Yes, visualizing is a great exercise. However, at the same time, there is no denying that your negative thoughts and feelings related to achieving your dreams have been causing you to feel down. Instead of feeling uplifted, you experience a drain in your energy shortly after. And you become caught in a downward spiral for the day.

What you need to understand is this: your current habit patterns of thought, words and behavior – which essentially affects your paradigm – have already attracted your current situation. This means that if you are hoping for something better than what you are currently already enjoying, you would need to make a change. In energetic terms, you would need to move vibrationally upwards in order to attract a new set of reality. The Law of Attraction explains it as “like attracts like”.

Conscious intent for change

So if you are habitually having negative thoughts and feeling poor, then it is time to make a conscious intent for change. How are habits formed in the first place? Through conditioning. It may be through your parents, caregivers, friends, teachers, and so on. Conditioning usually starts at a young age. Via repeated affirming experiences, a habit is formed. Or you simply have adopted the belief that you have as told. Over time, the act, behavior or thought becomes an automatic response from you.

Habits are not all that bad to begin with. A regular habit of brushing teeth or drinking water is a good one. Adopting habits offer routines to help us organize our lives. However, without awareness, it is possible to have cultivated bad habits that sabotages our well-being. We are not usually conscious of these until we repeatedly find ourselves being held back because of our bad habits.

Bad habits can take the form of using vulgar words, for instance. Since words arise from seeds of thoughts in the first place, you would be aware that the mind has not having a negative thinking. When expressed with plenty of emotions, the vulgar words have a strong energetic resonance to them. Most certainly, a habit of spewing vulgarity would be unhelpful if you are hoping to exude love, patience and expansiveness – all important attributes to abundance.

Someone once said to me, “no change is necessary because it comes from a place of dissatisfaction from the self. And if we understand how complete we are, all that we are motivated to move towards is not necessary.” There are some nuggets of truth but allow me to explain my perspective to make things clearer.

Change is best viewed not as a “have to” or “must”. It is really more like a flow. A constant flow. To begin with, everything in life is in a state of flow. And change is innate in life’s second-to-second movements. So when we loosen up to our shoulds and musts, we become more at peace with the change. There is no destination that we are hoping to reach. We come from a space of moving into alignment rather than a disatisfaction. We are not reacting to the moments of apparent conflict. We allow our true self to unfold.

And hence, if we choose to view “change” appropriately, then the shift happens – with much ease.

What are your thoughts on this?

This is the 6th part of 7 in the how to make friends series. You can find the links to all the other parts of the series at the bottom of this article.

Attracting the friends, you want

To attract the type of friends you want you will have to know what type of friends you want to attract, makes sense doesn’t it.

Using the principles of manifestation you can attract to you the type of friends you want in your life.

Although it sounds like another airy-fairy law of attraction type of thing, I know this works as I have used it myself and have married my best friend, my wife. I used to imagine what she looked like, what type of personality she had, how she would react in certain situations etc I have also attracted business relationships this way, friendships, online acquaintances and even readers to my blog. I know it sounds sad thinking about the type of readers you want to read your blog, but I am a bit weird that way. ‘What’s really going to bake your noodle’ is would you be here if I didn’t think about you reading this blog.

How does it work?

This is quite simple. You think about the different attributes that you would like in a friend; honest, strong minded, fun, attractive or whatever it is you are looking for in a true friend. You imagine them and the different situations you would be in together and how they would react if different situations. You imagine feeling a strong bond with them and having a lasting friendship. Imagine yourselves together in years to come and how your friendship will evolve. You imagine going to their parties, meeting up with your future partners, going through difficult times with them.

You don’t go looking for friendships; your friends will come to you when the time is right.

Belief

There is one huge condition to you attracting your friends and potential partners and that is belief. Belief that it will happen when the time is right. This usually means getting rid of all your negative emotions such as feeling lonely, feeling jealousy, hate, depressed; all these feelings will hamper you in meeting your true friends or potential partner. Why is this? When you body and mind is riddled with negative emotions you are concentrating on yourself and your energy field will be low and not very expansive. When you have let go of negative emotions your energy field will be much more expansive and far-reaching, touching the lives of those you want to meet. Have you ever come across someone who just radiates energy and they seem to attract everyone around them? This will be because they have let go of their inhibitions and their negative emotions. These people are usually happy go lucky people and don’t really care what other people think about them and can take people as they are and see they positives in everyone. Don’t get me wrong you still get the people who attract everyone else around them due to their self confidence and yes they may be nasty or unkind but this type of person usually breaks down later on in their lives due to the masking of their negative feelings and emotions.

Does this sound like a lot of rubbish?

Of course it does, because for most of us we simply can’t believe in a world that is interconnected and we are all at this very moment touching each other’s energy. If you don’t believe it can work it won’t work. For some, like me, it took years to start believing in the power of thoughts and manifestation, but it has changed my life in immeasurable ways and I can only pass on what I believe. If you believe it’s a pile of cow dung, that’s great I respect your opinion. However, I would urge you to try it for a week or two and really try to believe in it before dismissing it.

How to make true friends – Part 5 – Get out of self deprication mode

How to make true friends – part 4 – Body language

How to make true friends – part 3 – The art of honesty

How to make true friends – part 2 – The pride of loneliness

How to make true friends – part 1 – know yourself

Other articles you may be interested in

Can attraction principles work to build your business? – Street smarts

Law of attraction carnival: Relationships and the law of attraction – Evolving Times

Improving relationships – the Ordinary Mystic

Can you save your relationships with the law of attraction – Today is that day

How to attract and create a happier love relationshipn – Very happy human

It’s not often I get a chance to read a book for pleasure these days however I was sent a book a few months ago which I have only just picked up at the beginning of the month.

The book is entitled “Sound health, Sound wealth; The biology of hope and manifestation” by Dr. Luanne Oakes, PH.D.

First of all I would like to say I would never put a review of a book on the blog that was bad and one I didn’t think would benefit you, the reader. Also I am not affiliated with the book in any way so I don’t make money from this review.

So here is my review.

Frequency treatment CD

The book comes with a frequency treatment CD which I have pretty much played every day since I received the book. I would say the CD alone is worth the price of the book. I play it in the car, every day, on the way to meeting my clients. I have found it keeps me centered and focused on my job. I also play it when I am picking my boys up from the scouts. My eldest son has asked me to play it on the way to school as it helps him to relax, which is a huge accolade, as he is currently listening to the ‘Nickelback’ and ‘Guns and Roses’CD all the time and doesn’t like any of my CDs.

The book

The book resonated with me from the introduction as Luanne speaks about the power of changing your thoughts to change your life, which is of course the title of my blog. So I was grabbed straight away as I firmly believe in the power of thoughts to change your life.

The book itself is split up into eight chapters, each with a principle:

Chapter 1: The principle of resonance
Chapter 2: The principle of future memories
Chapter 3: The principle of Your Magical Diving Experiment
Chapter 4: The principle of Energetic Boundaries; The power of ‘No’
Chapter 5: The principle of transforming time
Chapter 6: The principle of Sound and Light, Part One; The biology of hope
Chapter 7: The principle of Sound and Light, Part Two; How to enhance your life force
Chapter 8: The principle of True wealth; Sound wealth is true wealth.

I don’t want to go through all the principle above. Instead I have chosen the two that resonated with me the most and the ones which I could use in my daily life.

The principle of future memories

Luanne has introduced a new phrase ‘Quantum Hologram’ which, as I understand it, is your own personal belief on the being, or the force which is helping you in your life. She takes great care not to bring religion into the book but it is clear that she is speaking to people form all beliefs and faiths and the Quantum Hologram is your belief in what controls the world around you including synchronicity. The Quantum Hologram sounds like something from Star Trek (The Next generation) but it is a good way to visualise the life force which helps us in life.

Your thoughts are part of that life force and ultimately you are controlling the life force which in turn helps you to create the life you want.

Luanne describes a system using ‘Feeling based faith’ to create your future memories and is quite powerful. It is a way of connecting your feelings and mind to the Quantum Hologram to get what you most desire in life. The analogy she uses for this is ‘like sending an e-mail’. Luanne advises keeping a feeling based journal, describing the different feelings you have experienced throughout the day. By writing these down you are releasing the energy of them from yourself out into the open, which leaves you feeling lighter, more energetic and less burdened in order to send your own wishes out into the universe. Or

Although I didn’t use a journal for the feeling based writing I tried it for a few days in my head and it does help. It’s like putting a label on your feelings and then releasing them out into the open, quite powerful.

Luanne litters this chapter with stories about science and personal experiences which I found very interesting.

The principle of true wealth

I am deeply interested in prosperity and wealth and am forever clearing my thoughts and actions for the attainment of wealth and prosperity. Every day I am coming to an understanding of true wealth and what it really means and the more I understand the more I am receiving.

That’s what this chapter is all about. Luanne tells a story of a homeless person by the name of Simon who taught her about true wealth through the friendship they struck up over the years.

I am slowly beginning to realise about wealth being an inner game and this book and this chapter reinforced this for me.

Luanne advises that there are certain principles to true wealth which are:

• Being in the present moment
• Being in divine flow
• Frequent experience of Compassion, Reverence, Love Peace and Joy
• The ability to forgive
• Giving without attachment
• Certainty that we are all one
• Certainty in a power greater than yourself
• Certainty that there are enough resources for all of us
• The ability to accurately assess your own and others strengths and weaknesses
• The ability to be grateful for something
• The ability to reduce the intensity for negative thoughts.

Belief is also an important part of attracting wealth into your life. If you believe you can’t make money or don’t deserve it you will never receive it.

Conclusion

I found the book a great read and I particularly liked the stories in the book. Although it said it is a scientific look at health and wealth there is not much science in the book that explains manifestation. I also found that Luanne was using new phrases to describe old concepts but you will recognise these straight away as trying to bring the old concepts into the minds of a newer generation.

I enjoyed the book and particularly the CD and would recommend it to anyone who is interested in the ‘law of attraction’, ‘Manifestation’ and becoming healthy and wealthy.

Thanks you to Luanne for allowing me to review this book and thank you to the publicist for sending me the book, I appreciate it.

If you have been using the law of attraction in your life, you’ll know sometimes that it might not work as well as you would want. Why is this?

Speaking from my own point of view, as I cannot say what your experiences will be like, there are 3 components to the law of attraction. I have read lots of articles and a few books on the Law of Attraction and they all give more or less the same advice. However I have tweaked all the information and experimenting I have done on my own and come up with thefollowing three three components:

The intention

Your intention is literally a statement of intent, something you want to achieve or have in the future. When I make my intentions I state the intention in the present tense while looking into the future. For example one of my intentions is to become a professional blogger so I would word it:

‘I am now a professional blogger, I have my own blog training business, I teach and write articles every day and love it and get paid for doing it’

Whilst saying this statement, internally or out loud, I visualise myself working as a professional blogger. I see myself teaching other people blogging, I see myself giving seminars. I see myself sitting at home during the day and writing my articles and talking on the phone with other bloggers.

Another important aspect of the intention is to clear any resistance to the intention. With my previous example I still have resistance as I know I have to help provide for my family so my current job needs to be kept on. This is a blockage and a major blockage but I am working on it bit by bit.

The power behind the intention

This is another important aspect that a lot of people miss and it is the power or the force behind the intention. Before setting your intention gear up toward it and muster as much energy around the intention as you can. When I muster up the energy I delay the intention and build it up to such an extent as to have an excited feeling in my stomach that needs to be released. The only analogy I can think of is that feeling when you are absolutely bursting on a pee and you have to hold it for a few hours and then at the moment you go to the toilet and pee, it’s a fantastic feeling of release and pleasure.

When you know roughly what your intention is and you can see it in your mind, make it clearer and get excited about it. Do this during the day when you are working, think about it, don’t talk about it, but think about it all day or for a few days.

When you are ready to release the intention plan 15 – 30 minutes alone and release your intention and make it focused and visualise it, hear it, sense it, smell it. Give it all your five sense and release it and let it drift out to wherever it goes to manifest.

The action toward the intention

In the past I have stated the intention and let it go and thought about it occasionally. I didn’t like this way of doing it and have now come to a more powerful way, for me, of achieving the intention. I work toward it and think about it often.

Right now I am working toward my dream of becoming a pro blogger. I am going into affiliate marketing, I am blogging for other people, and I am making more money with AdSense, all in the hope that I will make enough money
to either pay off the mortgage or make a lot more than I can working for a living.

I have found this a much better way of manifesting my intentions than the old way I was using of simply stating the intention and then letting it go.

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Experimenting

There are lots of different ways of making your intentions come into alignment with the present. Experimenting with lots of different ways is a good way to get to know what works for you. The more you do it the more you will get to know the blockages that may be hampering your efforts. Don’t give up with it and it can take some time to release those blockages. I found the biggest blockage is belief. I have chosen to believe in this way of thinking as I have seen it working for me.

Of course if I wanted to I could find other ways of explaining the events that have happened in my life without the intention-manifestation model. You can find proof of anything in life depending on the way you are inclined. So it is with the law of attraction.

I am a logical man and question everything and I questioned the law of attraction for a long time. When I started trying it and seeing results I tweaked it and then installed the new belief that it works for me. You have to do the same. Tweak it or leave it.

Your stories

Let me know of any interesting stories you have with the law of attraction and your experiments with this or if you think it is all a lot of rubbish, either way it would be good to hear from you.