About Steven AitchisonEverything you truly desire in life has already been given to you, life is just the game you play to retrace the steps back to your perfect self.
Somewhere out in the ether of the world there is a desire, a little desire that is lost and travelling, not knowing where it is going. The desire is searching for someone, without a name, without a face, without an age, without a gender, all the desire knows is that someone might find it someday and without knowing why or how, the desire will know who it’s rightful owner will be.
The vibration of the desire is matched to the vibration of the person looking for it and can only be found when the right vibrations are in alignment. The desire, no matter where in the ether it is, will be pulled, instantaneously to the person who is ready for it.
Meanwhile back on earth, another part of the ether, there is someone like you who has an inkling of a desire. You start to think you want something in your life and the feeling is getting stronger. You’ve tried before to get this but it has not come to you yet. What do you need to do to change the vibrational frequency of the desire in order to bring it to you?
5 Steps To Attaining Your Desires
- Ask for the desire to come to you
So many of us are afraid to ask for the things we want in life. You deserve the things you want in your life, no matter what you think. The thing is, that your desire will only manifest itself with the work you put into getting it, however if you fall at the first hurdle and don’t ask for it you will never ever receive it into your life.
- Think about the desire often
I used to think that if I thought about the desire too much I would squeeze the life out of it. However, now I think about my desires often but I almost caress them and cherish the thoughts I have about the desires, so I am not squeezing the life out of them.
- Let go of the need for the desire
Following on from the previous step I have found, time and time again, as soon as I let go of the need for the desire it comes to me a lot quicker.
To illustrate this: Before I got married I was always looking for the perfect woman for me. I felt I wanted to settle down as I had had enough of playing the field and from the age of around 28 I felt I was ready. However, nobody came along that matched my idea of the perfect woman: Intelligent, witty, beautiful, petite, assertive, and loving. On the 19th July 2002, At the age of 32, I walked along Argyle street in Glasgow and told myself I am giving up my active search to meet my perfect woman and would remain single, and if the right person walked into my life then so be it. I really meant it, I totally let go of finding the right woman for me.
On the night of the 19th July 2002 I was cajoled to go on a night out that I had previously said no to. 2 hours later my perfect woman walked through the door wearing a red T-Shirt, brown cords and a beautiful smile. We have now been married for 5 years and together for nearly 8 years with two wonderful sons.
- Believe the desire will come
You would think this was a given, but a lot of us want things in our life without really believing we can get them. I know I have a few things I want that when I question them and really examine them, deep down, I don’t believe I can have them, although this is something I am working on. For the most part I deep down believe I can get most of my desires.
The thing with beliefs and desires is that once you believe and get one of the ‘big desires’ it is much easier to get another big one or a bigger one: success begets success.
- Accept the desire when it comes
This part might sound a little strange, but a lot of us can’t accept success when it comes to us. Be prepared, mentally, for the success of attaining your desire and you will be able to handle it a lot better. To get prepared for success, picture yourself, often, having your desire and how you would act and feel when you have it, really dig deep and be honest.
It’s already happened
Our desires are waiting in the ether, floating around waiting for us to imagine it possible, not the other way around of us thinking of our desires and then they start forming to come to us.
Everything you truly desire in your life, and I say truly because the desire to have lots of money, a big house and fancy cars are not real desires, they are pipe dreams. A desire is something you’re willing to work towards and to take action to attain. If you sit on the couch, eating a pizza and slurping coke all day whilst watching a fitness video and wishing for a perfect body, it’s not going to happen whereas if you watch the fitness video and actually do the workouts day in day out your desire will come to you.
Everything you truly desire in life has already been given to you, life is just the game you play to retrace the steps back to your perfect self.
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Steven,
Love this!! Especially what you’ve shared about meeting your wife – and about letting go of the need. Such an important step…and one that easy (for me) to miss.
That perfect self….mmmm….great thoughts!
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Hey Lance, I think a lot of us forget the ‘letting go’ part but I believe it is crucial to our success in life.
When I say the perfect self I really mean to be self actualised, I should have clarified this.
I completely agree Steven! Many people talk about what leads up to success but very few point out that you ultimately have to accept the success! Thank you for bringing that up. I find it strange that more people don’t spread the word about how to handle your desire after you’ve attained it. Maintenance is more important than pursuit. Great Post! ^_^
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Hi Cyi, I think you’ve made a good point about maintenance of our desires. I think that’s why a lot of lottery winners lose their money so quickly.
Love this! Sometimes the word desire can sound romantic and frivolous but you remind us that desire is only one part of the process, that we also have to work towards that desire.
I’m also interested in what you are saying about the balance between focusing on the desire and not needing the desire. I really struggle with that one. In fact, in general I just struggle with balance…!!
Hi Karen
Thanks for your comment son this. I think a lot of us struggle with focusing on the desire and not needing it, it’s a fine line between caressing a desire and squeezing the desire, if that makes sense
Hi. This had me riveted. I have been looking for many things and often gotten stuck in the looking. There is much to learn and much to practise from what you say. Thank u for sharing.
Hi Uzma, thanks for your kind words I really appreciate them.
Hey Steven!
Sofa’s right, great pick of words! Desire is much better thab being “motivated.”
I used to have your same thought process, of “over doing” my passions to the point of squeezing every last love for it.
But I learnt it’s what’s needed to get things done, and that if I truly want something….it can never be played out.
Good stuff!
–Parker
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Hi Parker, thanks for your comments. I think it’s the desire that keeps us motivated, that’s why when we reach attain our desires it’s important to have another one to keep us motivated in life.
Great post. I love how you make it a game of tug-of-war, pulling it close by asking for it and naming it, but letting it go at the same time. Brilliant and so true. It’s all tied up in the flow of life and the universe so we are active participants and at its mercy all at once. Love the story of how you met your wife. That sums it all up.
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Hi Katie, for a long time I didn’t realise that you could hold something so tight that you would almost kill it. The ‘Flow of life’ is a good way to put it. Having a desire is a lot like having a great relationship – you don’t want to be too needy or the other person will run, but you don’t want to be standoffish or the other will run, it’s all about the balance.
I especially like letting go of the need for the desire. Other articles I’ve read call this “surrender” which is not the same as giving in or giving up. A good reminder for me as I understand what it means to attain my desires. Love and Light
Hi Lauren. Surrender is a good way to put it. Thanks for your comments, always appreciated.
There’s so much that I love about this post, Steven. I definitely subscribe to the belief that our desires are just waiting on us to align with the vibration of them. However, reaching that vibrational point is our work.
I really like that you said to let go of the need for the desire. This is so true. Needing, longing, yearning…those feelings just keep us away from what we really want.
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Hi Nea. reaching that vibrational point is difficult, but sometimes if we are perceptive enough we can almost feel it. There are moments when I think i am only a few clicks away from a desire and I can feel it inside of me, literally (it’s a strange feeling). You are right about making the difference between needing something and desiring something.
Hi Steven,
These are good reminders and I love the way you refer to your wife in one brief moment that paints a photo in my mind. Nice.
Hi Tess, that brief moment has forever been etched on my mind and I often go back to the feeling I had when that moment happened as it keeps me forever grateful that I met her and that I met our family.
I love the notion that our desires are already there, waiting for us to draw them in!
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Hi Claire, it’s a nice thought to think that our desires are waiting on us, it puts a different slant on attaining them.
Very nice post Steven. In regards to the second point you mention, this is so true, once we are attached too much to what we want, then we are projecting the emotion of “deprivation and need,” hence this is what we will get. Thanks for shaing
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Hi Dia. That’s exactly right about receiving deprivation if we hold on to a desire too much and start needing instead of desiring.
This is a truly unique way of describing our desires and how we can attain them. I personally have realized some of mine, but I know that there are a few others that I haven’t yet figured out. I’m happy that you gave these steps for those like me who are in this initial stage.
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Hi Julius, thanks for your kind words and I am happy that you found this post useful.
The action part of this, which you highlight, is the key in my opinion. It doesn’t have to be hard (and most of the time it’s not) to achieve what we desire – unless we tell ourselves it will be a struggle – but we must act to achieve. Thanks for this post.
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Hi M or H
I think a lot of us forget that taking action is a must if we are to attain our desires in life, and, like you said, it doesn’t have to be hard.
I believe desiring the right things is a start. Putting our heart into the wrong desire, or an unrealistic desire, is self deprecating. Once a good desire is found, your list is very good at achieving the desire Steven.
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Hi Colleen. A ‘wrong desire’ has a different vibration altogether and deep down we know when we are chasing a wrong desire. I think this is a good point to bring up. A lot of us are chasing things we don’t need or won’t be good for us e.g. a person who is not interested in us.
Hi Steve,
I loved this post. I really enjoyed how you illustrated letting go of the desire and then meeting your wife. Wonderful.
So true, a desire for cars and material things will never satisfy us. We need to work toward lasting goals that speak to our values.
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Hi Angela. A desire for the material things in life is like looking forward to a really good meal and then eating a carrot, we will never feel the satisfaction of feeling full.
Hi Steven
Wonderful thoughts – as always.
This apparant contradiction between being obsessed about your desires and letting them go, is something I still cant’ wrap my mind around. Maybe soon you would consider writing more about it – I look forwad to some other metaphors from you that will finally put this to rest (for me).
Thanks again – excellent stuff.
Hi Rakesh, it is quite difficult to wrap your head around. This might be a helpful way to think about it: You have the most beautiful blue butterfly in your hand and you want to keep it in your life. If you cover the butterfly with a, soft, clenched fist you will be able to hold it without killing it, opening your hand every so often to admire it. If you squeeze your fist just a little too tight the butterfly will die. Don’t know if that helps or not.
Thanks a lot, Steven, for this great tips. I’ve used them in my life and they are really true. Very nice post! It inspires!
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Hi Roman thanks for your thoughts on this I appreciate them.
“Everything you truly desire in your life, and I say truly because the desire to have lots of money, a big house and fancy cars are not real desires, they are pipe dreams. A desire is something you’re willing to work towards and to take action to attain.”
Awesome. I spend alot of time talking to young people and I try to make this exact point to them. The music and media that they watch will lead them to believe that the glitz and glamour is a life of purpose. There is so much more to life than material things.
My desire is to one day lead a young person to a life of purpose and promise. Wish me luck.
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Hi Frank thanks for your comments, I think working with young adults can be the most rewarding yet most challenging group of individuals to work with.
Hi Steven,
You make some great distinctions here. When our mind lacks clarity and conviction, we place our desires on a weak ‘wish list’ and our actions are unpredictable. When we have a deep conviction to go after our desires our thoughts and actions are single pointed. An unwavering spirit is a powerful psychological position that cuts off all feelings of doubt.
We will never attain our desires if they are fueled by a feeling of pining, wanting wishing & hoping. We must pass into a feeling of “having” and paradoxically no longer want it. It is this feeling of “having” that allows it to manifest (like you illustrated so marvelously when you met your wife). When I was starting out in real estate development I practiced depositing $1,000,000 into an imaginary account. When I felt like I had it AND deserved it, it began to happen. And gradually then suddenly, I was a millionaire.
HI Rob. As ever some insightful comments from yourself which add to the post. You have voiced this in a great way by saying “We will never attain our desires if they are fueled by a feeling of pining, wanting wishing & hoping….”
So you are a millionaire? you’ll need to write a post on the mindset of a millionaire.
This post is perfect for me Steven. For a long, long time, too long, I’ve thought — because I was so spiritual — some desires weren’t quite “proper.” Money, for instance. But this smoke haze, all it is, is blowing away at last. I think having some money would be great. Which brings me though to your all-important first step… we have to ask. Didn’t Jesus himself say something about that… “Ask and ye shall receive…”?
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Hi Christopher. I think one of our collective mindsets is that if we lead a spiritual life we should not desire affluence in all it’s forms. We were born to desire, that is what motivates a lot of us. To first lead a spiritual life we first have to desire it, so we know that desires in themselves are not a bad thing. So it comes down to the question of the types of desire we have and whether or not they are bad. All desires, as long as they do not harm anyone else, are good and in this respect the philosophy of the Wiccan path is a good one: “An it harm none, do what you will”
WEll, I must be missing something here. What if you never meet that partner in life even though you are not desiring to do so. I cannot quite relate to your beautiful story. I have been not having the desires for the last decade and still haven’t met the right partner. How would you explain this phenomenon.
Linda
Hi Linda. I cannot give you an answer to that, I wish I could. I can only speculate as to why it has not happened for you. For a long time I told myself I truly had let go of looking for the right woman in my life, but deep down I was still looking, I hadn’t really let go of the desire to find someone. When I truly let go, I felt a clicking inside of me that had flipped the switch to letting go of my desire – as soon as the switch was flipped it happened.
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