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Change your life forever – interview yourself

There are times in our life when we start to question ourselves. We question our life, our loves, our dislikes, our health, we question everything. This is great and benefits us tremendously if we do it correctly and are honest with ourselves. Sometimes our thoughts and questions can become unfocused and we lose track of what we were questioning and go back to the old routine.

Here is a technique that you can employ to keep your thinking and questioning on track and gain a lot of insight into the workings of your own mind.

Interview yourself

This technique is quite powerful for getting to know your thinking style and to get to know the real you. There is one fundamental rule to this and that is to be completely honest with yourself. If you are not an honest thinking person then it will not work at all. So get into an honest mode before starting this exercise.

Getting into honest mode

Ask yourself a few questions, ones that could be considered a matter of opinion but deep down you know the answer.

Are you overweight?

Do you spend too much time watching TV?

Do you spend too much time on the computer?

Do you work too much?

Do you spend enough time with your family?

These questions should prime you for your interview and get you into an honest way of thinking. If you are not being honest you will feel it straight away, if you persist in being dishonest stop the interview. Try again another time when you are ready.

The interview

The interview itself will depend on what you would like to change in your life. You are not going to ask the same questions if you are looking to change to a new career as opposed to asking yourself if you are unhealthy and overweight.

Starting the interview

Go through the basics

What is your name?
What is your date of birth?
What is your address?
Are you married?
Do you have children?

This will gear you up and prime you for the interview itself.

Now, you have to look at the problem or the area of your life you would like to change. I will use an example here and go through it so you know the process?

David’s change of career

My example is for someone called David who would like to change his career but is afraid of the consequences and doesn’t really believe he will do it but likes to court the idea of a change?

So the following questions might be asked?

What is your current job?
What do you like about your job? (Remember to be honest and think of everything you can)
What don’t you like about your job?
If there was one thing you could change about your job what would it be?

At this stage you should have a fairly good idea and a list of your likes and dislikes of the job. Go over the notes you have written and try and single out the cause of your current unrest in your job.

When you have identified a possible cause ask yourself questions on the back of the answer. For example David might have realised that he actually likes the job but does not like the boss he has.

So he might ask:

What do you like about your boss?
What don’t you like about your boss?
If you could say one think to your boss what would it be? (No swearing, conduct yourself in a professional manner here!!!!!)

David might have found a whole host of reasons to leave his job and hardly any for staying. It would then be time to move on and go in the direction of:

What career would you like?
Do you have the skills?
Do you have the determination to go for further education?
Could you support yourself?
How could you support yourself?

And so on it goes until your questions have been answered and you have a hones set of answers. This should give you a good idea of the problem, what you might do about it, what actions you can take to change, and setting a plan in motion to change.

All problems

The interview technique can be used with any problem in your life.

When you are doing this make sure you are alone, comfortable and will have no distractions for half an hour or so, preferably an hour as this will give you time for the post interview analysis.

Let me know if you try this technique and how you get on with it. Could it be improved upon, let me know.

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Comment by windy on 29 June 2007:

Very useful, excellent information..

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Comment by The Personal Development Blog on 29 June 2007:

This was a refreshing article. Lots of good ideas.
Thanks.

Comment by Goal Setting College on 29 June 2007:

A lot times we tend to look outside of us for answers to the issues that we’re facing though the answers can be found inside us all this while. It’s not the issues that cause our agony or anguish but it’s our reactions to them that’s the real culprit. Guess the interview method will put this into perspective, if applied aptly.

Cheers, Ellesse…

Comment by karen on 1 July 2007:

Well said

Yes, interviewing yourself first is the first step to acknowledge areas where we are not so good and still willing to change because we want to take 100% responsibility in our life

I think your post makes a great complement to my post on taking 100% responsibility. It is all about taking a hard look at ourselve instead of blaming some other people, some bad luck for the current results:-
http://secretofunlimitedprosperity.com/47/9-secret-steps-to-life-transformation-take-back-your-full-responsibility/

Cheers, Karen

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Comment by Dale on 21 July 2007:

Very good starting point towards the highway to personal change. It is very similar to an initial discovery session when first meeting with a new client. I think to help increase the intensity of this technique would be to, in Davids case for example, put his answers to paper regarding the question-”what one thing would you like to say to your boss?” It is based on a technique called ‘Lettering Go’ write no holds barred what you really think and would like to say to someone safe in the knowledge they will never see it and then destroy it once you have read it out loud in private. It works on the premise that the brain can not differentiate between reality and the vividly imagined. It will appear to your brain that you have actually said the things you have longed to say and be a complete weight off your mind. You may then find a new level of tolerance towards your boss and your job may seem more tolerable than before. You never know until you give it a go! You may want to check out my website more2me.co.uk

Comment by nate on 23 July 2007:

Most people don’t try to change there life style because of the fear of not succeeding you will never learn any of life lessons if you don’t fail at anyting if life. So my suggestion to you is be like Nike and just do it.www.wealthandfreedompackage.com

Comment by ArrireedixJap on 23 October 2007:

A man is trying a very unusual way to propose to his girlfriend. He wants people to forward an email to as many people as possible and he hopes that it will eventually get to his girlfriend. Details here: http://www.proposal-to-mary.com

Here is what he wants people to send by email:

You could help me a lot to spread my proposal to Mary – it is important that it is distributed as widely as possible so that it eventually reaches Mary. If you would like to support my proposal to Mary, please send the following text by email to a lot of people

————- SNIP (email text end) —————

WHEN YOU RECEIVE THIS, PLEASE HELP TO DISTRIBUTE IT TO OTHER PEOPLE!

For a long time I have tried to find a special way to propose marriage to my girlfriend Mary, whom I know for five years now. I wanted it very special, romantic and memorable, something our grandchildren would still remember.

And here is my idea: I will send out the proposal to Mary to 50 complete strangers, people I don’t know - hoping, that they will forward my proposal to as many people as possible, which in turn forward it etc. And some day, I hope, it will reach Mary, after it has travelled a very long way. I know, it will take a long time and I am quite nervous…

From the poem MY Mary will know immediately that the proposal is for her.

I have created a homepage ( http://www.proposal-to-mary.com ) where you can find the current status of my quest. You can use the homepage to check if the proposal has already reached Mary (in that case it is not necessary anymore to forward the mail).

Once the proposal has reached Mary, I will put a note on these pages. Also I will publish there how many people have read the proposal so that everybody can see how far it has spread and that it is getting closer to Mary.

And of course you will find there what I am waiting for most: Mary’s answer! I can’t tell you, how nervous I am… Will she accept my proposal? Will she like the unusual way how she got it, through the hands of thousands of messengers all over the world?

Please cross your fingers for me! And please - help me by sending the mail to as many people as possible, to help it spread, so that it eventually reaches Mary.

And here is my proposal:

Mary, please forgive me, as you know English is not my native language. And I am not a poet. But I mean it from my heart.

My angel,

Five years ago, I will always remember the day When fate made us meet, blissful Alaskan moments in May Earth spun around us and a journey began Love, warmth, happiness, enough the years to span.

The longer it lasts the more grows our bond And with 80 still - of you I will be fond Whatever happens, I will stay at your side Through good and bad, together let us stride

No second with you was ever wasted
You are the sweetest I have ever tasted
We have spent so many years - why not a life?
Mary, will you marry me - and become my wife?

Mary, if you have received that and have recognized me, then give me a sign so that I can continue with the romantic part of my proposal…

————- SNIP (email text end) —————

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