Change your life; part 2 – Claim back your
energy

Lots of us are giving our energy away needlessly every day. It
is no wonder that a lot of us feel drained, in the morning and at night when
we have finished working. We are giving our energy away to people and
projects we shouldn’t be. We can all save our energy and distribute it
more to ourselves and the things we truly love in our lives.

What do I mean by this?

Think of your typical day it could go something like this;

wake up with an alarm clock at 7am, drag yourself out of bed, get the kids
wakened for school, brush teeth, shower, get kids wakened for school, make
breakfast, shout at kids to get up for school, put make up on (if you’re a
woman, or a guy whatever flicks your switch), tell the kids to stop arguing,
get packed lunches ready, shout at kids to get ready, get them into the car,
kiss your partner goodbye, go into the office, read your e-mail, think of all
the things you’ve got to do that day, talk on the telephone getting harassed
sometimes, you get worried as time is running out and you haven’t finished
your work, go home at 5pm or stay on, feeling even more harassed as you know
your partner might be upset, you eventually go home, speak to the kids and
your partner, make the dinner, clean the dishes, kick back relax go to bed,
and do it all over again the next day.

This is a typical scenario and I’ve only scratched the surface.

We drain ourselves every day by talking to people who steal our energy. We
drain our energy by waking up in the middle of a dream (we are more lethargic
if we have woken up during REM sleep). We drain our energy shouting at
our kids, pick your battles well. We drain our energy fighting with loved
ones, when you argue and fight with someone and it upsets you afterward you
are giving someone else your power, you need this power so keep it to yourself.

Here are 7 tips for keeping your energy

1. Ditch the alarm clock

If you waken each morning with an alarm clock try and stop this habit. It
might sound a little scary at first but it is worth it. Whilst we are
sleeping we go through stages of sleep. In the morning we are often drifting
in and out of REM sleep. If are awakened abruptly from REM sleep it is
difficult to recover from the grogginess we feel. The alarm clock often
wakes us up.

By ditching the alarm clock you wake up naturally and your brain will automatically
adjust to your sleeping cycle and prompt you when to wake up. Sound a
bit far fetched. I have been doing it for over 12 years and I have honestly
never used an alarm clock in all that time. If I need to get up a little
earlier than normal I remind myself what time I need to get up. What does
happen is that I sometimes wakes up a few hours before the stated time and
then 1 hour before it and then half an hour before it, but I still get a good
rest as my brain is taking care of the sleep.

Don’t go cold turkey; set the alarm clock for 10 minutes later than normal. Before
going to sleep tells yourself what time you want to get up.

2. Stop shouting at the kids

This is a tough one for some of us. I still shout but only when I’ve
reached saturation point. Children learn by example and I started to notice
that my boys were using the same technique as me when they wanted to get their
point across or they were upset. This is clearly not good for you or for
your children.

Now if my kids do something they shouldn’t have we will sit them down make
them know we are angry or upset and punish them accordingly (by this I mean
take away something they like e.g. the TV, computer or something else).

When you shout when you are upset you are literally throwing your energy to
that person and the bad vibes it creates can last a long time.

3. Fighting with loved ones

One of my clients was really upset a few weeks ago and couldn’t stop crying. I
asked him what the problem was and he said he had had a fight with his girlfriend
and they had split up and he felt as if he was having a breakdown. I spoke
with him for over an hour and one he had calmed down I said did he realise
he was giving his power to another person. He was letting someone else
control how he thought about his life therefore how he felt and how he acted. This
was a simple statement but a powerful one, my client got it. He was able
to control himself and to a degree his thoughts and able to reclaim some of
his power.

Every day we lose some of our energy by giving credence to what other people
think about us. Be yourself always and you will lose less energy.

4. The silly things

How many times have you got angry or upset waiting in a traffic jam, a queue
for a bus, a queue in the shops, losing your keys, your wallet. If we
stop to think about the things we get upset about we would realise how silly
it was. I lost a sheet of paper this morning for an insurance pack I
had to send back. After 5 minutes of looking for it and not finding it
I was starting to get angry. I immediately recognised this and just
let it pass. I still couldn’t find it and thought ‘what’s
the worst that can happen’. I wrote a quick note to the insurance
company and explained I had lost the paper they had sent but I was sure they
would have a copy of it themselves.

It’s the little things that can upset us the most.

5. People you work with

They are just that, they are people you work with. They are not your
friends, they are not your relatives they are people you work with. Their
opinion of you doesn’t matter therefore do not let them upset you. If
you need to say something to them do it immediately and don’t let a small
comment from them simmer inside you. If you do this you will gain a lot
of your power back and sometimes a lot of respect.

6. Stand up for yourself.

The quickest way to gain control of your energy and gain more power is to
always stand up for yourself.

When I was younger I was bullied and later on in life I had massive problems
with confrontation, I just couldn’t handle it at all. I realised
what an effect this was having on me and over time I realised I didn’t
really stand up for myself. An incident happened when I was around 17
and I stood up for myself, scary as it was, and I was empowered. I gained
my self respect back and gained respect from others.

I always stand up for myself in the right situations, choose your battles
well. Don’t think everyone wants a fight with you; you can still
have a laugh with someone if they are making fun of you as long as it is with
your consent i.e. they’re laughing with you.

7. What’s the worst that can happen?

This is my wife and I favourite phrase ‘What’s the worst that
can happen’. If you find yourself panicking about things, anything,
ask yourself ‘what’s the worst that can happen’ and most
times it’s not as bad as you think it is. When you’re panicking
you’re giving your energy away to something non existent. When
you worry about things you’re giving your energy away to something non
existent. Change your thoughts, gain back your energy and change your
life.

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