Comments on: 7 Irrational thoughts that disrupt your life

By: Ann

Ann — Sat, 21 Aug 2010 01:02:42 +0000

Number 4 strikes a nerve with me, as the abuse I was put through was NOT my fault or my responsibility. I refuse to be told that I should not act the victim…I AM a victim of a very violent situation. As with most victims of domestic violence/abuse, we are already blaming ourselves and believing we somehow deserved it. So according to number 4, I am supposed to take responsibility for being abused? I have EVERY right to blame my attacker for what he did to me and the state he left me in! It is not my fault that this is where my life is…it is the fault of the man who beat me up when I tried to leave his physical presence. He took the power from me, I had no control over those actions at all.

By: Colleen

Colleen — Wed, 02 Jun 2010 13:30:06 +0000

Sadly, in looking at the list I’m guilty of every point at some point. Fortunately, in principle I do a decent job of keeping irrational thoughts at check. Our kids are a direct benefactor of keeping irrational thoughts in check.
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By: Murlu

Murlu — Tue, 25 May 2010 22:58:29 +0000

I love the idea of doing first and apologizing later.

So many people want to tell you how it’s done, tell you not to try it or give you negative feedback before you ever begin. The problem with this is it creeps into your mind so you will never succeed.

Part of this problem is you become afraid to fail in the eyes of others or have them bite at you if you make a mistake.

Instead, do everything you want now – if something goes awry, apologize later. You’ll never be able to start if all you accept is no. It’s easier to apologize than to get someone’s approval.
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By: Richelle

Richelle — Thu, 20 May 2010 05:15:23 +0000

Thank you for all your articles. I like how they are logically laid out, and kind of take a fresh perspective on things. Thank you. I’m personally trying to overcome depression, which I think comes from my Asperger’s Syndrome (which I have self diagnosed myself with).

By: Hamdiyatur Rohmah

Hamdiyatur Rohmah — Sat, 08 May 2010 12:33:17 +0000

Yes, i agree … awasome post. Building self esteem and realize that we have to spare my special time to reflect what should i do then. I have feeling that I need to do more than before. For my self and of course for my environment. Thank you

By: Amanda

Amanda — Sun, 18 Apr 2010 03:24:00 +0000

WOW! This is a subject that I am really passionate about! I see way too many people fall subject to these self-limiting thoughts!!!

Of those that you have mentioned I most struggle with 1 and 2. I have worked to overcome them but sometimes you still have to sit back and re-evaluate and remember that there is only one opinion of yourself that matters…and it’s your own.

It’s amazing to me also, how few people understand that they have to take full responsibility for their lives… no matter how good or bad. You can’t just let life happen to you… you have to take it by the horns and make it happen the way you want!

Incredible stuff Steve!
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By: Farnoosh

Farnoosh — Tue, 13 Apr 2010 03:29:07 +0000

I admit, I have done the irrational thinking, the irrational phrases and statements, I have done it and my husband corrects me while showing sympathy- but enough is enough! You are absolutely right Steven. The exaggeration is unnecessary and the truth is that we can dispel those negative thoughts with your simple awareness and clarification exercise. I will become more conscious of what I say – and the real truth – and close the gap ! Thank you!

By: Jarrod@ Optimistic Journey

Jarrod@ Optimistic Journey — Sun, 04 Apr 2010 00:22:36 +0000

I use to be one that thought that anytime somebody criticized me it meant that there was something wrong with me. But I later realized that it doesn’t mean that there is something wrong with me. And you reaffirmed this for me. Thank you because I found this to be very helpful for me!

By: Kristina

Kristina — Mon, 22 Mar 2010 21:11:07 +0000

Hi Steve,
Great articel i’m loving youre writings to a great deal. I have a man in my life that could grat benifit from youre readings. I wanted to add to this by saying i dont know if it helps anyone reading. But changing negative thinking is one of the hardest things i think a person can learn. I found it so dificult that i created a dragon in my head that just eats them. And for me it was that easy. It is however up to me to replace the thought. I do this with a word game. Insted of difficult i use different. Things like that.
Hey keep writing.
Thanks, Kristina

By: Nazreel

Nazreel — Sun, 21 Mar 2010 21:18:58 +0000

re no 4.

My life didn’t go as I expected it to and It wasn’t my fault or if it was I’d like to know how.

I gave birth to a handicapped child.

Which one of my thoughts or actions was responsible for that?