About Steven Aitchison
Tips for a better life #4
I have met a lot of people in my lifetime and the one thing
that every single one of those people have wanted is for someone to listen
to them. Listening
to someone, actually actively listening, is a great and underused skill in
the world. a lot of people are too used to talking and trying to get
the world to hear them.
Paradoxiaclly if you listen more you will be heard more when you actually
speak.
Make today a day for listening and listen to your partner, your children,
your work colleagues anybody you come into contact with. Ask people questions
about themselves and listen to them as if their words meant the difference
between living and dying. You’ll be surprised by the reactions
you get.
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I was reading the Travis McGee novel A Nightmare in Pink by John D. MacDonald recently and came across this excellent quote about how to listen.
There is only one way to make people talk more than they care to. Listen. Listen with hungry earnest attention to every word. In the intensity of your attention, make little nods of agreement, little sounds of approval. You can’t fake it; You have to really listen. In a posture of gratitude. And it is such a rare and startling experience for them, such a boon to the ego, such a gratification of the self, to find a genuine listener, that they want to prolong the experience. And the only way to do that is to keep talking. A good listener is far more rare than an adequate lover.
http://hear-hear.com/Articles/2006/travis-mcgee-john-macdonald/how-to-listen.html
Hi Steven,
I found your website this morning. It looks great! I was asked to play tag for page rank yesterday and you look like a good candidate so consider yourself tagged. You can get more information at http://www.livethepower.com/blog/183/not-hopscotch-tag-for-links/
I hope you consider playing. It could be a great thing for all of us!
Joy and Blessings,
Karen