Comments on: 14 Great ways to be miserable http://www.stevenaitchison.co.uk/blog/2008/02/27/12-great-ways-to-be-miserable/#utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=12-great-ways-to-be-miserable to change your life Fri, 20 Nov 2009 23:10:38 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.6 hourly 1 By: Alicia http://www.stevenaitchison.co.uk/blog/2008/02/27/12-great-ways-to-be-miserable/comment-page-1/#comment-201818 Alicia Mon, 19 Oct 2009 11:54:37 +0000 http://www.stevenaitchison.co.uk/blog/2008/02/27/12-great-ways-to-be-miserable/#comment-201818 I love this one! Made my day.. Soo funny I love this one! Made my day.. Soo funny

]]> By: Jo http://www.stevenaitchison.co.uk/blog/2008/02/27/12-great-ways-to-be-miserable/comment-page-1/#comment-201414 Jo Mon, 05 Oct 2009 09:56:56 +0000 http://www.stevenaitchison.co.uk/blog/2008/02/27/12-great-ways-to-be-miserable/#comment-201414 Thank you for this article. I actually do know people who love being miserable and justifying their misery. It was a shock to me to find out that people willingly love to suffer, and have a stupid idea of martyrdom and self sacrifice. It's worse when they want others to follow their flawed beliefs. I have come to realize that nothing you say or do will ever change them, not even an article like this. Unless by some miracle, they wish to change. To those who don't get it, this is not about those who suffer from depression. ( I know 'cos I used to have depression and I don't use it as an excuse. I hate being depressed and I do my darnedest to get out of it. It's tough, but I don't wallow in my misery and enjoy it.) And it is not about those who are in bad circumstances and can't help it. The people that this article refers to, they are the ones that actually make a mockery of people who truly suffer. Honestly, maybe some of them do have underlying problems, (like self delusion/ undiagnosed depression/ self esteem issues) but most of us try to change or cope when something makes us unhappy. Or get help, which these folk refuse to do. Thank you for this article. I actually do know people who love being miserable and justifying their misery. It was a shock to me to find out that people willingly love to suffer, and have a stupid idea of martyrdom and self sacrifice. It’s worse when they want others to follow their flawed beliefs. I have come to realize that nothing you say or do will ever change them, not even an article like this. Unless by some miracle, they wish to change.

To those who don’t get it, this is not about those who suffer from depression. ( I know ‘cos I used to have depression and I don’t use it as an excuse. I hate being depressed and I do my darnedest to get out of it. It’s tough, but I don’t wallow in my misery and enjoy it.) And it is not about those who are in bad circumstances and can’t help it. The people that this article refers to, they are the ones that actually make a mockery of people who truly suffer.

Honestly, maybe some of them do have underlying problems, (like self delusion/ undiagnosed depression/ self esteem issues) but most of us try to change or cope when something makes us unhappy. Or get help, which these folk refuse to do.

]]> By: sadfatso http://www.stevenaitchison.co.uk/blog/2008/02/27/12-great-ways-to-be-miserable/comment-page-1/#comment-199071 sadfatso Tue, 07 Jul 2009 07:33:37 +0000 http://www.stevenaitchison.co.uk/blog/2008/02/27/12-great-ways-to-be-miserable/#comment-199071 Some good tips here. I do most of them already but one or two will come in handy. Now I can be miserable much longer. Thanks! Some good tips here. I do most of them already but one or two will come in handy. Now I can be miserable much longer. Thanks!

]]> By: Web Design http://www.stevenaitchison.co.uk/blog/2008/02/27/12-great-ways-to-be-miserable/comment-page-1/#comment-187358 Web Design Thu, 23 Apr 2009 14:31:49 +0000 http://www.stevenaitchison.co.uk/blog/2008/02/27/12-great-ways-to-be-miserable/#comment-187358 Ha Ha Great... If you do the 'opposite' of all of these then you'll have another article, on how to be happy! Works on sooo many levels! Ha Ha Great… If you do the ‘opposite’ of all of these then you’ll have another article, on how to be happy! Works on sooo many levels!

]]> By: Barcelona http://www.stevenaitchison.co.uk/blog/2008/02/27/12-great-ways-to-be-miserable/comment-page-1/#comment-176730 Barcelona Tue, 03 Mar 2009 22:39:59 +0000 http://www.stevenaitchison.co.uk/blog/2008/02/27/12-great-ways-to-be-miserable/#comment-176730 you have some valid points here but I have to say a lot depends on the area/environment you live in! E.G. People in spain suffer less from depression than people in sweden or germany you have some valid points here but I have to say a lot depends on the area/environment you live in!
E.G. People in spain suffer less from depression than people in sweden or germany

]]> By: Fukof http://www.stevenaitchison.co.uk/blog/2008/02/27/12-great-ways-to-be-miserable/comment-page-1/#comment-174966 Fukof Fri, 06 Feb 2009 18:08:41 +0000 http://www.stevenaitchison.co.uk/blog/2008/02/27/12-great-ways-to-be-miserable/#comment-174966 LOL haha Go fuk yourselves!!! LOL haha Go fuk yourselves!!!

]]> By: Tim Brownson http://www.stevenaitchison.co.uk/blog/2008/02/27/12-great-ways-to-be-miserable/comment-page-1/#comment-165198 Tim Brownson Mon, 08 Dec 2008 20:38:42 +0000 http://www.stevenaitchison.co.uk/blog/2008/02/27/12-great-ways-to-be-miserable/#comment-165198 LOL! Thanks Big Man and of course you're absolutely right. I work with people suffering from depression regularly and I would never belittle it. The people I am taking a dig at are those that whine for no other reason, than because they can. Cheers Tim LOL! Thanks Big Man and of course you’re absolutely right. I work with people suffering from depression regularly and I would never belittle it. The people I am taking a dig at are those that whine for no other reason, than because they can.

Cheers
Tim

]]> By: Big Man http://www.stevenaitchison.co.uk/blog/2008/02/27/12-great-ways-to-be-miserable/comment-page-1/#comment-165183 Big Man Mon, 08 Dec 2008 13:30:42 +0000 http://www.stevenaitchison.co.uk/blog/2008/02/27/12-great-ways-to-be-miserable/#comment-165183 Chill out Steve. I don't think Mr Brownson is trying to have a go at people who suffer depression. I read the post thinking he was just trying to be funny and scarcastically give people a bit of advice about being a bit more positive. The guy is a life coach so I would take the post with that in mind. Keeping up to date and playing the lottery are in some ways negative things to do. I believe he is trying to encourage us to focus our thoughts on more positive things. At least that's what I took from it. Chill out Steve. I don’t think Mr Brownson is trying to have a go at people who suffer depression.

I read the post thinking he was just trying to be funny and scarcastically give people a bit of advice about being a bit more positive. The guy is a life coach so I would take the post with that in mind.

Keeping up to date and playing the lottery are in some ways negative things to do. I believe he is trying to encourage us to focus our thoughts on more positive things. At least that’s what I took from it.

]]> By: Steve http://www.stevenaitchison.co.uk/blog/2008/02/27/12-great-ways-to-be-miserable/comment-page-1/#comment-165065 Steve Sat, 06 Dec 2008 18:39:35 +0000 http://www.stevenaitchison.co.uk/blog/2008/02/27/12-great-ways-to-be-miserable/#comment-165065 You are an idiot. Speaking as one who suffers from severe depression, how do you know this is how I want to be?? I would absolutely love to wake up every morning feeling good and happy. But apparently you think I somehow enjoy being depressed, enjoy having a crippling mental illness. How dare you say I enjoy it when you've never been in my shoes? .... You talked about some negative characteristics that probably exist in the population. I absolutely do not believe that people who exhibit these characteristics do so because they want to bring themselves down. Most likely they realize they are taking part in negative habits, but use them to find distractions from the pain of everyday life. When my depression gets to me, I find the best thing is to occupy my mind with anything but the misery, as im sure most depression sufferers have realized. When a person is being psychologically crushed, they will gladly take any activity which takes their mind off the pain, even if it is a negative habit or waste of time, such as watching TV or writing to forums :P Again, I believe most people who are "miserable" are trying to help themselves, not dig themselves in deeper because they "feel happier when they are miserable". With the example of people who work jobs they hate, did it occur to you that these people might not have a choise about what job they have? Most people who work jobs they hate do it because they can not find any other work, and it is the only way to feed their families. Not because they want to be unhappy, as you theorise. In summary, I find it offensive that you pass judgement on people when you could never understand what it is like to be them, and I believe your cause-effect logic is incorrect. You are an idiot. Speaking as one who suffers from severe depression, how do you know this is how I want to be?? I would absolutely love to wake up every morning feeling good and happy. But apparently you think I somehow enjoy being depressed, enjoy having a crippling mental illness. How dare you say I enjoy it when you’ve never been in my shoes? …. You talked about some negative characteristics that probably exist in the population. I absolutely do not believe that people who exhibit these characteristics do so because they want to bring themselves down. Most likely they realize they are taking part in negative habits, but use them to find distractions from the pain of everyday life. When my depression gets to me, I find the best thing is to occupy my mind with anything but the misery, as im sure most depression sufferers have realized. When a person is being psychologically crushed, they will gladly take any activity which takes their mind off the pain, even if it is a negative habit or waste of time, such as watching TV or writing to forums :P Again, I believe most people who are “miserable” are trying to help themselves, not dig themselves in deeper because they “feel happier when they are miserable”. With the example of people who work jobs they hate, did it occur to you that these people might not have a choise about what job they have? Most people who work jobs they hate do it because they can not find any other work, and it is the only way to feed their families. Not because they want to be unhappy, as you theorise. In summary, I find it offensive that you pass judgement on people when you could never understand what it is like to be them, and I believe your cause-effect logic is incorrect.

]]> By: Irish shop http://www.stevenaitchison.co.uk/blog/2008/02/27/12-great-ways-to-be-miserable/comment-page-1/#comment-164692 Irish shop Sat, 29 Nov 2008 19:28:56 +0000 http://www.stevenaitchison.co.uk/blog/2008/02/27/12-great-ways-to-be-miserable/#comment-164692 Excellent read ;) You have a very amusing way of writing and those things are so true! Excellent read ;)

You have a very amusing way of writing and those things are so true!

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