How To Live For The Week, Not Just The Weekend

About Leah Cox

Leah Cox is a life coach and blogger over at Where Is Life? She’s on a mission to change the world by helping people get past their limiting beliefs, start believing in themselves and achieving things they previously thought impossible. She’s currently on an epic adventure raising money for Cystic Fibrosis by trading a 3-legged Indian elephant called Nellie!

Your alarm has just gone off. AGAIN! It’s 6.30am. You’re exhausted. You promised yourself an early night but you only got home from work at 7pm. Then you cooked dinner. And then you wanted just a little time for yourself. Just a teeny tiny bit of time to actually enjoy your own life. And so you stayed up an hour or two longer than you should have…

But you’re regretting it now as you wince at the sound of the alarm.

Wake up! It’s the start of another magnificent day in your life.

change-your-thoughts-weekendAnother day in which you’ll drag yourself out of bed, into the shower and onto whichever form of germ-ridden public transport is going to take you to that hideous place in which you’ll spend the next 8 hours of your life. You’ll sit at your desk, tapping out emails to people sitting within a couple of metres of you. You’ll go to the tea point at least 3 times to ‘stretch’ your legs.’ You might go to a few meetings in which nothing very much will be decided and you’ll come out with a ‘to do’ list stretching into the stratosphere.

Eight hours later you’ll log off, return to the germ-infested public transport for that hour-long journey home where you’ll be greeted by your spouse, partner or flat mate. Over dinner (if you have the energy to bother cooking), you’ll off-load onto each other about how annoying your respective days were.

Later, you might zone out in front of the television in an attempt to momentarily forget the realities of your existence.

And then, at the end of it all, you’ll remind yourself…

JUST HOW LUCKY YOU ARE TO HAVE A JOB.

Oh yes! So lucky! Yes you are! So very, very lucky!

Keep repeating it to yourself. You might convince yourself of just how lucky you are.

I get it. The situation I described above isn’t a figment of my over-active imagination. It was my very own reality for several years. Monday to Friday was a hideous struggle to get to the weekend. And most of the weekend was spent dreading Monday. I hated it and I was miserable. But I also accepted what’s constantly being forced down our throats and in our faces. That I was ‘lucky to have a job.’

When it comes to work, way too many of us are settling for ‘good enough’. Except there’s nothing ‘good’ in the ‘good enough.’ The ‘good enough’ is driving us into the ground. It’s ruining our health and our relationships. It’s ruining our lives.

And to me, it makes no sense. This is MY LIFE. This is YOUR LIFE. For seven days a week we should want to get out of bed and enjoy it.

HOW TO START LIVING FOR THE WEEK, NOT JUST THE WEEKEND

1. Go Cold Turkey

Go cold turkey like I did back in August 2012 and pack in your day job without another one to go to. This is not recommended for the faint-hearted and you might need to make sure you have some £££s in the bank to tide you over whilst you figure out your next move.

Benefits: Tons of time to devote to either figuring out what you love to do or, if you already know what that is, to start doing it. If, like I was, you’re so miserable in your current job that it leaves you unable to start taking action on anything else, then it could be time to cut yourself loose. For some people, big changes and drastic action work best. It’s not for everyone, but it worked for me.

2. Ask Your Employers For What You Want

Working from home a few days a week or a slight tweak in you responsibilities might be enough to change the way you feel about your job. But remember, if you don’t ask, you don’t get and you lose your right to complain.

If there’s something you know could drastically change your enjoyment of your current job, ask for it. Here’s how…

  • Get clear in your mind about what you want.
  • Think about all the possible problems your manager might see with your suggestion and come up with solutions to those problems.
  • Be prepared to explain the benefits of what you’re proposing.
  • Be smart. If you’d like to spend two days a week working from home, suggest three and compromise on two. You’ll get exactly what you wanted and your manager will think they’ve done a good job getting you to agree on less than you wanted.
  • If your manager is reluctant, suggest a trial. Whatever it is you’re asking for, suggest you trial it for several weeks and if they’re not happy with how it’s going after that time, you can try something else. During the trial period, work your ass off to make sure you deliver better results than you normally do.

3. Spend More Time Doing What You Enjoy

After a day in a job that has you crying into your dinner plate, it’s easy to get into a rut of spending your free time wallowing in how much you hate your life. You want to get home, eat and go to bed. The problem with this is that you’re spending no time on the things that inspire and excite you. This in turn keeps you feeling miserable and depressed. And that stops you from taking action to change your lives. Welcome to the vicious cycle.

Commit to spending some time, at least 3 times a week on something you know you enjoy. Spending time on things you enjoy will energise you and help you foster a positive outlook. The more positive your outlook, the more easily you will be able to deal with the areas of your life that aren’t perfect and start implementing change.

3. Meet New People

Spending time with inspiring people is one of the most motivating things you can do. Have an idea for a job you think you might enjoy? Find people who are already doing it and ask to talk to them. They’ll most likely be flattered that you asked and will be happy to spend some time with you. Why not attend a meet-up in your town or city on a topic or hobby you enjoy? If one doesn’t exist, set one up yourself. Do not underestimate the power of spending more time with the right people.

4. Stop Making Excuses

At the end of the day, when all is said and done, you have a choice to make. You either want to make changes in your life or you don’t. The path to living for the week and not just the weekend isn’t easy. If it were, everyone would be doing it and we’d all be ridiculously happy in our jobs. The resources and help are out there but creating a life of Monday to Sunday enjoyment requires daily practise and dedication.

What will you choose?

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  1. Yeah for some weird reason, it can definitely be hard to motivate yourself to actually have fun on weekdays. It’s kind of a weird phenomenon to me. But I end up just sitting at home a lot of days. Meeting new people can definitely be a great help, because if you find people that are active on weekdays, it gives you a huge motivation to do stuff and be active as well.
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    • Hi Ragnar – thanks for your comment on this post! I guess a lot of people feel too zonked out and exhausted after a day at work to do much, although finding the motivation to get out and do something often ends up giving us more energy. I used to go home most days after work and sit in front of the TV. These days, there is no ‘after work’ and because I’m generally much more content I don’t feel the need to try and zone out using any method I have available to me. I agree that meeting people who love to make the most of their time can be a great help in inspiring you to do the same.
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  2. hi Leah – sorry for getting here so late. Enjoyed reading your article and I’m reminded of this phenomena when I read people’s facebook postings towards the end of the week begging for the weekend to show up. If you need the weekend in order to survive the other five days, you have a problem!

    And yes, we all do have choices. Live how we want to or go with the program (40+ hours of work, mind-numbing office work, terrible supervisors and the rest) Most people probably can’t go cold turkey but with enough planning, anyone can make a transition to live the kind of life they want. Life’s too short to just survive through each week and living for the weekend.

    • Hi Vishnu and thanks for your comment. I’m glad you enjoyed the article! Ah, yes, the facebook messages from people looking forward to their weekend…it makes you wonder, doesn’t it, what’s gone wrong if we only look forward to two days out of each week? I think so many people have just accepted that’s the way it works though and don’t think about the possibility of there being a different way of doing things. The further I go on my own journey the more I realise that life really is too short not to enjoy all the incredible things in this world and I’ve begun to realise too that, actually, there’s not much to worry about at all.
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  3. Leah – brilliant post, right up my street as I too was that person you describe until I decided to go cold turkey. Scary but well worth it to be fully present in life once again, phew!
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  4. Love this post!! So true about having to repeat to ourselves “I’m so lucky to have this job”. That’s what the system wants you to think – like we’re too weak to do anything else!
    The more people that follow your brave decision and reject that conditioning, the happier place the world will be.
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    • Thanks Joe! Yes, we’re definitely taught that we ought to feel lucky and whilst I think it’s important to be grateful for all that we have in life that doesn’t mean we should feel bad about wanting more from our existence. It just upsets me that we live with so much fear which prevents us from living and reaching our true potential.

  5. Yikes Leah, what a way to live, focusing on all the stuff that’s awful about your entire week when there’s so much to be grateful for. We live in an absolutely fabulously beautiful world and if we’d just take a minute or two each morning to decide on the kind of day we’re going to have the more likely that day will begin to show up…maybe even leading us to take your courageous move and give it all up cold turkey.

    Who knows how it’ll pan out…certainly not me, but what I do know is that all manner of amazing things come to our aid when we’re focused on the best of life.

    e-hugs
    Elle
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  6. Great post and I agree with what Martin has said – ” If we get paid for doing what we love, then we don’t have to ever work another day.” I would also add that if you do what you love, you will in general be bloody good at it” Also you and your employer would both benefit.

    John
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    • Hi John! I most definitely agree! If you’re doing something you love, you cannot help but get better and better at it because you WANT to spend time doing it and therefore are always improving. Employers would definitely be better off if more people were doing what they love, or at least allowed more freedom and flexibility in the way they work so they don’t feel so controlled. I think a sense of autonomy in work is so important. Thanks for your comment! Leah
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  7. It’s a shame how many people live for the weekend and let 5 whole days pass them by. That is the majority of their lives they miss out on simply because they focus on getting to weekend and living it up for 2 days.
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  8. Great post, thanks for sharing!

    If we get paid for doing what we love, then we don’t have to ever work another day. Obviously, this is easier said than done, but we can all do our best to get there eventually!

  9. Good article and I think you’re tackling an issue that the majority has. The week is seen as something to dread while weekends are coveted and the only times to enjoy life. Really, enjoying every day is my goal once I settle into a career. I find it strange that it’s acceptable and the norm to hate your job.
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    • Thanks Vincent! Can you imagine what the world would be like if everyone got up, 7 days a week, actually wanting to get out of bed and go to work? I guess we’ve come to accept the notion of ‘work should be a chore’ and so when we find we don’t enjoy what we do, we just think it’s ok because that’s what work is. The weekends are for fun. Well, I want to have fun every day and I don’t think it’s too much to ask!
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  10. Hi Leah,
    Thoroughly agree with you.What we need is invigorating ourselves during the weekdays instead of the weekends alone.It is good to pursue our goals continuously instead of only “lighting the lamp” occasionally.The best advice is:-
    Do not spend your mind energy on mere “sticks and stones”.Sticks and stones are those thoughts that only deplete your confidence and strength ,and do not contribute to your progress or success in any way at all.
    Dedicate your mind power to your “star goals”.
    Star goals are your passions,dreams,and noble pursuits.Those goals which give you matchless satisfaction and fulfillment.

    Focus On Your Dreams,Only
    Strive to reach your star goals through your star mental processes;systems and disciplines of thinking that empower you and uplift you constantly.
    Thanks
    Mona
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    • Hi Mona,

      Thanks for your comment. Love what you say about “sticks and stones”. It’s difficult when we’re in a job that we hate not to spend all our time and energy on ‘hating’ it when what is really required is ploughing the energy you have into pursuing the life you’d like to be living and the goals you’d like to achieve. When we make an active commitment to moving our energy away from complaining about our current situation and placing it instead on the things we want, life starts to feel a lot better.
      Leah recently posted..How Identifying Your Worst Case Scenario Could Help You Take Action On Your Dreams

  11. Hi Leah,
    Thoroughly agree with you.What we need is invigorating ourselves during the weekdays instead of the weekends alone.It is good to pursue our goals continuously instead of only “lighting the lamp” occasionally.The best advice is:-
    Do not spend your mind energy on mere “sticks and stones”.Sticks and stones are those thoughts that only deplete your confidence and strength ,and do not contribute to your progress or success in any way at all.
    Dedicate your mind power to your “star goals”.
    Star goals are your passions,dreams,and noble pursuits.Those goals which give you matchless satisfaction and fulfillment.

    Focus On Your Dreams,Only
    Strive to reach your star goals through your star mental processes;systems and disciplines of thinking that empower you and uplift you constantly.
    Thanks
    Mona

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