Accepting and dealing with your character flaws

October 12th, 2008 • Related • Filed Under

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There is this saying that “We all have issues that we need to deal with.” No matter how much of a well-rounded person you think you are, you should admit to the fact that nobody is perfect and there is a particular part of your personality which probably looks weird or is annoying for others.

However, these little quirks, annoying habits and personal rituals that you just cannot seem to get rid of what is makes each person unique and interesting.

What is a Better Way to Look at Your Character Flaws?

The first thing that you need to do when dealing with your character flaws is to accept it is a part of who you are. Again, remember that these characteristics are the things that make each individual unique, so you might as well accept it.

To have a deeper understanding of what character flaws are all about, here is a brief look into its two main types.

First, there is the minor character flaw. This includes a little quirk like habitual lateness that you just cannot seem to shrug off. Or being easily irritable, especially in the mornings.

How about having a boiling temper, when you easily get all hot and bothered over the little things?

Second, there are major character flaws – serious problems such as gambling, addiction or alcoholism.

Major character flaws are highly ‘treatable’ – there are professionals who can help get you out of your addiction or alcoholism. But what about the minor character flaws which is not readily obvious from an outsider’s point of view? Read on to find out how exactly you can deal with this.

Tips on Dealing with Your Character Flaws

Basically, dealing with minor character flaws can either be a short-term ‘treatment’ – or a lifelong process.

For example, if you are a habitual procrastinator – learning about time management can easily ‘cure’ you of this minor character flaw.

But what about being easily irritable? For this, you may want to analyze yourself and learn how this character flaw is affecting others.

When you’ve had a bad day at work and you come home to your family – do you often snap at your family members because of your annoyance over what happened in the workplace?

Put yourself in your family’s shoes and imagine how you will react if you get a ’snappish’ response over an otherwise innocent question. Naturally, you will get hurt, especially if you do not know the reason behind such behavior.

Second, if you feel that your minor character flaw can easily be adjusted for a newer, better you – go out of your way and try to change it. This is especially true if your personality quirks are negatively affecting your colleagues or your loved ones.

All in all, character flaws are a natural part of one’s personality. Depending on how it affects others – you can consciously take the necessary steps to change or accept it as part of who you are. No matter which of these two options you choose, the important thing is for you to learn how to deal with your character flaws and accept them as part of who you really are as a person.

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Ryan Whiteside is a writer and creator of the site Ultimate Personal Development. He offers hundreds of free articles on all areas of personal development. Including a free ebook titled “How You Can Earn One Million Dollars.”

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Comment by AddictionHelp on 12 October 2008:

My family has had much addiction issues such as drugs and alcohol. It has ripped our family to shreds. I agree that every little character flaw is not addiction, however this does not need to negate the millions with serious drug and alcohol issues in the United States.

Comment by David J. Parnell on 14 October 2008:

Cool post. I like the cognitive approach to understanding and coming to grips that your character flaws are there in the first place. These types of flaws can be a huge challenge in effectively communicating with others. Good advice…

David J. Parnell
Communication Expert

Comment by Jerry on 15 October 2008:

This is a great post. I understand that I have personal flaws, it is just tough at times to correct them. Especially when you fight the fact that you have them. I agree that the small quirks that you have everyday are the most difficult to get rid of. Even smaller stuff than outrage in the morning, such as hand gestures when you talk or talking over someone all the time. It’s difficult to change, but something I always want to correct. It is more frustrating than anything.

Comment by Beecher Bowers on 15 October 2008:

Often you can gain more by focusing on improving your character strengths, and overlooking minor character flaws. Too often people overstress themselves working on small flaws, when they could be making major gains further improving their strengths.

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Comment by TrainingHack on 18 October 2008:

Good article. I think aknowledging your flows is the first step in improving yourself. Acceptance also helps a lot in reducing the frustration and allows you to deal with the problem effeciently.
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Comment by Jimmy D on 19 October 2008:

I have low confidence and sometimes I just switch off when I talk to new people. It affects my performance at work. How do I over come this?

Comment by Kelly on 20 October 2008:

I think it’s possible to change anything, in order to have something. I have had several issues, that have prevented me having a healthy relationship, and only professional help allowed me to dive in and tackle things, so that they would eventually dissolve.

Comment by Anapnoe on 21 October 2008:

I already have this annoying habit of smiling when not appropriate. haven been thinking for long but am still unable to decide if it’s a flaw; but, i love it!
All of us are ‘human’ and a part of being human is being unique in our own ways, even when it come to having flaws!

Comment by Paul on 22 October 2008:

Deal with yourself is much more harder than deal with others. Thanks for the post.

Comment by Misprinted Currency on 22 October 2008:

This article really puts these character flaws into perspective. Some great suggestions on how to deal with them too.

Comment by James Andrew on 27 October 2008:

Very useful article! I think we all should learn how to deal with our own flows. This could help in improving out personality.

Comment by Bohemian Home Decor on 31 October 2008:

This is a great post! Dealing with our own flaws is hardest the thing to do, but we have to in order for us to become better persons.

Comment by Baby boy on 31 October 2008:

Good post.Thanks for the advice.I can found many of the information is useful for me and I will try to follow your instruction. It is wondering how we can find the flows of character.

Comment by Interactive Presentations on 3 November 2008:

As a matter of fact i am a habitual procrastinator…hope to change now..! thanks for the tip..!

Comment by gazzali on 8 November 2008:

This is another great post. If we can only find our limitations we will be able to accept other disabilities.

cheers

Comment by Garry@Promotional Producst on 10 November 2008:

Nice one. I’ve learned so many good stuff here in your site. Keep it up.

Comment by Web Jobs on 11 November 2008:

The post does share valuable information. But i will add one thing to it. To identify your personality flaws correctly and to overcome them cannot be done by an individual alone. To do this, one needs professional assistance. So this personality development would be better if you see a Psychologist or you join some focus group. As the results would be more encouraging.

Comment by Rieth on 15 November 2008:

oh so your saying I’m in the minor part of character flaws, well thanks for your advice, now I know how i can rebuild my self.

Comment by Lana El-Choufani on 20 November 2008:

It is a fact that everyone has his/her own flaws, that however irritating or harmful, are just part of who we all are. This post caught my attention because it brings about the positive as well as the negative aspects of one’s “imperfections”. These flaws make us who they are, they shape our personalities, and let’s face it, nobody’s perfect. It is important however for the individual to control these flaws as much as possible, as they can cause harm to themselves as well as to others. We must all accept others for their differences and faults, but most can only do so to a certain extent. It is within our own individual hands to create a limit for ourselves and for others.

Comment by Design Jobs on 24 November 2008:

Everyone has character flaws in them it’s just the matter of recognizing and overcoming it.These flaws moulds our personality and motivates it into a bad direction.It’s very important to overcome our personality flaws as the second person can only bare it to some extent.

Comment by Henry@Ethnic Instruments on 24 November 2008:

Dealing with your character flaws is one of the hardest thing to do. But, thanks for all the advice that I found here. It is really nice and valuable.

Comment by xxx videos on 4 December 2008:

Wow…The photo of angry lady is very nice..it is difficult to deal with the people having such a character.

Comment by Jeff@ ADT Home Alarm on 8 December 2008:

That is one of the hardest thing to do.. but I am really glad that I found your site. I did learned a lot.

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I ‘ve learned a lot by stopping by here. Your article is very helpful to each and everyone of us.

Comment by Mercola on 16 December 2008:

Very well written. I guess the old adage “The first step to fixing a problem is admitting YOU HAVE a problem,” is applicable here as well.

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Wow! I am really so glad that I found your site.. Your article really helps me a lot. Thank you.

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Comment by Albert on 3 March 2009:

I´m agree that the character flaws is to accept it is a part of who you are. These characteristics are the things that make each individual unique. Character flaws are a natural part of one’s personality and the important thing is for you to learn how to deal with your character flaws and accept them as part of who you really are as a person.

Comment by Humanities Degree on 5 March 2009:

Hi..this a really good article!! character is really important to every individual and you have given some good advice on it!! thanks a lot!!