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Connecting to your inner core

March 22nd, 2007 • Related • Filed Under

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Sometimes I feel like my life gets covered over by unimportant
things and I lose my inner core. Its hard to explain but things like work, trivial
arguments, trivial tasks, bills, social events etc all paint over what’s
really important to me. My life and my inner core is my family and somewhere
along the way the fact that they are my inner core gets forgotten. It’s
like pouring syrup over me which is hard to get out of.

It’s very easy to get covered in this syrup and a lot of people don’t
recognise it until its too late.

Ask yourself the question:

What is my inner core? (What do you most cherish in the world and want to
spend more time doing or being with?)

It could be your family
It might be a passion you have
It might be spending time with yourself
It could be anything

If you vaguely understand what I mean here you might be sitting
saying ‘yes,
I know what you mean’. I have felt like this for a few weeks and
thought about ways to clean the syrup from my core and here is what I have
come up with.

Take a day off work. Simple and yet the hardest
thing to do for some people. I am in the middle of a project just now
which I get a lot of phone calls from clients etc but I took the day off. I
left my phone in the office and stayed at home. The kids were
at school and my wife had a day of Uni so we went shopping together and then
for a coffee at Borders, it was brilliant. When I went in the next
day, nothing had changed, no world crisis, no emergencies just a few enquiries. It’s
a sad fact but we can all be replaced at work quite easily, we might be missed
but we can be replaced. Remember this if you are doing more than
your fair share.
Make a point to spend time with your passion everyday. By
this I mean real time. If your passion is your wife, sit down and
talk, not over dinner or in bed at night, talk and let each other know
how much they mean to you.
Spend time with the kids. They grow up so quickly
it’s frightening.
Get the little things out of the way. Little things
we have to do niggle us and are in the back of our minds. Get
them done and out of the way so you can concentrate on your inner core and
what’s important.
Get the housework done. When we work in a clean
environment if frees our mind energy to concentrate on more important things.
Do less of what takes you away from you. If you
work lots of hours every day work 1 less hour per day and spend it with your
inner core.

Deep down you know what your inner core is and you
know where it is not. By
this I mean you know what you want in life and you know the things that steal
the energy which keeps you away from what you want. Think about this
often and figure out small ways which leads you back to your inner core. The
small things done every day will soon build up to be the main thing in your
life.

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Comment by Helen on 23 March 2007:

I pity those who work hard and don’t have the time to take a day off. Even during holidays, there are some who works. Maybe they value every penny the company is giving them and needs to repay them back in full. All I can say is take day off. It could help revitilize your system from all those stressful work.

Comment by Tisha on 23 March 2007:

Indeed, we must stop and reflect! Very often we realize that our priorities are not what they should be and that it is time to rearrange them.

Comment by Mafaldinha on 23 March 2007:

well said, it’s important not to lose ourselves in this crazy world…

Comment by Shira on 23 March 2007:

Oh, I very much agree with you. I find my self getting lost in the details of life and sometimes loose sight of what brings me authentic happiness.

Lately, I have tried to begin each morning by taking a few minute to reconnect with what is most important in my life (my husband,doggy, my family) and make a point of acknowledging them in different ways. By beginning my morning like this I set a positive precedence for my day.

Comment by Steven Aitchison on 24 March 2007:

Thanks for your comments, I am glad we recognise the importance of this and how much it can affect our lives if we don’t.

Comment by Alex Shalman on 25 March 2007:

Hey Steven,

I like it. If you aren’t making time for your passion, than what exactly are you living for?

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Comment by Marie on 26 March 2007:

Totally agree with you. Sometimes I have the feeling of losing it. All of us definitely needs a time out from work and other things that keeps us busy. It’s important that we spend some time on things we hold dear.

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Comment by Dylan on 30 March 2007:

I completely agree.

Sometimes we hide our inner core…believing if we connect to it deeply we’ll illuminate the darker parts, and I think that’s why some people create a life where they “can’t” take a day off, or reconnect to themselves.

It can be scary to connect with painful thoughts (mistaken) about one’s self, no? And if we get quiet for too long, they’ll make some noise…

Comment by GP on 31 March 2007:

greetings .. no ‘accident’ I found this… With end of month billing, other bookwork, a full house of guests here at the inn.. it’s a gig. And now i’m going to go out and re-connect with my horse, and the national forest when I meet a buddy for an endurance training ride.

Thanx for the reminder and the tips
GP in Montana

Comment by sohbet on 19 November 2007:

thxx

Comment by Tiffany on 17 March 2009:

greetings .. no ‘accident’ I found this… With end of month billing, other bookwork, a full house of guests here at the inn.. it’s a gig. And now i’m going to go out and re-connect with my horse, and the national forest when I meet a buddy for an endurance training ride.

Thanx for the reminder and the tips