Losing your Mojo!

Steven Aitchison
Written by Steven Aitchison

What to do when you lose your mojo

Have you ever had that feeling in your life when nothing is working? You’re
feeling down, people you thought were on your side are suddenly against you?
You feel the whole world is against you? Unless you are a manic depressive
hopefully this only happens once in a blue moon. What do you do when
this happens?

when_you_lose_your_mojoThis exercise is not for people who are depressive and are
on medication for their depression. This type of depression should be
treated professionally and over a long period of time.

This is for those times when we have lost it for a few days, our confidence has
gone. You know you will go back to your old self soon but it’s shit feeling that
way you do just now. This exercise should help.

Depending on how deep the mojo losing has gone there are steps you can take
to get the mojo back.

It all starts at the start

  1. Recognise when the mojo losing feeling started.

Usually there is a trigger event that starts the snowball rolling and the
downward spiral of feelings. An example trigger would be falling out
with your partner, loss of a job, a failed exam something big but not huge.

  1. Go back to the last known good configuration.

This is a computer term meaning that if something goes wrong with a program,
revert to a time when it was working okay. It involves going back, in
your mind, to the last time you felt good about yourself and the world. This
involves visualising yourself in the time when you felt good. Use your
mind to the full, get the feelings back, and get the smell, touch, taste, and
sounds back. If you can do this a few times a day for the next few days
you will see a dramatic difference in the way you feel.

  1. Thank yourself

This is important. Feeling down for a few days is not a good feeling,
however it reminds us how good our life really is. When we are in the
black cloud of feeling down the world is not a good place, when the cloud disappears
the sunshine is back. This is the time to thank yourself, thank yourself
for your life (it is you who is creating it).

When I do exercises like this it further strengthens my belief that we create,
in part, the world around us. If we can control our state of mind we
can, effectively, control the world.


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  • This post just made my day…Thank you. So many of us, including me, are so caught up with our daily tasks that we tend to forget who we really are. Again, thank you.

  • I’d like to share some more ideas.

    1. Notice disguised opportunities.
    Lee Iacocca once said, “We are all faced with a series of great
    opportunities – brilliantly disguised as insoluble problems.” When
    I trained in customer service skills, I used to tell front line
    staff that customer complaints were not to be feared, but rather to
    be welcomed with open arms. They were being handed a wonderful
    gift. Here was their opportunity to shine. Here was their
    opportunity to show the customer just how much we did care for
    their needs. Most customers are neutral, but a disgruntled one,
    once turned around, is usually an activist for the company.

    2. Get ye to the countryside!
    A research study measured subjects’ cognitive deficits and
    psychological states after walking in a city environment compared
    to a group who walked in an arboretum. Those who had walked in the
    city scored considerably less on a test of working memory and
    attention, and were also in a worse mood than the other group.

    3. Accentuate the positive.
    I love Jim Carey movies. I recently watched, “Yes Man.” Here was a
    man living an uneventful life until he began responding positively
    to every request. Of course this got him into some unexpected and
    very funny situations; however there is a great lesson here. For
    every event, look for and embrace its positive features.

    4. Stay connected.
    Maintain and foster your network of friends and family, even if it
    is a bit of a chore. Isolating yourself just deepens the hole
    you’re in.

    5. Stay active.
    This is probably one of the simplest methods available. Walk,
    dance, swim, or do some gardening. Trick your brain into thinking
    that everything is just fine.

    6. Nurture your body.
    Eat well, drink well. At some time or other we all turn to comfort
    food – self-medicating to make us feel better with too much of
    things like pasta, pop, alcohol – but, though it feels fine in the
    short term, it’s destructive over time. Keep in mind that
    dehydration is a prime cause of fuzzy thinking and convoluted
    decision making. For good hydration, choose water over pop and
    alcohol, and, for abrupt and dynamic change, switch much of your
    diet to fresh fruit and vegetables, their fiber helping regulate
    your system’s pace of absorption.

    7. Get some sunlight.
    During the short days of winter, either get outside for twenty
    minutes a day, or buy a full-spectrum light bulb. Exposure to this
    light on a daily basis will encourage your body to promote the
    generation of the mood-raising vitamin D.

    8. Nurture your mind.
    Lots of research has shown that what we read, listen to, or watch
    will affect our consciousness. Our conscious thoughts influence our
    emotions, behaviors, and even our health. None of us can afford the
    luxury of a negative thought. Saturate your mind with positive
    thoughts. Avoid the news and listen to relaxing music. Spend as
    much time out of doors as you can. Develop a habit of laughing and
    smiling often. If you want to take it to another level, consider
    taking a personal development course or hiring a life coach.

    9. Live in the present.
    Dwelling on the past or worrying about the future generates and
    sustains anxiety. Focusing on the present creates a sense of
    grounding and wellbeing.

    10. Be grateful.
    Instead of comparing yourself to others, or grieving over what you
    once had, be grateful for what you do have, whether it’s health,
    family, skills, abilities, friends, or a place to live. Many people
    keep a daily gratitude journal. This keeps their good fortune at
    top of mind.

    The last thing I want you to be aware of is that life is full of
    cycles. Sometimes we may find ourselves in a natural low, and it
    takes only a few negative events to make our life appear very
    gloomy indeed. Be assertive. Give some of these approaches a trial
    run. I am sure you will notice a difference within days.

    • what wonderful ideas i felt a lot better after reading them and will try to put them into practice thanks so much for such positive energy

  • i find that when mine and my girlfriends relationship is going down hill so does the rest of my life so im hoping that these exercises work :)

  • well, life is very interesting, and sometimes it seems that there is no point doing anything, and sometimes it does…. if we want to create the situation that is good for us we need to influence on our inner strength and outside factors… the right way exist and must be found…

  • Losing your ‘mojo’ can be such a drag.

    There is a method that advises that every morning before you get out of bed and every evening before you sleep, just list 10 things in your life that you are greatful for and one thing that you would like to achieve and the steps you have taken so far to achieve that one goal. It really at the end of the day is the little things that matter


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