Author: Steven Aitchison (399 Articles)
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What to do when you lose your mojo
Have you ever had that feeling in your life when nothing is working? You’re
feeling down, people you thought were on your side are suddenly against you?
You feel the whole world is against you? Unless you are a manic depressive
hopefully this only happens once in a blue moon. What do you do when
this happens?
This exercise is not for people who are depressive and are
on medication for their depression. This type of depression should be
treated professionally and over a long period of time.
This
is for those times when we have lost it for a few days, our confidence has
gone. You
know you will go back to your old self soon but it’s shit feeling that
way you do just now. This
exercise should help.
Depending on how deep the mojo losing has gone there are steps you can take
to get the mojo back.
It all starts at the start
- Recognise when the mojo losing feeling started.
Usually there is a trigger event that starts the snowball rolling and the
downward spiral of feelings. An example trigger would be falling out
with your partner, loss of a job, a failed exam something big but not huge.
- Go back to the last known good configuration.
This is a computer term meaning that if something goes wrong with a program,
revert to a time when it was working okay. It involves going back, in
your mind, to the last time you felt good about yourself and the world. This
involves visualising yourself in the time when you felt good. Use your
mind to the full, get the feelings back, and get the smell, touch, taste, and
sounds back. If you can do this a few times a day for the next few days
you will see a dramatic difference in the way you feel.
- Thank yourself
This is important. Feeling down for a few days is not a good feeling,
however it reminds us how good our life really is. When we are in the
black cloud of feeling down the world is not a good place, when the cloud disappears
the sunshine is back. This is the time to thank yourself, thank yourself
for your life (it is you who is creating it).
When I do exercises like this it further strengthens my belief that we create,
in part, the world around us. If we can control our state of mind we
can, effectively, control the world.
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Good post Steven, simple and to the point.
Losing your ‘mojo’ can be such a drag.
There is a method that advises that every morning before you get out of bed and every evening before you sleep, just list 10 things in your life that you are greatful for and one thing that you would like to achieve and the steps you have taken so far to achieve that one goal. It really at the end of the day is the little things that matter
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Great advice. One addition is to do something for someone else.
well, life is very interesting, and sometimes it seems that there is no point doing anything, and sometimes it does…. if we want to create the situation that is good for us we need to influence on our inner strength and outside factors… the right way exist and must be found…
i find that when mine and my girlfriends relationship is going down hill so does the rest of my life so im hoping that these exercises work
I’d like to share some more ideas.
1. Notice disguised opportunities.
Lee Iacocca once said, “We are all faced with a series of great
opportunities – brilliantly disguised as insoluble problems.” When
I trained in customer service skills, I used to tell front line
staff that customer complaints were not to be feared, but rather to
be welcomed with open arms. They were being handed a wonderful
gift. Here was their opportunity to shine. Here was their
opportunity to show the customer just how much we did care for
their needs. Most customers are neutral, but a disgruntled one,
once turned around, is usually an activist for the company.
2. Get ye to the countryside!
A research study measured subjects’ cognitive deficits and
psychological states after walking in a city environment compared
to a group who walked in an arboretum. Those who had walked in the
city scored considerably less on a test of working memory and
attention, and were also in a worse mood than the other group.
3. Accentuate the positive.
I love Jim Carey movies. I recently watched, “Yes Man.” Here was a
man living an uneventful life until he began responding positively
to every request. Of course this got him into some unexpected and
very funny situations; however there is a great lesson here. For
every event, look for and embrace its positive features.
4. Stay connected.
Maintain and foster your network of friends and family, even if it
is a bit of a chore. Isolating yourself just deepens the hole
you’re in.
5. Stay active.
This is probably one of the simplest methods available. Walk,
dance, swim, or do some gardening. Trick your brain into thinking
that everything is just fine.
6. Nurture your body.
Eat well, drink well. At some time or other we all turn to comfort
food – self-medicating to make us feel better with too much of
things like pasta, pop, alcohol – but, though it feels fine in the
short term, it’s destructive over time. Keep in mind that
dehydration is a prime cause of fuzzy thinking and convoluted
decision making. For good hydration, choose water over pop and
alcohol, and, for abrupt and dynamic change, switch much of your
diet to fresh fruit and vegetables, their fiber helping regulate
your system’s pace of absorption.
7. Get some sunlight.
During the short days of winter, either get outside for twenty
minutes a day, or buy a full-spectrum light bulb. Exposure to this
light on a daily basis will encourage your body to promote the
generation of the mood-raising vitamin D.
8. Nurture your mind.
Lots of research has shown that what we read, listen to, or watch
will affect our consciousness. Our conscious thoughts influence our
emotions, behaviors, and even our health. None of us can afford the
luxury of a negative thought. Saturate your mind with positive
thoughts. Avoid the news and listen to relaxing music. Spend as
much time out of doors as you can. Develop a habit of laughing and
smiling often. If you want to take it to another level, consider
taking a personal development course or hiring a life coach.
9. Live in the present.
Dwelling on the past or worrying about the future generates and
sustains anxiety. Focusing on the present creates a sense of
grounding and wellbeing.
10. Be grateful.
Instead of comparing yourself to others, or grieving over what you
once had, be grateful for what you do have, whether it’s health,
family, skills, abilities, friends, or a place to live. Many people
keep a daily gratitude journal. This keeps their good fortune at
top of mind.
The last thing I want you to be aware of is that life is full of
cycles. Sometimes we may find ourselves in a natural low, and it
takes only a few negative events to make our life appear very
gloomy indeed. Be assertive. Give some of these approaches a trial
run. I am sure you will notice a difference within days.
what wonderful ideas i felt a lot better after reading them and will try to put them into practice thanks so much for such positive energy
This post just made my day…Thank you. So many of us, including me, are so caught up with our daily tasks that we tend to forget who we really are. Again, thank you.