your life in a minute
How many books have your read on personal development? How many seminars have you attended? How many podcasts have you listened to? and how many blogs have you read to change your life?
My guess would be that you’ve spent hundreds of hours reading, watching and listening for ways to change your life for the better. I know I have, I am a self help junkie and was forever searching for that elusive book that would change me forever. I was looking externally for a lesson that would change me. It took years to learn that my life was not going to change from a book or a seminar or a podcast or a blog.
Your life literally changes within the space of 60 seconds.
Some of you will know exactly what I am talking about here and some of you might be thinking ‘what is the clown talking about!’
How to change in 60 seconds
Decide that you really want to change and what you want to change from and what you want to change to.
- Deciding to change
This might sound a bit too simplistic. You might think this step is a given and that of course you want to change or you wouldn’t be investing all that time reading and listening to self help articles and seminars etc. However, ask yourself have you really thought about it?
Changing might involve changing your life totally, depending on your circumstances. I know people who have literally change the country they live, they’ve changed their friends, they’ve changed their house, and they’ve literally changed their surroundings which show a huge commitment.
I firmly believe that to change a long standing habit in your life you have to remove yourself totally your habits surroundings. I think a classic example of this is drug users. I deal with a lot of drug users in my role as a support worker. The ones, I have seen, come off the drugs quicker and more successfully are the ones who have literally removed themselves from their friends, their family, and their normal surroundings. They have re-invented themselves elsewhere. It’s like having one of those fairground machines where the mechanical arm picks up the teddy and you win the prize, it’s been taken out of its normal surroundings and given a new life.
Knowing what you might have to sacrifice in order to become a better you will it be worth it? If your answer is still yes and you have really thought about it and are willing to sacrifice then you have decided to change.
- Knowing who you are
You know yourself very well and you know your feelings and thoughts about the world. Maybe you’re wrong, maybe you have a skewed perception of yourself, maybe you’re comparing yourself to people you shouldn’t be.
When I was younger I used to try and be like Tom Cruise in the films Top Gun, Days of Thunder and Cocktail. I wanted to be a confident, funny, go get em sort of person. It took me years to realise I wasn’t that person; I was quiet, confident, liked my own space and preferred to develop my intelligence rather than my list of conquests.
Who are you comparing yourself to? What do you think other people think aboutyou? Ask your friends how they see you and what type of person they see you as. You have to be prepared for what you hear so don’t ask the question if you are not prepared fro the answers.
When you know who you really are and you still want to change aspects of your life. then you’re ready for the last step a changing.
Who do you want to be?
You wouldn’t go to a strange place without first having a route map to find it. So it is with life. you have to know what and where you want to be in life before you can actually go there.
You will know deep down if you really want to change. You will know generally who you really are and you will probably know what you want to change. Looking at these three aspects of change should only take you 60 seconds initially.
Who and where do you want to be next year?