Comments on: How to be more focused http://www.stevenaitchison.co.uk/blog/2007/05/12/how-to-be-more-focussed/#utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=how-to-be-more-focussed to change your life Fri, 20 Nov 2009 23:10:38 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.6 hourly 1 By: Avinash Kumar http://www.stevenaitchison.co.uk/blog/2007/05/12/how-to-be-more-focussed/comment-page-1/#comment-200738 Avinash Kumar Fri, 18 Sep 2009 00:10:33 +0000 http://www.stevenaitchison.co.uk/blog/2007/05/12/how-to-be-more-focussed/#comment-200738 Hi. Very informative...i practice meditation to manage stress and and get rid of disturbing thoughts". I work during night shifts, which is why i'm not at a state where mind functions normally which i "feel".I would like to know, can having more focus control on surroundings would help me getting more control on my mind? Thanks, AR Hi.
Very informative…i practice meditation to manage stress and and get rid of disturbing thoughts”. I work during night shifts, which is why i’m not at a state where mind functions normally which i “feel”.I would like to know, can having more focus control on surroundings would help me getting more control on my mind?

Thanks,
AR

]]> By: Mugen http://www.stevenaitchison.co.uk/blog/2007/05/12/how-to-be-more-focussed/comment-page-1/#comment-177076 Mugen Sun, 08 Mar 2009 15:50:20 +0000 http://www.stevenaitchison.co.uk/blog/2007/05/12/how-to-be-more-focussed/#comment-177076 Hey, I never thought I would meet people who feel so similar to mine. My goodness! This life's such a torture. Even I feel I cannot focus. Although things werent like this when I was young. Currently I'm 25 and already sick of life. Anyway here are certain facts that I gather: 1)One thing that is common to all of us is that we think we are intelligent (yeah maybe we are) 2)We are having work that has a lot of stress or that gave us a lot of stress before (I'm working in an IT company). If point no.2 is true then probably the matter is solved. What we are all feeling are the after-effects of stress (or maybe we are still in the stress). I really dont know how to deal with it. But currently I'm trying out a guided meditation audio. 3)One more thing that might be common in all of us is that we dont do much physical work. I think that might also be wearing us down. Lets make it a point to get up and jump 30 times every morning/or jog for exactly 2 min by watch after getting up. It would be great if we could do 3-4 push-ups too daily. Please tell me if these points are common to you all. Thanks, Mugen Hey,

I never thought I would meet people who feel so similar to mine. My goodness! This life’s such a torture. Even I feel I cannot focus. Although things werent like this when I was young. Currently I’m 25 and already sick of life.

Anyway here are certain facts that I gather:
1)One thing that is common to all of us is that we think we are intelligent (yeah maybe we are)
2)We are having work that has a lot of stress or that gave us a lot of stress before (I’m working in an IT company).

If point no.2 is true then probably the matter is solved. What we are all feeling are the after-effects of stress (or maybe we are still in the stress). I really dont know how to deal with it. But currently I’m trying out a guided meditation audio.

3)One more thing that might be common in all of us is that we dont do much physical work. I think that might also be wearing us down. Lets make it a point to get up and jump 30 times every morning/or jog for exactly 2 min by watch after getting up. It would be great if we could do 3-4 push-ups too daily.

Please tell me if these points are common to you all.
Thanks,
Mugen

]]> By: solardrift http://www.stevenaitchison.co.uk/blog/2007/05/12/how-to-be-more-focussed/comment-page-1/#comment-167592 solardrift Mon, 29 Dec 2008 04:48:32 +0000 http://www.stevenaitchison.co.uk/blog/2007/05/12/how-to-be-more-focussed/#comment-167592 I can relate to all of these responses so far. I am healthy, and well, make friends easily (though quickly find faults with them) and am generally positive (I think) and active(ish). I believe that I'm intelligent. I take an active interest in the world around me, in causes, in trivia. I love to travel, and have hobbies like photography that I enjoy doing... BUT,in terms of work, there is a problem. Anything that I see as a 'job' becomes impossible to do. I want to do something that I love doing, but I either can't find that thing, or else I'm just not good enough at it. I too am full of initial enthusiasm and ideas, but don't see things through and lose focus. I am sort of lazy too... am happy doing absolutely nothing sometimes... and then full of boundless energy at other times. I too, feel as though I could achieve great things, if only I could start something and actually stick to it. My mind is all over the place - driven hither and thither by emotions, fantasies, day-dreaming... I have an active imagination, and can be somewhat creative. But, inside me there is a person who wants to achieve, but who lacks a go-getting attitude. Am I am afraid of failure? Don't I have enough focus or concentration? What is it about the way that my brain works that prevents me form just 'doing'- organizing things out, and doing them one-by-one, ticking off the boxes in my to-do list...? Instead, I somehow fail... I get confused by the enormity of the task, I get frustrated and impatient... In my head I want it all done NOW, but fail to be able to do the steps necessary to get there. It makes me feel very despondent and I feel like a failure. So then I stop and do nothing again. I have been like this my whole life. I have many qualifications, and should, I believe, be very successful. But, I'm not. Is this 'mental stumbling block' a result of 'bad mental processes'? Is it something that can be cured? Do I have something like ADD? Can anyone help me? I can relate to all of these responses so far.

I am healthy, and well, make friends easily (though quickly find faults with them) and am generally positive (I think) and active(ish). I believe that I’m intelligent. I take an active interest in the world around me, in causes, in trivia. I love to travel, and have hobbies like photography that I enjoy doing…

BUT,in terms of work, there is a problem.

Anything that I see as a ‘job’ becomes impossible to do.

I want to do something that I love doing, but I either can’t find that thing, or else I’m just not good enough at it.

I too am full of initial enthusiasm and ideas, but don’t see things through and lose focus. I am sort of lazy too… am happy doing absolutely nothing sometimes… and then full of boundless energy at other times. I too, feel as though I could achieve great things, if only I could start something and actually stick to it. My mind is all over the place – driven hither and thither by emotions, fantasies, day-dreaming…

I have an active imagination, and can be somewhat creative. But, inside me there is a person who wants to achieve, but who lacks a go-getting attitude. Am I am afraid of failure? Don’t I have enough focus or concentration? What is it about the way that my brain works that prevents me form just ‘doing’- organizing things out, and doing them one-by-one, ticking off the boxes in my to-do list…?

Instead, I somehow fail… I get confused by the enormity of the task, I get frustrated and impatient… In my head I want it all done NOW, but fail to be able to do the steps necessary to get there. It makes me feel very despondent and I feel like a failure. So then I stop and do nothing again.

I have been like this my whole life. I have many qualifications, and should, I believe, be very successful. But, I’m not. Is this ‘mental stumbling block’ a result of ‘bad mental processes’? Is it something that can be cured? Do I have something like ADD? Can anyone help me?

]]> By: Jonathan http://www.stevenaitchison.co.uk/blog/2007/05/12/how-to-be-more-focussed/comment-page-1/#comment-164823 Jonathan Tue, 02 Dec 2008 14:45:41 +0000 http://www.stevenaitchison.co.uk/blog/2007/05/12/how-to-be-more-focussed/#comment-164823 Hi Maral, I feel your pain! No need for me to describe all the reasons why I'm here on this site, cause they're the same as yours. So obviously I can't give you any advice, but I will send you a "cyber-hug" and a prayer for all of us to be gentle with ourselves until we can finally cross the burning sands and do the backstroke at the oasis! Hi Maral, I feel your pain! No need for me to describe all the reasons why I’m here on this site, cause they’re the same as yours. So obviously I can’t give you any advice, but I will send you a “cyber-hug” and a prayer for all of us to be gentle with ourselves until we can finally cross the burning sands and do the backstroke at the oasis!

]]> By: tony http://www.stevenaitchison.co.uk/blog/2007/05/12/how-to-be-more-focussed/comment-page-1/#comment-163003 tony Tue, 04 Nov 2008 15:27:58 +0000 http://www.stevenaitchison.co.uk/blog/2007/05/12/how-to-be-more-focussed/#comment-163003 Hi All, conners, I felt very happy reading your post I thought I was the only guy like that. I was in much worse place 2 years ago. I even didn't have the to do list and was doing everything what others told me. Then I decided to change it was very hard really very very hard but I didn't give up and it worked, now I have a to do list (wish list) and very long one:)) Now I'm also struggling to do it. Reading your post I understood that the only way to do it is to do it. I guess it's much easier than changing the life. Steve thanks for this article. I'm just tired it was really very hard to turn the life for 180 degree. I was hoping that the rest will come by itself but it doesn't seem to be true. I have the things to be done and I'm doing everything to avoid it:) that's how find this article (and a lot others) and I liked it. I feel like I'm missing some motivation and I could find something in your article. Good idea to do things step by step not all together:) Thanks. I'm sure it will work. I just wanted to share my thoughts:) tony Hi All,

conners, I felt very happy reading your post I thought I was the only guy like that. I was in much worse place 2 years ago. I even didn’t have the to do list and was doing everything what others told me. Then I decided to change it was very hard really very very hard but I didn’t give up and it worked, now I have a to do list (wish list) and very long one:)) Now I’m also struggling to do it. Reading your post I understood that the only way to do it is to do it. I guess it’s much easier than changing the life.

Steve thanks for this article. I’m just tired it was really very hard to turn the life for 180 degree. I was hoping that the rest will come by itself but it doesn’t seem to be true. I have the things to be done and I’m doing everything to avoid it:) that’s how find this article (and a lot others) and I liked it.
I feel like I’m missing some motivation and I could find something in your article. Good idea to do things step by step not all together:)

Thanks. I’m sure it will work.

I just wanted to share my thoughts:)

tony

]]> By: Maral http://www.stevenaitchison.co.uk/blog/2007/05/12/how-to-be-more-focussed/comment-page-1/#comment-159979 Maral Thu, 09 Oct 2008 05:39:13 +0000 http://www.stevenaitchison.co.uk/blog/2007/05/12/how-to-be-more-focussed/#comment-159979 Helllo, I have this "unable to focus" nature. People always tell me Im talented, but I think more about what I could have done, instead of doing something. Little non-iportant problems become a huge major thing in my head, and I feed them with my feelings, and they become bigger and bigger, I feel I could turn insane.I was rying to meditate, and do yoga. Im uncomfortable wherever I go. Advices like, get more concentrated and calm down, do not help.=( Im trying, im doing my best.IT never works.I do it one time, and later I just come back to my familiar routine. I cannot organize things out, is it because of my laziness, or something else, but for some people it's so easy to get everything done quicky and without any feeling, put in that , for me its a torture!!! and most of the time, Im messing everyhting up. ohh.. Please, help me if you can. cheers Maral Helllo, I have this “unable to focus” nature.
People always tell me Im talented, but I think more about what I could have done, instead of doing something.
Little non-iportant problems become a huge major thing in my head, and I feed them with my feelings, and they become bigger and bigger, I feel I could turn insane.I was rying to meditate, and do yoga.
Im uncomfortable wherever I go.
Advices like, get more concentrated and calm down, do not help.=(
Im trying, im doing my best.IT never works.I do it one time, and later I just come back to my familiar routine.
I cannot organize things out, is it because of my laziness, or something else, but for some people it’s so easy to get everything done quicky and without any feeling, put in that
, for me its a torture!!!
and most of the time, Im messing everyhting up.

ohh..
Please, help me if you can.

cheers

Maral

]]> By: Steven Aitchison http://www.stevenaitchison.co.uk/blog/2007/05/12/how-to-be-more-focussed/comment-page-1/#comment-154361 Steven Aitchison Sun, 17 Aug 2008 19:03:53 +0000 http://www.stevenaitchison.co.uk/blog/2007/05/12/how-to-be-more-focussed/#comment-154361 Hi Ruth I would appreciate if you would contact me using the contact form and we can work through this via email. You may see this as a problem but it can be fixed if you are willing to work at it and i would love to help you. Regards Steve Hi Ruth

I would appreciate if you would contact me using the contact form and we can work through this via email. You may see this as a problem but it can be fixed if you are willing to work at it and i would love to help you.

Regards

Steve

]]> By: l.jane http://www.stevenaitchison.co.uk/blog/2007/05/12/how-to-be-more-focussed/comment-page-1/#comment-154350 l.jane Sun, 17 Aug 2008 16:17:29 +0000 http://www.stevenaitchison.co.uk/blog/2007/05/12/how-to-be-more-focussed/#comment-154350 Dear Ruth, You did not mention your age but I am 65. I came across this site as our son is now 40 and I thought I would look for similar letters to a grown child and that is how your letter came up. I was struck about your profile as it is almost identical to mine. I can only suggest that you be tested for A.D.D..I was about 15 years ago and have been medicated nad it makes my brain just "feel better" if that makes sense. My husband of 42 years has noticed a change. I have had to work on my patience as well. Askk God to show youu very clearly what gifts he has given you and act on them. Read a Proverb every day (love how there's one for every day of the month!) Also know that I have found myself to be impulsive and tend to make choices too quickly and do things too impulsively as well. Back to the Bible, in the old Testament the book of Jeremiah 33:3 it says"CALL TO ME AND I WILL ANSWER YOU AND TELL YOU GREAT AND UNSEARCHABLE THINGS YOU DO NOT KNOW'. wELL, THAT IS very COMFORTING FOR ME AS IT GIVES ME HOPE AND THE DIRECTION i NEED. Ruth, I will pray for you, your wonderful spirit and that God will guide you onto himself so that you may experience his peace. It is also very important that you eat the right foods and at the right times. Three meals a day. Let me know how you are doing. Your new Friend, L.Jane Dear Ruth,
You did not mention your age but I am 65. I came across this site as our son is now 40 and I thought I would look for similar letters to a grown child and that is how your letter came up. I was struck about your profile as it is almost identical to mine. I can only suggest that you be tested for A.D.D..I was about 15 years ago and have been medicated nad it makes my brain just “feel better” if that makes sense. My husband of 42 years has noticed a change. I have had to work on my patience as well. Askk God to show youu very clearly what gifts he has given you and act on them. Read a Proverb every day (love how there’s one for every day of the month!) Also know that I have found myself to be impulsive and tend to make choices too quickly and do things too impulsively as well. Back to the Bible, in the old Testament the book of Jeremiah 33:3 it says”CALL TO ME AND I WILL ANSWER YOU AND TELL YOU GREAT AND UNSEARCHABLE THINGS YOU DO NOT KNOW’. wELL, THAT IS very COMFORTING FOR ME AS IT GIVES ME HOPE AND THE DIRECTION i NEED. Ruth, I will pray for you, your wonderful spirit and that God will guide you onto himself so that you may experience his peace. It is also very important that you eat the right foods and at the right times. Three meals a day. Let me know how you are doing. Your new Friend, L.Jane

]]> By: Ruth Day http://www.stevenaitchison.co.uk/blog/2007/05/12/how-to-be-more-focussed/comment-page-1/#comment-154253 Ruth Day Sat, 16 Aug 2008 12:52:11 +0000 http://www.stevenaitchison.co.uk/blog/2007/05/12/how-to-be-more-focussed/#comment-154253 I never feel completely relaxed, I am not lazy but start many jobs and do not finish them. I am full of enthusiasm but get fed up too quickly. I do not have any money or health worries. I make friends very easily but after a while find them irratating. I feel that I have to be the one that keeps the conversation rolling and ideas going in a conversation, I cannot stand awkward silences.Please can you help me? Ruth I never feel completely relaxed, I am not lazy but start many jobs and do not finish them. I am full of enthusiasm but get fed up too quickly. I do not have any money or health worries. I make friends very easily but after a while find them irratating. I feel that I have to be the one that keeps the conversation rolling and ideas going in a conversation, I cannot stand awkward silences.Please can you help me?
Ruth

]]> By: Steve Harold - Hypnosis Cds http://www.stevenaitchison.co.uk/blog/2007/05/12/how-to-be-more-focussed/comment-page-1/#comment-119009 Steve Harold - Hypnosis Cds Thu, 13 Mar 2008 11:17:04 +0000 http://www.stevenaitchison.co.uk/blog/2007/05/12/how-to-be-more-focussed/#comment-119009 I think that's a great article. Often to make tips like these work you need to take them and own them. In other words make them yours by finding ways of adapting them to your life. Even partially adding some of the points here will help if you persist with them. I think that’s a great article. Often to make tips like these work you need to take them and own them. In other words make them yours by finding ways of adapting them to your life. Even partially adding some of the points here will help if you persist with them.

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