This can have a positive or negative impact on your life. It’s important to look at your beliefs and reshape them if required.

Most beliefs are generalisations that has been developed from what we have been told or learned since childhood. These beliefs have transferred to adulthood and have the power to destroy or save us.

Think about the mothers and fathers who have lost sons or daughters in tragic circumstances and they go on to campaign, so no other parent has to suffer how they have suffered. Their beliefs get them through the tragedy of losing their own children. I can’t think of anything worse than losing your own child, their beliefs have got them through that and through their campaigning they have help thousands or other parents and children.

When working on my own program Alter Your Jacket, I have a module on beliefs and wanted to interview someone prominent in the field of beliefs.  In a strange twist I read a post by Steve Pavlina about a guy named Morty Lefkoe who claimed he could eliminate beliefs in around 20 minutes.  A few weeks after reading Steve’s post Morty contacted me as he had read several of my posts about beliefs and wondered if I would be interested in a guest post.  Isn’t that amazing; serendipity at it’s best.

Morty wrote a great post Is The Lefkoe Belief Process a Fraud

A Call with Morty

Morty and I kept in touch over the last few months and last night I had the privilege of a video call with him to work on one of my own beliefs.

The session lasted for 1 hour and I can honestly say it was a strange but very enlightening 1 hour.

At first I was asked a few questions and we came up with one of my limiting beliefs which was ‘I will never be able to earn as much money as I feel I am capable of’.  After asking a few questions and looking at that belief more closely we ascertained that the belief really translated to ‘I am not good enough’.  Morty asked me to say “I am not good enough,”
out loud, which I did and felt very strange about saying it.  It felt as if it was the truth, somewhere inside of me.

After going through an easy cognitive journey through my past, I was able to mentally rid myself of the limiting belief that ‘I am not good enough’.

The other, more important, discovery for me was what happened after the belief was eliminated.  Morty asked me a few questions about myself, my reality and my inner self and it blew me away, I don’t think I will look at life in quite the same way. I don’t think the impact will be fully apparent until a few weeks as I go about my normal business.  I went to bed at 10.15 last night, turned the lights out at around 11pm and could not get to sleep.  So I got up and worked a little more until 1am as I had enough energy to do so and am sitting writing this post at 5.25am, so I am still reeling at the impact of Morty’s call.

Morty went on to explain that although I was able to rid myself of 1 limiting belief, what often happens is that more limiting beliefs will come to the surface, so there may be 5, 10, 15 or 20 beliefs that piggy back of the original belief.

I don’t recommend many things on CYT but I would definitely recommend trying the free sessions that Morty is offering at his site.

You Can Eliminate A Belief for Free by Visiting This Site

Most people want to accomplish the tasks that they are assigned, but there are many ways to get the job done as well as increase your enjoyment at work.

Phone Skills

I disliked talking on the phone. I thought it was a waste of time, until I began to improve my skills. When my communication became more fluent I began to enjoy trying to improve the mood of the person on the other end of the line. I stopped worrying about my own mistakes and became a better listener. I would ask them how their family was or how their day was going, trying to make the conversation more dynamic rather than just asking how many units they were shipping me, thanks, good bye.

Next time you are about to get on the phone, give yourself a little goal. It may be to have a clear conversation or to try a joke to get the other person to laugh. I find self deprecating jokes work really well over the phone.

You’ll notice that when you challenge yourself to improve the happiness of the person on the other end of the line, you’ll be more likely to extract joy from the situation.

Public Speaking

Speaking to groups of people used to be as frightening as being trapped in a room full of snakes. It still makes my heart beat pick up its pace, but I’ve learned to push past these uncomfortable feelings by volunteering for presentations. I wanted to improve my speaking skills, and the only way to do that was to jump in front of a crowd and give it my best.

If you have trouble speaking to groups of people, then try looking at it from different angles. Fear is only one emotion out of many that may occur when speaking to groups. You need to stop labeling this feeling with just one word: “fear.” Try rephrasing it with “excitement” or “high energy.” You’ll open yourself up to new ways of defining your emotions, which should help you get out in front of people.

I had an old Toastmasters friend tell me, “If you don’t take the opportunity to speak to groups, then you aren’t giving people all the knowledge that can help them become better.” A good public speaker is there for himself as well as the audience. You can learn to improve your communication skills as well as impart wisdom on to the audience.

Knowledge

I’ve always been an advocate of continuous learning. It brings fresh ideas to an organization and lets employees know that the company wants them to succeed.

Many companies are also catching on to the dynamic work environment because it keeps people motivated. When people learn other co-worker’s jobs, they are able to learn more about the business, which makes them more valuable and allows them to satisfy their curiosity. People love to know how co-workers and managers do their jobs.

Your company may not give you much training or prepare you for different jobs, but you can still extract plenty of information yourself. Don’t be afraid to talk to a co-worker or a manager who has a set of skills that you admire. Ask them if you can help them for a few hours. They may see that you care about the company and it could give you a better chance for promotion. You will probably be surprised by how many people could use a hand to knock out some of their work. Knowledge at work is everywhere, if you allow the curiosity to come out.

There are thousands of ways to enjoy a job besides just reaching sales goals or finishing projects. It’s up to you to implement creative ideas that help you accomplish your job, but also inject a little enjoyment and improvement into your work.

What is your favorite way to enjoy your job that wouldn’t be in your job description?

About the author

Karl Staib writes about unlocking and kicking open the door to working happy at his own blog: Work Happy Now! If you enjoyed this article, you may like to subscribe to his feed or read one of his most popular articles, 7 Tips to Process Your Stress Faster and 8 Mental Boosts that Never Fail.

A lot of us are busy with jobs, managing the house and other activities we are involved with. It is really easy to lose sight of your family in the midst of your busy days.

How many times have you heard yourself saying ‘I should have phoned my mum, but I’ve just not had the time.’ We are all in the same boat and unless we are consciously aware of who we are forgetting some people will fall out of our lives.

I am talking about all the family here, your wife, husband, children, mother, father, sisters, brothers, and friends.

1. Tell Them – This is a simple one yet extremely hard for some people to do. Tell your family you love them or if this is too hard, tell them how much they mean to you.

2. Show them - Surprise visits are a great way to tell your family you are thinking about them, as long as you get on with each other. This might be a little trickier with friends.

3. Call them – I was forever saying ‘Shit, I should have phoned my mum and dad’ Now I do it at least once a week, same with my sisters. By making a habit of calling at least once a week you will start to feel something missing when you don’t do it. This is the same with friends; call them at least once a week or once every two weeks. Soon you’ll start to do this automatically.

4. Text your partner – When I was first married two years ago I text’d my wife all the time, now with us being so busy and have full on jobs it’s hard to find the time. I would say MAKE THE TIME, it takes 2 minutes to send a text and can mean so much to your partner, I know I still feel that tingle in the stomach when I get a text from my wife.

5. Make time for your children – Your children are the most important people in the world. Take time out to connect with them, even half an hour a day. If they play the play station ask them to show you how to play, if they are watching TV sit with them, just try and live in their world for half an hour. Younger children want attention all the time so this will be easy. With older children, it can be more difficult, but at least it will be recognised that you are trying.

6. Surprise them – Every once in a while do something different with your partner and children. This can be as simple as going to see the latest Harry Potter movie, or going for a meal, just something different from the usual.

7. Give flowers for no reason – Nothing says it like flowers. When I buy my wife flowers her face lights up, it’s another way for me to say, I love you and I love the fact that you’re my wife.

8. Spend alone time with your children – Children go through spells of preferring the company of a particular parent. When their preference turns to you make sure you utilise this time and spend some alone time with them. Children, depending what age they are, need to know you like them as well as love them. To show children you like them there is nothing better then spending time alone with them.

9. Flirt with your partner – Just because you have been together for a year or 30 years
   Doesn’t mean you have to stop flirting with them. Keeping your partner interested in you can be achieved, amongst other ways, by flirting with them.

10. Eat with your family – This is one of the most important tips I could give to anyone about keeping your immediate family strong. Sit down to dinner every day with them. This is a great chance to talk, to gauge how each other is feeling, and just to be with each other. My family has grown so strong because of this one act alone and I am glad my youngest son suggested it a few years ago.

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