Author: Steven Aitchison (399 Articles)
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Rewrite your past to create your future
Ever thought your past dictates the state of your life just now? Why not rewrite
your past to create your future. There are theories galore stating that
what has happened in your past can have a huge impact on the way you are living
your life just now. This has become part of the human psyche and it is
an embedded belief in a lot of people. Well why not relax this belief
and while we’re at it let’s change the past.
When you really break it down your past is a collection of memories you hold
in your head.
Read that statement again ‘your
past is a collection of memories you hold in your head’. That might sound ridiculous
but it’s true. What might sound even more ridiculous is that
some theories state that you cannot prove your past existed, but we won’t
go there just now that’s for another post.
Last week someone asked me what I had for dinner the previous night (who knows
why he asked me, I didn’t even question that at the time), anyway I thought
back to the previous night. In my mind I pictured myself and my family
sitting down and eating together at the table, I pictured us talking about
school, work and the usual chit chat. I then remembered tucking into
pasta bolognaise. So I replied to the person asking that I’d had pasta
bolognaise. I went about my business as usual and then remembered I had
been working late the previous night, and I hadn’t sat down with my whole
family it was just my wife I had sat down to dinner with, the kids had already
had their dinner. And I didn’t have pasta bolognaise, I’d
had rice and chicken. So what! You might say, but I’d effectively
re-written a part of my past, albeit momentarily, and we do this everyday without
realising it.
Our memories are not always accurate; in fact I’d say they are inaccurate
most of the time. We are changing everyday, our mood changes, our perception
of life changes from day to day, our interactions with people change from day
to day, our belief system changes all the time, our knowledge and expectations
change.
The psychologist Frederick Bartlett called this ‘Schemata’. ‘According
to Bartlett, memories are organized within the historical and cultural frameworks
of the individual, and the process of remembering involves the retrieval of
information which has been unknowingly altered in order that it is compatible
with pre-existing knowledge.’ Neurophilosophy.wordpress.com
I remember in my early twenties life was totally down and miserable, I felt
sorry for myself, I thought people didn’t like me, I thought the world
was against me. Now, when I was feeling like that I was still collecting
memories along the way, bleak memories, depressive memories when in actual
fact it was my perception of the world at the time but it wasn’t necessarily
a true representation of life. However, I have collected the memories
from that part of my life and carried it on into the future. I have since
gone back and revisited those days and managed to change the overall feeling
of the time. When I have gone back it is not specific memories, rather
it is a cloud of feeling that I am changing. However it works with specific
memories as well.
Don’t deny your past
What I am advocating is changing the feeling of your past, not deny the events
that happened. By changing the feelings of the past you will be altering
your current and future life. Use this as another tool to get yourself
to feel positive about your world. If you don’t feel positive about
your world just now and haven’t done for a long time it might take a
long time to change that view. Why not make the changes now instead of
waiting on the changes to come.
Quick exercise
- Think back to when you last felt angry with someone
- Go back into the memory and start to change various aspects of it. Change
the colours in the scene, change the way people are interacting with you,
look at the person you are angry with and study them and try and gauge
their feelings. - Freeze frame the scene.
- Study the person again and mentally ask them questions, how are they feeling?
Did something happen to them to make them feel this way? Ask yourself how
you are feeling, was there something that made you feel this way. - Now replay the scene again and notice the changes in yourself and the way
you feel about the situation, are you still as angry?
This is a simplified way of changing a memory, but it can
be that easy sometimes. Over
time if you do this long enough and practice it you will start to feel a shift,
mentally and possibly physically, depending on how much you have been working
on your memories.
Another tool for life changes?
I believe this method could be extremely useful in other areas of our lives
such as during ill health. I believe that our memories and thoughts affect
the cells in the body. If we are ill at any stage in our lives would
it be possible to change the illness by remembering a time when we were well
and projecting it into the future?
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Interesting post, but to me it’s pretty scary. Memory is a concept of Ego. It’s the ego that recalls memories and it’s the ego being used to change/shift memories. This, in turn, develops a stronger hold of ego over the mind.
Ego is a concept of mind, it is not mind. There is a higher level of conciousness waiting to be used in reality. Living in memory/ego is denying the present moment.
The present moment is the only moment there is, to spend time away from that, devloping something that will keep you away from the experience of life, as it happens (instead of constant reflection to other times), is a very scary path to walk.
Peace,
–Wade
my past at least with some one whom i loved very much is not at all nice. how can i change things like physical and mental abuse which went on for many years. I want to forget that past and lead a new life , that is the main reason why i subscribed to this blog and reading all the posts on improving life
shobita
I found your theory interesting and helpful. I am working on dealing with my past at this time because mostly my life, it seems, has been associated with pain, which has contributed to me having depression. But now my life is going good. I have an amazing husband, friends, and a purpose for living, but I still struggle often with not living in the past.
Shobita
The great thing is that you are now out of the relationship, you are now OUT! That’s a positive event in itself.
As for forgetting about the past, don’t forget about your past. Acknowledge your past as something that happened but is not happening now. Concentrate on events that you are doing now that will have a positive influence on your life. The more positive events that happen the less events from the past will seem to influence your life.
You have everything in your life you will ever need to make your life a lot better. My words or anybody else’s words cannot change your life, but if they lead you on another path that would be great. You might consider counselling which can be a great aid to your recovery.
Everybody in the world and that includes YOU deserves to be happy and you will be when you decide to acknowledge the past then let go of it. Imagine yourself putting your worst memories in a metal box and then tipping the metal box into the sea and watch it slowly drift down to the bottom of the ocean, wave to the box and then look up to the sky and smile.
I hope it gets better for you and if you would like further advice please do not hesitate to contact me.
Ashley
I am so glad that you have a great partner, this always helps in times of feeling depressed.
I think i would give the same advice as I gave Shobita (please see my previous reply to Shobita).
I would also look at these questions:
What is it about you that attracted your amazing husband and your amazing friends?
What triggers the bouts of depression?
what is there to be happy about for your future?
Please get back to me if you would like any more advice.
“Imagine yourself putting your worst memories in a metal box and then tipping the metal box into the sea and watch it slowly drift down to the bottom of the ocean, wave to the box and then look up to the sky and smile.”
i like this and am going to try it.
thank you so much. will be in touch