Ebb and Flow

About Adel Refai

Adel (‘Oddle’) has spent years as an online marketer and marketing coach. He realized very quickly that mindset, attitude and approach to life and business were always part of success. How you go about achieving your goals – your successes – are just as important as what you want to achieve.

Everybody needs help and guidance. He feels it's part of his mission to offer that guidance.

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When I start a new project, I tend to have this incredible amount of excitement at the beginning.  I’ll work on it for hours and hours straight.  I’ll stay up late.  I’ll wake up early eager to get back to work on it.

It’s an incredible feeling; a constant adrenaline rush. Eventually though, it subsides. In the past, this was when I would become less productive. Maybe lose interest and eventually move on to something else.

CYT ExcitementWhen that excitement is there in the beginning, I’m hyper-focused. No task or problem can slow me down.  But when the excitement subsides, everything is still the same; I just look at it differently. It ceases to become ‘fun’ and ‘exciting’ and becomes actual ‘work’.  But that’s just how it is. Anything worth doing, I’ve learned, is going to require a commitment.  A commitment to show up every day, with a good attitude, for a long period of time in order to see results.

It Takes Time…

And during that time, there are going to be ups and downs. Days I don’t feel like doing anything and days I’m on a roll.

I read something the other day that helped my perspective on this. That a successful life requires the right philosophy. And that philosophy is that results require commitment.  Success in health, fitness, business, family, all require daily commitment.

You show up every day, consistently, for a long period of time, and with a good attitude. And a little plus a little eventually adds up to something great.  I like that philosophy, and having one philosophy that covers all aspects of my life clicks with me. It’s simple and it makes sense.

And It Will Get Tough…

So yes, there are days when I don’t feel like doing anything. Days (weeks!) where I’m in a funk, and just can’t seem to get out of it.  And I was made aware that it’s all a part of the ebb and flow of life.

There’s two sides to every coin. Cold and hot, wet and dry. One allows the other to exist. If there was no such thing as ‘cold’, we wouldn’t need a word to describe ‘hot’.  And the one allows us to understand the other better.

Without feeling pain, you might not appreciate love as much. Without struggle and sacrifice, success would not be as sweet (if at all). Without the bad days where I don’t want to get out of bed, I wouldn’t learn the true meaning of commitment and integrity.

But Hard Times Shape Character And Commitment

Integrity is, after all, keeping your word. Doing what you said you’d do long after the mood has passed. Right?  It’s easy to say you’ll do something when you’re pumped up and motivated. But days and weeks later, when that mood is gone, do you follow through? People notice if you do. Life notices if you do.

I’m learning to appreciate and embrace the ebb and flow of life. When things are going smoothly, I take notice and I enjoy the moment. When things start to get hectic, when I struggle, when my heart aches, I take notice also.  I don’t fight it anymore, and I don’t complain.

I’ve learned that during those times is when I have an opportunity to learn and grow. To practice my understanding of commitment and integrity. To maintain my daily disciplines when times are tough. And to appreciate what I’m going through, so that I can fully appreciate it when the other side of the coin reveals itself.

I’m learning to enjoy the ebb and flow of life. Because if I only appreciate the good times, then I’m only appreciating half of my life.

To Your Success,


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  1. This describes myself 100%. When I start something new, I never need sleep. I just keep working because it never feels like work, it’s all fun. But that feeling eventually fades and I have to actually start to work. To make it through, I remind myself as to why I am doing what I am doing and that helps me to keep the fire burning.
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  2. Call me weird but I remind myself about the highs and lows of life with the following quote… “He who rides a pony must someday fall”
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  3. I love that statement: “…show up every day, with a good attitude, for a long period of time…” it’s just so important to keep that attitude if you want to succeed. And yes, it’s not always easy, but once you break through those periods of lack of motivation, suddenly the joy and excitement comes back.
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    • It really is important to keep that attitude. You’re so right , Robert. That feeling of ‘breaking through’ is a pretty great one, don’t you think?

  4. Thank you for your article Adel! Yep you’re right life is made of ups and downs and we need to learn to keep going also when we lack the will to do it. You know, it’s not easy because most of the times our mind just says “come on who cares? you’ll do it later” or “you’ll never get that so why making so much effort?”. It’s hard but possible. I’ve understood from my little prespective that success requires time. Weith loss requires time, changing habits requires time, gettin fit requires time. But also dedication. time doesn’t get you anywhere if you don’t commit daily to your goals. Also to build a strong good friendship requires time and commitment. Everything requires commitment to become long lasting. Keeping a motivational journal also helps. Like having daily quotes to remind ourselves what needs to be done. The one that works best for me is “Don’t stop. The view at the top is amazing” Thank you for your article!

    • Great perspective, Deborah! It’s so true, anything lasting an worthwhile requires time. There’s no way around it. We just have to make time our ally an not our enemy! Happy New Year!

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