Personal Development

What Do You Do When You Feel Stuck? 4 Unconventional Things

Written by Alden Tan

When you have a dream or a goal in mind, there’s always a certain point you hit in the midst of hard work and dedication.

And ironically, those are the two things that actually get in the way of progress.

I’ve personally been working on my blog for over a year now and I keep getting stuck.

I hit a rut here and there and feel stuck, a lot.

While picking myself up and charging on straight ahead are in order, sometimes…

… you just don’t really want to.

when_you_feel_stuckBecause it doesn’t feel right. Heck, sometimes it even feels downright depressing.

Ever felt that way when trying to work hard?

Everybody gets stuck

It’s normal.

Nobody ever gets it right the first time.

Be it conducting your own business, throwing a party or just wanting to get to know somebody better (and he isn’t receptive), we’re bound to get stuck.

Because we may be blindly moving forward


All the “right” things to do may be working against you and you end up being counterproductive.

It’s only human nature, as such, everybody is always telling us to never give up and just keep working hard.

We also tend to keep looking up to successful people and hear about their inspiring rag-to-riches stories, in which they manage to overcome great odds and keep doing what they do.

And here’s a shocker: your very own passion or love for something may be holding you back.

You have fallen in the passion trap, where you think just because you’re following your heart, all will be good, and good is far from your situation.

Let’s check out how you can move forward, with smarts.

How to get unstuck the unconventional way

1) Just stop completely


Stop.  Stop whatever you’re doing.

Don’t even think of doing work or working hard anymore.

Stop completely cause you need a break.

A lot of people underestimate the power of a break or not wanting to move at all.

It’s absolutely okay to not do work at all from time to time.

This is where you can reflect and gain the clarity you absolutely need.

So stop, and go reflect.

2) Remember your Why

Why are you doing what you’re doing in the first place? Remember?

You got to remember it.

Many successful people today, entrepreneurs and artists alike are where they are today because they have a very strong Why.

It’s easy to forget about this in the midst of hard work, especially when it turns into stress.

Nothing beats your Why. It’s unique to you and only you.

By remembering your Why, you’ll be inspiring yourself again and going on back on course, the right course.

Too often we get stuck because we’ve actually got off course to the point of being lost.

3) Get re-inspired

Inspiration doesn’t last. There I said it.

A lot people think inspiration comes once, powerfully at that and that’s all they need.

That is when you hear of some inspiring story or watched some video that really got to you.

You may have felt that emotional “high” at that point, spurring you on to start taking action, but it may be replaced by other less-than-stellar emotions.

So what do you do? Get re-inspired.

It’s okay.

Go get recharged. Go seek out other forms of inspiration to feel that emotional high again. Go talk to people. Meet successful people. Go for an event. Meet an artist or even type in, “Inspiring videos” on YouTube.

If anything, you’re letting yourself feel good again, and there’s nothing more important than feeling good in order to move forward.

4) Ask for help

I know you may consider yourself a very hardworking resilient person whose passion alone can inspire others.

But you know what? It’s okay to seek help.

You’re not perfect. Your passion alone can’t feed you or even tell you what to do next, especially if it’s something technical.

Let your pride sit at the side for a second, realize that passion and following your heart may not be enough sometimes, and seek help from others.

This is especially true in business. It’s easy to get lost in the dreams and aspirations of wanting to do everything by yourself and then enjoy all the rewards fully, but that’s very dangerous as business has so many different kinds of expertise and skill sets required. It’s better to do what you’re good at and let others handle the areas you aren’t passionate about.

That’s how every successful person does it.

It’s mandatory to seek help. We’re only human, and we exist together.

You aren’t alone

That means to say, everybody gets stuck.

Everybody feels that low point in life.

So don’t get too stressed out or sad when you feel stuck.

It’s normal. And the tools to get out of it may be easier than you think.

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About the author

Alden Tan

Alden Tan writes about honest and real stories at his blog. His stories sifts through the drama and fluff to give you the real goods. Check out his free book: 12 Things Happy People Don't Give a F**k About!


  • Great advice! Sometimes when I’m stuck I take a break and just write down all my feeling, confusion to anger to wishes. It’s just a great way to let it all out, so my focus isn’t on everything I just wrote down.

  • Some nice suggestions there Alden. I especially gotta agree with your first point. Sometimes we really do just need to take a complete and total break from something.

    Even the things we love can wear on us from time to time. A little break is often just what’s called for. It gives you a chance to focus on other things for a while then come back even stronger than before.


  • Hi Alden,

    This article was an inspiration itself! I do feel it carries some drive and energy that can totally help one get ‘unstuck’ :) For me, the two things that really work are your first point – to stop completely, and your 3rd point – getting re-inspired. The first thing may be hard to do at first, because you feel pressed to keep trying. In fact, stopping and shifting the focus gives you a solution almost immediately, because now you are giving space for your intuition to kick in.

  • Hi Alden,

    I think I need to remember Rule #2 more often. Remember your why. That is usually a huge reason I get stuck in the first place. When I started blogging three years ago, it was personal. I think I made more connections with people because the content was so much more brutally honest. As I grew a brand for a while (now defunct because of the stuckness), the work was more to just get more content out there instead of focusing on why I had started blogging in the first place. Thanks for the reminder! Good stuff!

  • Stopping is a really good way to begin the unstuck process. What I do when I feel stuck or idle is to begin to do the exact opposite of what I’ve been doing. I try to reverse the habits of my day and week to see what happens. What tends to happen is a residula effect. I usually don’t get unstuck right away but not too long after, the results of opposite actions begin to take shape. Its great! Very nice post!

  • Hi Alden
    You are so very right about asking for help when you are stuck.
    Also it is very important to acknowledge the help received. In fact the deeper you need for help ,the stronger the reason to appreciate it.
    Help received is as valuable as the recognition of the circumstances it has been obtained in.The cost it took the provider to render the aid.It is a learning experience.There is enormous value in the learning from inconspicuous circumstances of life.

  • I agree that sometimes we just need to stop and be like fuck it. I’m done for a day or a few days. It is way too easy to burn out. You can get super passionate about something and charge ahead and charge ahead and then next thing you know you are burnt out and can’t keep it up. A key to success I believe is sustaining effort. Like you said inspiration does not last!

  • What works for me Alden is to feel the feeling, whatever it is, and then let it go. And the cherry on top of the cake is to ask myself “what do you want” and sometimes the answer is simply to sit and stare and other times I want to get out into nature.

    And yes, as you say, find someone who fills the gap in your expertise.

    It’s all good.



  • Hi Alden, great post. Yes we can get burn out if we don’t take some time away to reflect and to rejuvenate. Asking for help is the best one for me. Thanks again for putting things into perspective.

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