carries its own effects, take an example of fruits break them early & they are tasteless raw, leave them beyond the ripening time they rot,same for our life, since it comes into the world split decisions are required.

    • Hi Ivan,
      I think that each and every one of us has his/her speed in life. Some of us are sprinters and some are marathoners but I believe that every once everyone can benefit from a slower pace. I am not talking about forgetting about deadlines or goals – slowing down even for a few minutes a day is enough to let your body and mind rest and to see your life clearly. Once you’ve rested you can go back to your pace of life. After all, it’s your life and you should live it at YOUR speed no matter how fast or slow it is.

  • Thanks for sharing the good useful tips. Think often when people think of the word “balance” it seems to imply that something has to give, or the need to sacrifice something, I personally prefer the word “harmony” : )

    • I think definition of “balance” is personal for each and one of us. I agree that most people have a distorted view of life balance: they need to spend equal amount of time of each important area of life and if they don’t have time for all of them (which of course they don’t!) then they need to give up something. This definition is so wrong because it’s unrealistic to achieve and it won’t bring anyone happiness.
      Serenity, peace, harmony, equilibrium – are all different ways of describing personal balance. The word that we choose is the one that we mostly connect to. I think that “harmony” is a beautiful choice, Lawrence :-)

  • There was some good thoughts in this post, but I don’t agree on some of them or maybe i just don’t like them even though I think they are true.
    I think meditation is a good idea and being optimistic and forget reality once in a while is also good 😉 IMHO.

    • Balance and a road towards it is personal for each of us. You, Liudas, might have a different road of keeping your balance. I would love to hear how you do it because someone might benefit from your experience.

  • Hi Anastasiya!

    I love this line:”Instead of focusing on the quality of our life we often focus on the speed of it.” That’s so true. We chase to-do lists at break-neck speeds running errands on the way to appointments or on the way home, we stop by to grab a bite at the fast food window, jump on the freeway to get home and change lanes 100 times to try to get another car length further down the bumper-bumper traffic.

    If we would slow down a bit and focus more attention on what we’re doing at the moment and enjoy those fleeting moments as they come, we would have so much more balance in life.

    For me, what helps is reviewing my values and priorities every day (whether in prayer or on paper or in a journal, or just running through it all in my mind). When I connect to my highest values and think about my day in relation to those values, I’m usually pretty good about keeping things balanced.

    Thanks so much for the insight and wisdom here, Anastasiya!

    • Ken, you mentioned one of the best tips to stay balanced :-) (I can’t believe I forgot to include it in the post!)
      Reviewing priorities and values is truly the best way to live your life according to them. So often we get caught up in a daily rut and completely forgot what is truly important in our lives.
      Thanks for a great reminder!

    • Really a good article that everyone should read. Sometimes all are running through the life without knowing the purpose. Due to that we missed all the important parts of our life and finally emptiness alone will remain. If everyone of us try to live the life in a balanced way, then the whole world will become more peaceful.

      “Plan 1-2 hour work blocks when you are 100% focused and nothing can get in your way”. Really this is a worth full idea to make more productive of themselves.

      Thanks for this awesome article which makes me to put some pause in my life to rethink of everyday activities to make my life more meaningful.


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